4 motivi per cui prendersi una pausa equivale alla fine di una relazione

Lately, taking a break from a relationship has become a common practice for couples. This way, technically you haven’t ended your relationship but you’re not a couple anymore either.

But, is it really possible to just “take a break”? Let’s hear what the experts have to say about the subject.

Lontano dagli occhi lontano dal cuore

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “out of sight, out of mind”. Well, let me tell you that this kind of saying actually is more than just an empty phrase.

Naturalmente, ci sono situazioni in cui l'assenza fa crescere il cuore.

Tuttavia, c'è una differenza tra la scelta di stare lontano dalla persona amata e l'obbligo di vivere in queste condizioni.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that there is a huge possibility that you and your partner will disinnamorarsi con l'altro durante questo periodo.

Sono rare le coppie che usano questo periodo per riconsiderare la loro relazione e riflettere. In realtà, la maggior parte finisce per scoprire quanto sia straordinaria la propria vita da single.

Not only that: the time apart will give you both a chance to meet someone else. You don’t have to actually start a new relationship but you will certainly act like you’re single.

If nothing else, you’ll probably end up flirting with another person. Of course, this increases the risk of this person fascinating you and erasing your boyfriend from your mind.

Problemi post-rottura in paradiso

Anche se voi e il vostro partner sopravvivete alla rottura e decidete di ricominciare, sarebbe troppo ottimistico aspettarsi la perfezione nella vostra relazione.

In fact, it is likely that you’ll have to face numerous post-break troubles.

Whether you like it or not, there will be some inevitable trust issues you won’t be able to escape.

What did you both do while you weren’t together? How can you trust that you both remained faithful during this break?

On the other hand, if you agreed to act like you were single while you weren’t together, don’t think that you’ll be able to ignore this fact once you reconcile.

You’ll want to know who your partner dated. Did he sleep with other girls? Most importantly: did he start feeling something for them?

If the answer is yes, you’ll wonder whether the love he feels for you is even real. If you spent all of your time apart mancando di luiCome ha potuto dimenticarsi di te con tanta facilità?

Running away from the problem doesn’t get you anywhere

Let’s be honest here: when you’re taking a break in your relationship, you’re actually running away from each other.

You and your boyfriend clearly don’t have the capacity to resolve your problems otherwise you would stay together until you find a solution.

Instead, you shut your eyes, bury your issues, and expect them to magically go away after some time. I’m sorry – but how exactly do you expect this to work?

So che pensate che il tempo vi porterà una certa chiarezza. Pensate che vi darà la possibilità di cambiare prospettiva.

La vedete come un'opportunità per calmare le passioni. Un'opportunità per riflettere e prendere la decisione giusta senza che le emozioni si intromettano.

However, the bottom line is that these are all empty excuses. What you’re actually doing is running away from the problem and hoping it won’t chase you any further.

Well, I hate to be the one to break your heart but this approach won’t get you anywhere. Your issues and dilemmas will still be there afterward and they can’t be solved without healthy communication.

It’s an empty excuse

In fin dei conti, le rotture delle relazioni spesso non sono altro che scuse. Di solito, la persona che chiede una pausa ha già capito tutto.

Se è il vostro ragazzo a iniziare questo cambiamento, nella maggior parte dei casi significa che ha solo paura di dirvi la verità.

Maybe he is afraid of how you’ll react and is scared of crushing your heart, so he’s masking his real intentions by asking for a break.

On the other hand, maybe he is the one who can’t accept that the end is near. It is possible that it’s easier for him to suggest taking a break than actually rottura con voi.

Tuttavia, tutto questo è una questione di terminologia e di teoria. Ci sono alcune differenze tra le interpretazioni, ma i significati sono gli stessi.