Come capire se una donna ha più partner: 8 segnali d'allarme

La monogamia non è l'unica opzione. Stiamo accettando ed esplorando nuove cose. Avere più partner romantici e relazioni sessuali allo stesso tempo va benissimo.

As long as we’re transparent and open about our life choices.

Let’s first get rid of this misconception: poliamore non è uguale a barare. Ma a volte le persone si confondono. Per paura di essere rifiutate o giudicate, scelgono di non mostrare tutto di sé.

If you’re freshly dating and a girl you’ve been seeing makes you feel like something is not quite alright, this is the article for you. Come si fa a capire se una donna ha più partner?

We’ll go through the most common red flags that show that a woman you’ve been dating is keeping her options open.

Come capire se una donna ha più partner? Da questi 8 segni

So, you’ve met this amazing girl on Tinder and things are going pretty great between the two of you. But, why do you feel like there’s something more to it than what she shows?

Le piaci, but at the same time, you feel like you’re not the only one. These are 8 common warning signs she is seeing other people or is open to that.

1. She’s still on Tinder.

Don’t expect her to delete the app the moment she agrees to go on a primo appuntamento con voi. But, if you’ve been seeing each other for quite some time (I would say a month or so), then it gets pretty weird if she is still active on Tinder.

Forse ha intenzione di lasciarti. Oppure vuole te, ma allo stesso tempo vuole continuare a frequentare altre persone.

2. You don’t see her often enough.

When people like each other, it’s normal that they want to spend time together. In the beginning, you’re trying to keep your cool, but as time goes by, you start to develop feelings. Un appuntamento una volta alla settimana non è più sufficiente.

To be precise, it’s not enough if you are in a monogamous relationship. If you have multiple sex partners, then it’s understandable. All partners get a date per week.

But seriously, if she doesn’t show a desire to see you more often than that, even after a month or two, then it’s time to start asking some questions.

3. She doesn’t introduce you to her circle.

Come si fa a capire se una donna ha più partner?

You’ve been seeing each other for a while now, but you only met her best friend. It’s not that she doesn’t have more friends… she is actually really friendly and knows a lot of people.

Ma non si incontra mai nessuno di loro. She doesn’t introduce you to her other friends, let alone family members or co-workers.

I’m not saying she should introduce a new guy after the terzo appuntamento. But, if it has been more than two months and you have no idea who her close people are… well, chances are they have no clue about you either.

And, that can mean you’re not the only one she’s going out with.

4. Non parla mai del futuro.

Quando una relazione sentimentale si sta sviluppando nella giusta direzione, i partner sollevano l'argomento della loro piani futuri di solito entro i primi sei mesi di frequentazione.

Se si inizia catturare sentimenti forti for the person and everything is going well, of course, you start picturing your future together. It doesn’t mean that you will talk about a wedding and kids’ names after one month of dating.

Ma, a meno che non siate sedicenni e ancora al liceo, inizierete a parlare di impegno a lungo termine dopo un paio di mesi.

Se non menziona mai il futuro e non parla mai di possibili progetti per voi due, potrebbe benissimo significare che anche altre persone sono nell'equazione. Non è sicura del futuro della vostra relazione perché ha in mente anche altre persone.

5. Dice di voler fare le cose con calma.

This one is a red flag that we often tend to overlook. She said she wanted to take it slow. You know, let’s see where this thing is going.

It’s okay if you don’t want to rush into anything. However, if after a couple of months, she still doesn’t want to commit and wants to “take it slow”, it’s about time to get things clear.

Le relazioni poliamorose richiedono alle persone di essere coraggiose e oneste, il che non è facile. Se si dice apertamente di voler frequentare più partner, si può essere rifiutati da tutte le persone con cui si cerca di uscire. That’s why people oftentimes choose to bend the truth and go with excuses like “let’s see where this is going”.

It’s enough to escape the commitment, and it gives you the space to try with multiple people at the same time without actually being open about it because if you are not in a relazione impegnata, she doesn’t have to tell you everything about her life, right?

6. Controlla altri uomini.

Quando si è soli con lei, tutto va benissimo. Ma quando si esce e si incontrano altre persone, lei dà un'impressione diversa.

When other people are around, especially men, she seems like she’s not focused on you at all. You catch her looking at other men, and oftentimes, flirting with them.

She says she’s just being friendly, but you see that something is happening.

Se la vostra ragazza ha sempre l'occhio stralunato, è un importante segnale di avvertimento che potrebbe essere una traditrice.

7. La vostra vita sessuale non è come vorreste.

When you start dating someone new, it’s hard to take your eyes and hands off of them. Your desiderio sessuale è al suo apice.

You are attracted to her and you are in the mood for sex all the time, but she doesn’t reciprocate your energy. Your sexual activity is not as intense as you would want it to be. It’s even weirder because she claimed she loved sex.

Well, maybe she really does love sex. She loves it so much that she chooses to have more sexual partners, and that’s why she can’t focus on you only.

Più partner, più orgasmi. Più orgasmi, vita più felice. Chi può biasimarla?

8. È riservata.

I’m not saying she should give you her phone password, but if she’s overly protective of her phone and hides it from you, it’s an indicator that something’s happening behind your back.

Il suo telefono è sempre silenzioso e le notifiche sono disattivate? If she’s dating other people, she probably receives text messages all the time, and doesn’t want you to notice it.

Another red flag is hiding social media accounts. If she doesn’t add you on her social media after weeks of dating, it probably means she doesn’t want you to know all the details about her. She is hiding something.

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Quanti partner sono troppi per una ragazza?

There’s no such thing as too many partners. As long as a person is happy and doesn’t harm anyone else, they can do whatever they fancy.

If you are worried about your girlfriend’s past and want to know about the sexual experiences she has had before you, then I must tell you to stop.

Giudicare una persona in base al numero di partner sessuali che ha avuto non è una cosa ragionevole da fare.

Se siete preoccupati per cose come le malattie sessualmente trasmissibili, parlatene apertamente con lei. If you don’t trust here vi mette a disagio, allora non è la persona giusta per voi.

Parole finali

Come si fa a capire se una donna ha più partner?

Beh, puoi sempre chiederlo a lei.

If you’re freshly dating, and you have the feeling that the girl you’re seeing is dating other people, basta chiederlo a lei. Since you two are not committed, she’ll probably feel free to tell you what’s going on the first time you ask her.

If it has been a couple of months and you don’t trust her, then ask yourself why do you want to be with someone you don’t trust?

Certo, è possibile cercare segnali e bandiere rossema il mio consiglio è di salvare la vostra salute mentale e di lasciare la situazione.