10 cose che fai per evirare il tuo uomo

Ogni ragazzo vuole sentirsi un supereroe. Anche se crescono e smettono di idolatrare i personaggi dei cartoni animati, vogliono comunque sentirsi potenti e coraggiosi proprio come loro.

In that sense, they’re pretty simple creatures. Vogliono sentire che le donne si fidano di loro e hanno bisogno di loro per risolvere i loro problemi.

Mi hanno sempre insegnato a essere una donna indipendente e forte e a voler fare tutto da sola. Credevo semplicemente di essere la migliore e che nessuno potesse gestire le cose come me. Agendo in questo modo Non mi sono mai resa conto di aver fatto sentire il mio uomo piccolo e insignificante. 

After a long and honest conversation with him, he finally explained everything women do that emasculates men. Here’s what he had to say.

1. “We want respect, don’t treat us like kids!”

If men value something, it must be respect. Listen, I know men are not perfect, but neither are we. Everyone makes mistakes and unless it’s something major we should find a way to communicate it with respect.

Avoid nagging him in a rude way or talking down to him like he’s stupid. I believe all women have motherly instincts and that’s why we sometimes have the urge to treat even grown-up men like kids.

However, stop yourself for a moment and just think before you say something that might belittle him. You wouldn’t want him to treat you that way, right?

2. “Have a little trust in our capabilities!”

I had a problem with this one for a long time. I just couldn’t trust anyone to do anything as good as me. Whatever he did, I felt the need to intertwine and do it myself. You can only imagine how much it annoyed him.

Always trust your man knows what he’s doing. They rarely take something upon themselves if they’re not sure how to do it. So, let him use his skills, and then you can help him if he says he needs you.

You wouldn’t want people to doubt your capabilities, but always encourage you and believe in you. So remember that next time you try to correct him or stop him from doing something by himself.

3. “Your way of doing things is not the only right way!”

Speaking of trust in your man’s capabilities, maybe you have your specific way of folding clothes or filling up the dishwasher, but that doesn’t mean his way of doing it is bad!

So che preferireste togliergli il grembiule e sbatterlo fuori dalla cucina quando vedete come prepara quel piatto, ma.., maybe he’ll do it better than you would. I always thought my man didn’t know how to cook so I would correct him and tell him to do it my way.

Quando finalmente gli ho lasciato fare quello che voleva, sono rimasto sorpreso dalle sue capacità. Diamine, ho persino imparato un paio di cose da lui!

4. ”Bossing us around just turns us off.”

You might be the boss at your company, but leave your work and leadership skills outside of your relationship. I know we sometimes fight over who’s the main player in our relationship but calm down and just let him lead you for once.

You’d be surprised how much easier life is when you relax and lasciate che sia il vostro uomo a prendere l'iniziativa. Mi piaceva essere il capo, finché non ho capito che probabilmente ne aveva più bisogno lui di me. 

Now, I wouldn’t change the princess treatment I have for anything! Once you try it out, you’ll never go back to bossing him around.

5. “You know guys have feelings too, right?”

This might be a shocker but yeah, men are humans too! Maybe they don’t cry watching Il Titanic con voi, ma credetemi, anche loro sono esseri emotivi. 

It’s already hard enough that society pressures them to “man up” so he doesn’t need you to be hard on him as well. Scegliere con cura le parole and speak with care just like you’d want him to do.

Inoltre, don’t judge him for showing his emotions. If he feels he can be vulnerable around you, he’ll trust you even more and that builds a strong foundation for a healthy relationship.

6. “Comparing to others is the quickest way to bring us down.”

Bragging about your colleague’s income or praising your friend’s husband for how he acts might seem harmless to you. However, it does more damage than you realize. Especially when you do it often.

Although men are competitive by nature, they don’t like being constantly compared to others. It just makes them think they’re not good enough.

Insomma, mettetevi nei loro panni. Come vi sentireste se lui parlasse costantemente di come le altre donne cucinano o si vestono e fanno il loro lavoro? Non proprio bene, suppongo. Provate invece a concentrarvi sui suoi lati positivi e a fargli i complimenti di tanto in tanto. 

7. “If we don’t ask for help or advice, just leave it be.”

A volte hanno bisogno di affrontare le sfide da soli. Potrebbero non riuscirci sempre perfettamente, ma comunque anche solo un tentativo significa molto per loro.

Noi donne spesso pensiamo di sapere tutto e di avere tutte le risposte, ma per favore, sedetevi e rilassatevi. Lasciate che se ne occupi lui! Men are not afraid to ask for help if they really need it, so don’t worry. He’ll definitely call you if he gets stuck!

Abbiate un po' di fiducia nelle sue capacità e provare a fare il tifo per lui invece di offrire il proprio aiuto when it’s not needed.

8. “No need to call someone else if we can do it.”

You have a leaky faucet and your first thought is to call a plumber. Hold on for a second. Take your phone and call your partner, he’s the only handyman you need!

A volte sminuiamo le loro capacità, ma they’re capable of more than we actually think. Mi sono reso conto che provano una sensazione speciale di soddisfazione quando riescono a riparare o a fare qualcosa da soli.

You’ll save your money and he’ll feel masculine and happy he helped you. Isn’t that better for everyone?

9. “Don’t make us jealous by flirting with other men!”

This one just pisses them off! I mean, it’s pretty clear why it would make them feel bad. Flirting with others is not fine in any case and can’t be justified.

Concentratevi sul vostro uomo e lodatelo davanti agli altri. Questo aumenterà la sua fiducia e lo farà sentire apprezzato. 

Gli uomini vogliono essere desiderati, vogliono sapere che i vostri occhi sono riservati solo a loro. If you give your attention to others, they’ll just be insecure and think you’re not satisfied with what you already have.

10. “Chill out with controlling everything we do!”

You’re not his mom so don’t act like it. Everyone appreciates their freedom and I confini sani sono ciò di cui tutti abbiamo bisogno indipendentemente dal rapporto che abbiamo con qualcuno.

Forse vuole passare l'intero fine settimana a guardare lo sport o a fare un viaggio con gli amici. Lasciatelo fare! Potete anche approfittare di questa occasione per fare quello che volete e dedicare un po' di tempo a voi stessi.