Ecco come rimettere insieme i pezzi del vostro cuore senza di lui

When someone you love more than anything in this world vanishes from your life, you feel like you’ll never recover. You feel like you want to die because your existence has no meaning anymore.

È esattamente così che vi siete sentiti quando il vostro ex si è allontanato da voi. Era l'uomo con cui volevate invecchiare, con cui progettavate il vostro futuro e che pensavate fosse la vostra persona per sempre.

When he left you hanging, all of your dreams and hopes collapsed. You couldn’t believe what was happening to you or if you’d ever manage to get over this guy. The worst part is that you still don’t have a clue how you’ll continue living your life without him.

Quest'uomo ti ha spezzato il cuore, ma ha fatto qualcosa di ancora peggiore...—ti ha ridotto in mille pezzi. Da quando ti ha abbandonato, ti senti incompleta e come se mancasse una parte di te.

You feel like you’ll never recover and as if your wounded heart will never heal. Well, let me tell you it will.

I know this sounds like mission impossible right now but trust me on this one; before you know it, you’ll find a way to put the pieces of your broken heart back together. Before you know it, you will imparare a vivere senza quest'uomo by your side and you will find a way to repair all the damage he’s caused.

Nevertheless, this won’t happen overnight. Glueing yourself back together after a devastating heartbreak and going back to being your old self is a process which takes time, patience and devotion.

However, your path to recovery can’t start unless you embrace your pain, without allowing it to define you. Per ricostruire se stessi, è necessario lasciarsi andare completamente.

Dovete capire che avete vissuto un doloroso trauma emotivo e che reprimere i propri sentimenti non farà altro che peggiorare le cose. Quindi, invece di farlo, permettetevi di elaborare il lutto.

No, you are not weak for feeling like this. You are just a human being who’s been through a lot and who needs time to heal.

Don’t act like you don’t miss this guy because missing someone who was a huge part of your life is completely natural. Don’t act like he never existed and don’t lie to yourself that you are completely over him because pretending that you don’t feel something won’t make it disappear.

Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that it is OK to contact him in any way because that would be desperate. Miss him as much as you want but don’t even think of going back to him.

After the initial grieving phase is over, it is time to keep your mind busy so it doesn’t have the energy to think about your heartbreak. Time to focus all of your efforts on yourself and on making yourself happy.

This is the time in which you need to remind yourself about the things you enjoy doing that are not connected to your asshole ex. To do everything you’ve wanted to do for a while but never had a chance to, to completely embrace your single life and to start enjoying the fact that you no longer have to compromise on anything.

I won’t lie to you—you’ll still suffer over this man. But with each day that passes, your suffering will slowly disappear.

With each day, without even being aware of it, you’ll think of him less and less and he’ll keep on fading in your memory more and more. With each day that comes, you’ll be picking up your broken self step by step, without even knowing it.

And then one morning, you’ll see that he isn’t the first thought that comes to your mind. You’ll see that you haven’t cried over this man for ages and that feeling like you are dying from the inside is gone.

Proprio così—you’ll see everything more clearly. You’ll stop romanticizing your past with this man and you’ll stop idealizing him. For the first time ever, you’ll see this guy for who he really is. You’ll see that him leaving you was actually a blessing and the best thing that could have happened to you. Most importantly, you’ll see that you’ve managed to non amarlo.