Questa volta, siate voi a lasciar andare per primi
For as long as you can remember, you’ve faced pretty much the same scenario over and over again. In all of your previous relationships, you were colui che ha amato di più.
The one who fought with her last breath, who made more sacrifices, and the one who put in more effort, even when the other person acted like he couldn’t care less about the future of the relationship.
Consequently, you’re always the one who ends up left behind, abandoned, and with the broken pieces of the relationship, while your ex is already long gone.
This is not a question of ego. After all, it’s completely irrelevant who calls it quits.
Ciò che conta è la differenza tra le conseguenze che la rottura lascia su di voi e sul vostro partner. Lui, essendo il primo a lasciarsi andare alla vostra storia d'amore, ha maggiori possibilità di riprendersi.
D'altra parte, è più difficile guarire, visto che siete stati voi a resistere fino all'ultimo giorno. Non avete accettato che la fine fosse vicina e avete ignorato tutti i segnali di pericolo.
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?
It’s not that you’re a girl who begs for love, even where there is no love to be found. It’s not that you chase guys who don’t want you.
Questo continua a succedere perché avete una cattiva abitudine: si aggrappano a cose che sono destinato a fallire.
Avete difficoltà ad ammettere a voi stessi che una parte del vostro viaggio, quella che ha a che fare con un uomo specifico, è giunta al termine.
You hold on to people who don’t deserve your effort anymore. You stay in their lives even though deep down you’re well aware that parting ways is a much better option.
In pratica, avete un problema a lasciarvi andare in tempo. Rifiutate di abbandonare coloro che pensate abbiano bisogno del vostro aiuto, anche se questo significa mettere in gioco la vostra salute emotiva e mentale.
Also, you never lose hope. Don’t get me wrong: being optimistic is awesome but sometimes, you just have to look reality straight in the eyes and face the truth, as painful as it might be.
A volte, non c'è più nulla da fare e l'unica opzione che avete è quella di levare l'ancora. Sometimes, as much as you try, things won’t get better and there is nothing to be saved.
So, I’m begging you to do things differently this time. For a change, be the one to let go first.
The moment you see that your relationship isn’t heading in the right direction, turn around. Don’t be the only one to fight for something that is already lost.
This time, don’t wait for the other person to stop loving you to safely exit the relationship. Don’t give them an advantage and don’t let them do the dirty work.
Stop holding on to a relationship that doesn’t make you happy just because you’re scared of escaping your comfort zone.
Stop staying with a man who doesn’t deserve a presence in your life just because you think he needs you.
Don’t let your conscience prevent you from making the right call. Don’t feel guilty for choosing yourself over someone else because this is exactly what you should do.
Ricorda: lasciarsi andare doesn’t mean that you failed. It doesn’t mean that you wasted years of your life with someone just because it didn’t work out in the end.
Abandoning a relationship that doesn’t make you happy is an act of self-care and self-love. It’s a sign that you’re mature enough to know that saving yourself has to be your priority.
Giving up doesn’t equal defeat. It just means that for the first time ever, you’re playing your cards right and making the wise move.
Just because you decided it’s time to stop fighting, it doesn’t mean that you’re weak and it certainly doesn’t make you a coward.
Instead, it’s a sign of your power – a sign that you’re strong enough to go against your emotions and to do the right thing.
Inoltre, si tenga presente che letting go isn’t the same as running away – it’s just retreating on time.
