4 frasi che gli uomini tossici dicono per farti sentire in trappola
When a third party sees a victim staying next to her toxic abuser for years, despite everything he’s putting her through, the first question which logically arises is: “Why?”
Perché una persona sana di mente dovrebbe rimanere accanto a qualcuno che sta trasformando la sua vita in un inferno per un altro minuto?
Well, what most people don’t know is that toxic men use a set of strategies to keep their victims next to them as long as possible.
Parte di queste strategie sono di solito alcune frasi comuni che usano per farvi sentire intrappolati nella relazione con loro.
“I will change”
La prima e più comune bugia di tutti uomini tossici say is that they will change. When you’re involved with a guy like this and when you start seeing his destructive behavior, naturally you want to leave.
However, he doesn’t allow you to get rid of him so easily. In fact, he traps you to remain in this harmful relationship by giving you numerous false promises.
Secondo lui, questa è l'ultima volta che vi tratta male. A quanto pare, si è finalmente accorto dei suoi errori ed è pronto a fare la differenza.
Pensate che l'amore che prova per voi sia così forte che è pronto a cambiare strada grazie a voi. In sostanza, volete credergli, visto che ci tenete così tanto a lui.
You’re more than happy to give him another chance. Nevertheless, over time, you end up giving him endless second chances.
Nonostante le vostre aspettative, il vostro uomo tossico non cambia mai. La cosa peggiore è che non ha mai pianificato sinceramente di farlo.
Invece, tutto questo faceva parte di un piano più grande. Una parte del suo piano per tenerti in giro il più a lungo possibile.
Yes, after a while, you realize what he’s been doing. However, that is once you’re already buried in his manipulations so deeply that you don’t see a way out.
“I’d be lost without you”
Alcune donne hanno un bisogno inconscio di salvare tutti around them. If you’re one of them, you must think of yourself as this superwoman.
You assume that you have the capacity to open a man’s heart to love and the ability to turn his life upside down.
Beh, lascia che ti dica una cosa: gli uomini tossici lo percepiscono. Scelgono le loro vittime con saggezza e quest'uomo sapeva che lei era un'empatica che poteva intrappolare con la sua triste storia di vita.
That’s exactly why he keeps you next to him by telling you that he would be completely lost without you.
Whenever he says something like this, he is emotionally blackmailing you. You think that you can’t leave him because he needs you.
According to this sentence, you’re the only ray of light in this man’s existence. If you abandon him, he will be surrounded by darkness and his life will be ruined.
“You need me”
D'altra parte, esiste anche un diverso tipo di persone tossiche che si concentrano sul fatto che voi avete bisogno di loro e non il contrario.
When you’re trapped with this kind of a man, he does everything in his power to convince you that you could never make it without him.
He will put his maximum effort into making you financially and emotionally dependent on him. This guy brainwashes you into believing that you don’t have anyone besides him.
Even though he doesn’t care about you at all, he will persuade you into thinking that no man besides him would love you the way he does.
After some time, this toxic man makes you believe that you’re not meant to be loved. So you end up staying with him because you think you have nowhere else to go.
“You’re too sensitive”
A list of common phrases narcissists use goes something like this: “You’re overreacting,” “You’re too sensitive,” “What I did wasn’t a big deal”.
Dicendovi queste frasi, il vostro partner tossico sta minimizzando il vostro dolore. Sta cercando di ribaltare la situazione a suo favore.
According to him, he is not the one to blame for the hell he’s putting you through. He is not the abuser and you’re not his victim—you’re just overly emotional and take everything too personal.
This is actually one of the forms of gaslighting. While you’re going through all of this, you start to question your own sanity.
You can’t help but wonder whether he is really right. Are you really exaggerating?
