10 modi dannosi in cui un uomo tossico ti fa sentire

È naturale È normale che vi sentiate feriti dopo una rottura. È del tutto normale piangere, sentirsi male e soffrire per la perdita del partner romantico.

However, it is completely different when you’re involved with someone toxic. In fact, this type of man makes you feel more than one damaging emotion and here are 10 of them.

Cuore spezzato

La prima cosa che ogni uomo tossico che lasci entrare nella tua vita ti farà è spezzare il cuore e lasciare cicatrici indelebili.

He will shatter it with every move he makes to the point where you’ll think it is utterly impossible to glue it back together.

Yes, every break-up probably leaves you heartbroken. However, the difference between this man and all the other guys you were ever involved with is that a toxic man won’t only break your heart once you two part ways—he will be doing it throughout your entire relationship.

I’m not saying that you two won’t have any happy moments but I can assure you that sadly, pain will prevail.

He will hurt you in ways you couldn’t have imagined and he will end up crushing your vulnerable heart into a million pieces.

Emotivamente svuotato

Dopo un po' di tempo trascorso accanto a una persona tossica, ci si stanca.

Nevertheless, I’m not talking about physical tiredness here only, even though it is also one of the side effects which you will likely have.

I’m talking about that feeling when you’re emotionally drained and worn out. About losing the will to live and not having the strength to keep on going.

Un uomo tossico ti lascia depressed and feeling like you can’t get out of bed. He will make you want to give up on everything you set your mind to.

Vedete, un ragazzo come questo, le continue discussioni che provoca e le continue lacrime che vi fa piangere vi sfiniscono al punto che vorreste passare il resto della vostra vita chiusi nella vostra stanza, con una coperta sulla testa.

You feel like you’re too weak to finish your everyday chores, let alone actually do something with your life.

Folle

Sto esagerando? È successo davvero tutto come lo ricordo o mi sto immaginando le cose?

Sono io la pazza? Mi sta prendendo in giro o ho interpretato male tutta la nostra conversazione?

If these are some of the questions you’ve been asking yourself lately, you’re on your way to feeling completely insane.

And that is exactly what this guy wants—manipulating you into thinking that you’re the crazy one and making you doubt your own right mind.

Of course, he won’t accomplish all of this right from the start.

However, after a while spent next to him, you will have a tiny voice in your head, telling you that maybe he is right, after all, and that you’re the one making all of a fuss over nothing.

After some time, you’ll start examining your own memory and view of things.

You’ll start doubting yourself and your own reason.

Stupido

Un'altra cosa che un uomo tossico vi farà sentire è la stupidità.

Besides undermining your intelligence and acting like he is smarter than you and that he always knows better during your relationship, you’ll continue feeling this way even after you break loose from him.

The moment you get out of this toxic romance and the moment you start observing it from a distance, you will be wondering how come you couldn’t have seen some things sooner.

How come you were such a fool who believed in this man’s lies and how could you have thought that he would change?

After going through hell with him, you’ll start questioning all of your choices.

Siete abbastanza maturi per gestire la vostra vita e potete fare affidamento sulle vostre capacità di giudizio?

Non sufficiente

When you’re around a toxic boyfriend, you’re never pretty, smart, beautiful, attractive or interesting enough.

No matter what you do, how hard you try, what big sacrifices you make and how deeply you care for him—nothing you ever do will be good enough.

At first, he tries to ‘improve you’ and ‘for your own good’. His insults are masked by pieces of advice and you don’t notice that he is actually doing his best to humiliate you.

You don’t see how he is constantly treating you like you’re the submissive one.

Come si comporta sempre come se fosse al di sopra di voi e che dovreste considerarvi fortunate se un buon partito come lui posasse gli occhi su di voi.

Once you realize what is going on, it becomes too late. You’re already dealing with loads of insecurities he managed to deeply root inside of you.

Prima di accorgersene, si inizia a mettere in dubbio il proprio valore e a pensare di non essere abbastanza bravi.

After all, you’re doing your best and this man is never pleased so you must be the problem.

Geloso

Quando passate tutta la vostra relazione a confrontarvi con ogni ragazza che passa accanto al vostro ex e soprattutto con le sue ex, è naturale che la vostra gelosia raggiunga l'apice.

When you spend years hearing that all those other girls are better than you and that you could never be like them, it is natural for you to start hating them, without knowing they have nothing to do with the fact that you’re dating a toxic man who is only putting you down with his nasty comments.

When you are being told that you’re replaceable and that you’re nothing special, when you’re cheated on more than once, when every other girl’s looks and qualities have been rubbed in your face, it is natural that your jealousy becomes unhealthy.

When you’re living a hell on earth while watching all of your friends in happy relationships, having the time of their lives, you become envious.

And that is exactly what your toxic partner wants—to turn you into a much worse person than you actually are.

Colpevole

Even though you’re the victim of this story, somehow, your toxic boyfriend managed to turn the tables and make you look like the bad guy here.

Even though he is the one who’s treating you like shit, he succeeds in putting all the blame on you.

Invece di assumersi la responsabilità e di sostenere le sue azioni, è molto più facile per lui accusare voi del fatto che la vostra relazione sta andando a rotoli.

È più facile farvi sentire il colpevole che affrontare la realtà e ammettere a entrambi che è lui l'unico colpevole.

If he’s cheating on you, he did it because you deprived him of sex, because you don’t look the way you used to or because this other woman gave him something you couldn’t.

Either way, the bottom line is that you pushed him into someone else’s arms and he would have never thought of having an affair if you hadn’t caused him to.

Se vi maltratta, lo avete fatto innervosire, lo avete guardato nel modo sbagliato o avete urlato mentre litigavate. E l'elenco continua.

Incapace di amare

Once you’re done with a toxic boyfriend, you’re convinced that you can never love another man the way you loved him.

Pensate che abbia ucciso la vostra capacità di interessarvi a qualcuno del sesso opposto, di far entrare un nuovo ragazzo o di fidarvi ancora di qualcun altro.

Not only that—he makes you believe that all other men are just like him.

Che non ha assolutamente senso cercare qualcuno di meglio, perché ogni singolo fidanzato vi tratterebbe ancora peggio di lui.

Quindi, è molto meglio rimanere nella propria zona di comfort, dove si sa cosa aspettarsi.

After all, at least you know you loved this toxic man once and that is better than being with someone you’re totally indifferent toward.

Non destinato ad essere amato

However, a toxic man won’t only persuade you that you can’t love someone else after him. In fact, he will also do his best to make you believe that no man could ever love you the way he did.

Dopo tutto, chi vorrebbe una donna emotivamente danneggiata al suo fianco? Chi avrebbe la pazienza di aspettare che lei si apra e lo lasci entrare?

Quale uomo sarebbe pronto a curare le sue ferite e a convivere con le sue cicatrici?

Quale uomo sprecherebbe il suo tempo con una donna che ha bisogno di essere riparata e che è così danneggiata?

Besides, if this guy who’s known you for so long claims that you have so many flaws and if he keeps on pointing out your imperfections, what else could this new man see?

If he can’t tolerate you and if he thinks you’re not enough, every guy who comes into your life will surely consider you as not meant to be loved.

Spaventato

Un'altra emozione che tutti i fidanzati tossici risvegliano nelle loro vittime è la paura.

And I’m talking here about irrational, paralyzing fear which doesn’t allow you to function properly.

At first, you’re scared of everything this man is capable of. What will he do to you next?

After that, when you take off your rose-tinted glasses, you’re afraid of leaving him. Do you have what it takes to get by without him?

Once you’re done with him, you’re scared of going back to the real world. Will you make it?

You’re afraid of feeling like this forever. Will you ever heal and move on for real?

And finally, you’re scared of moving on. Will your next experience end up the same way this one did?