I narcisisti non cambiano colore: cambiano solo le loro vittime

Quando amare un narcisista, you never see him for who he really is, even though deep down you’re perfectly aware of his flaws and toxic personality.

Your feelings prevent you from truly accepting that this guy is an evil sociopath who can never give you back the love he’s been getting from you, that he is manipulating you and everyone around him and that he won’t hesitate to hurt you.

Instead, you perceive him as a troubled young boy who needs you to help him, as someone who has the potential of becoming better and as a vulnerable human being who isn’t that bad under the surface.

So, you don’t walk away from him, despite knowing you should and despite everything he’s doing.

You don’t do it because you think you’re the only one who can give him a helping hand and the only one who has the capacity to see underneath the layers of his toxicity.

You don’t run for your life even when you see that he’s started destroying you and even when you get scared that he’ll drag you to the bottom together with him.

You don’t turn your back on this man because for you, that would mean betraying him, abandoning him and leaving him hanging.

However, you have to do something, right? You can’t just sit there and watch his narcissism damage both of you to the point of no repair.

Così vi impegnate a fondo per cercare di curarlo. Dopo tutto, chi potrebbe essere più adatto di voi per questo lavoro?

Cercate di fargli dimenticare le sue vecchie abitudini e di costringerlo a diventare una persona migliore e più sana.

Voi credete in lui e volete solo aiutarlo a guarire.

Well, let me tell you one thing you probably don’t want to hear: You will fail! It doesn’t matter how much you love him or how much you think he loves you back—you will not succeed.

Lasciate che questo sia chiaro e cercate di accettarlo perché è l'unica verità.

You don’t have to believe me but I can assure you that sooner or later, you’ll see everything for yourself and you’ll remember my harsh words.

You see, a narcissist will never become different—at least not under someone else’s influence.

This man needs professional help and you’re not the one who can give it to him.

Sì, potrebbe collaborare in questo momento. Potrebbe comportarsi come se chiedesse la vostra guida, ma è solo una cosa temporanea.

Fidatevi di me quando vi dico che non ha alcuna intenzione di cambiare i suoi veri colori.

In fact, he is thrilled because he sees how much effort you’re putting in with him and that helps him feel important.

Tuttavia, una volta che si sarà stancato dei vostri tentativi di migliorarlo e che si sarà reso conto che lo vedete bene, passerà a qualcun altro.

He will move on to another girl he can fool and play with–to a girl who doesn’t know him like you do and to a girl who will believe his lies and deceptions.

Perché narcissists never change their personality—they just change their victims. 

Inoltre, you’re not the first girl he tried to crush, not the first girl who tried to help him and not the first girl who will fail in doing so.

And I can assure you that you won’t be the last one either.

Per quanto faccia male, bisogna semplicemente accettare il fatto che questo man doesn’t give a damn about you.

It is not because of something you did or because you didn’t try enough—he doesn’t care about anyone in this world except himself.

He is not looking for a compatible life partner—he is in the constant search for a vittima adatta e finché vi considererà tali, resterà al vostro fianco.

Tuttavia, as soon as he notices that you can’t satisfy his sick impulses and as soon as he notices that he has lost control over you, he will move on to someone else.

I hate to break it to you but you’re not special to this maniac and he won’t appreciate your sacrifices and attempts to help him.

Invece, ti scaricherà come ha fatto con tante altre ragazze prima di te.