Le anime gemelle sono sopravvalutate, ciò che conta è la connessione e l'impegno

Ever since we were little girls, my best friends and I have dreamed about love. The four of us would get together once a month at someone’s house for a sleepover.

We’d throw a pajama party and talk about what we wanted to be when we grow up. One of us wanted to be a lawyer, another a teacher, the next a doctor, and I wanted to be a writer.

In ogni caso, tutte noi volevamo essere felicemente innamorate. Sognavamo un principe azzurro che galoppasse nelle nostre vite sul suo cavallo bianco e rendesse tutto improvvisamente perfetto.

Allo stesso tempo, eravamo ossessionati da tutti i film romantici. I nostri cuori si scioglievano ogni volta che vedevamo una ragazza e un ragazzo innamorarsi a prima vista.

Scommetto che conoscete la procedura: I due si scontrano letteralmente. Lei fa cadere i libri, lui la aiuta a raccoglierli e i loro occhi si incrociano.

Time stops and in that exact moment, they just know that this is it. They realize they’ve been searching for each other throughout eternity.

Whatever happens from that moment on doesn’t really matter. Yes, they go through dozens of obstacles. They need time before they end up together. But eventually they do have their happily ever after.

Perché? Perché sono anime gemelle. Sono destinati a stare insieme e tutto il resto è completamente irrilevante.

Quindi, noi sciocchi volevamo lo stesso tipo di amore. Anzi, pensavamo che qualsiasi cosa diversa da quella fosse un accontentarsi di meno.

Ci siamo rifiutati di accettare una storia d'amore senza i fuochi d'artificio. Volevamo le farfalle che svolazzano nelle nostre pance e l'intera montagna russa delle emozioni.

Più di vent'anni dopo, io e i miei migliori amici ci siamo riuniti di nuovo e abbiamo ricordato questo. Abbiamo ricordato i nostri desideri e i nostri sogni.

Qualcuno di loro si è trasformato in realtà? No. Qualcuno di noi ha trovato l'anima gemella? No. Che tristezza, penserete.

Well, I beg to differ. And you know why? Because soulmates are overrated. In fact, I’m not even sure they exist.

Actually, as I’m getting older, I’m more and more convinced that it’s nothing but a Hollywood fabrication – that soulmates are made up by some producer or writer who ran out of ideas to make his work interesting.

So, let’s forget about fairytales, and let’s turn to real life. You know what counts here? Effort, dedication, connection, and compatibility. These are what every healthy relationship is based on.

Moreover: These are all the things you have to work on. They don’t appear out of nowhere or fall from the sky.

For a romance to succeed, it’s not enough for some random guy on the street to knock you off your feet. It’s not enough for you to feel butterflies throwing a party in your stomach.

I’ll be honest here: Chemistry is important. However, it’s not crucial and it’s definitely not enough to build a relationship.

True love needs fighting. But I don’t mean fighting against the evil forces that try to break you two apart.

I’m referring to everyday battles that seem completely unimportant and uninteresting, yet actually matter the most.

I’m talking about fighting against your differences, against the house chores, the finances, the in-laws, the kids who refuse to listen, and a host of other seemingly trivial things.

You see, there’s a lot of effort that goes into making any relationship work. E la vostra relazione sentimentale non fa eccezione.

It won’t magically be perfect just because you two are a match made in heaven.
E indovinate un po'? Non c'è nessun "vissero felici e contenti".

When the movie ends and the two protagonists kiss at the altar, you think that this is it – their battles are over and they’ll have the rest of their lives just to enjoy their love. Well, the truth is quite the opposite.

In effetti, è qui che inizia la vera lotta. Una lotta per mantenere il loro amore, per mantenere salda la loro unione e per rialzarsi più forte ogni volta che cadono.

A struggle that lasts a lifetime. Only when you win this war will you understand that what counts is finding your forever person – not your soulmate.