Le vere differenze tra essere innamorati e amare qualcuno
Mi capitava di confondere questi due termini, come immagino sia capitato anche alla maggior parte di voi. Si confondono facilmente. Non solo come termini, ma anche come sentimenti.
Ho sprecato così tanto tempo a piangere per degli uomini che non sono mai stati giusti per me, tanto per cominciare.
I truly believed that by losing them, I lost love. I couldn’t have been more wrong.
It wasn’t until I met my persona per sempre che ho capito davvero la differenza tra essere innamorati e amare qualcuno.
Nulla di ciò che ho provato prima può avvicinarsi a ciò che provo ora.
You see, ‘being in love’ is a form of an addiction we feel towards someone. We are so carried away by them that they are all we can think about.
Vogliamo essere vicini a loro il più spesso possibile.
‘Loving somebody’ is what we have when reality kicks in when our hormones stop going wild. It’s not an addiction; it’s reality.
It’s about mutual happiness and growth. It’s about complimenting each other’s lives. It’s the best thing in the world.
To make everything clearer, let’s look at the 6 differences between being in love and loving someone:
L'innamoramento avviene involontariamente, ma amare qualcuno avviene per scelta
Falling in love is beyond our control. It’s about chemistry, lust and infatuation. It’s about idealizing the other person and putting them on a pedestal.
Loving somebody is what comes after all the infatuation, chemistry and lust. It’s an emotional connection we form.
It’s not about looking at your partner as a form of perfection. It’s knowing that they are flawed and loving them anyway.
It’s about choosing to stay even when the sunshiny days pass.
Essere innamorati è una questione di convenienza, mentre amare una persona significa darle priorità
Being in love is needing somebody to fulfill your needs. It’s being there when it’s convenient.
Loving, on the other hand, is selfless. It’s not just about taking; it’s about giving, too.
It’s about making time for someone. It’s about enjoying the sole fact that your better half is present. It’s about making them feel important.
Essere innamorati può essere bisognoso, mentre amare qualcuno non lo è mai.
It’s in our human nature to have all kind of expectations from people. It’s the same when we are in love. We expect a person to behave in a certain manner.
Per esempio, potremmo volere che chiamino o mandino messaggi 24 ore su 24, 7 giorni su 7. Potremmo aspettarci grandi gesti romantici e continue dimostrazioni d'affetto.
However, the reality might be different. That’s why our aspettative non soddisfatte sono i motivi più comuni di rottura.
Loving someone is about compatibility. It’s about mutual understanding. It’s about not having to hear from each other 24/7 but still knowing that you are loved.
Loving somebody is all about trust while being in love doesn’t have to be
Being in love can also be full of uncertainties. We don’t have to feel safe or completely trust the other person to fall in love with them. We just fall and hope that they will catch us.
Il vero amore, tuttavia, si basa sulla fiducia. Non c'è spazio per l'incertezza o la gelosia. Ci sentiamo al sicuro nel loro abbraccio e vogliamo che loro provino la stessa cosa per noi.
Essere innamorati significa possedere, mentre amare qualcuno significa liberarlo.
L'innamoramento spesso ci dà l'idea sbagliata di essere in debito con un'altra persona. Che ci appartenga.
Le teniamo troppo strette perché sono le principali artefici della nostra felicità.
That’s why sometimes we sabotage our own chances for finding true love. We force the feelings. We suffocate our partners by wanting them too close.
Loving someone is about giving them the freedom to love you back. It’s not about trying too hard to keep them in your life.
It’s about loving them no matter whether they are by your side or not.
True love should flow, and you should never have to beg for anyone’s attention, affection or presence in your life. It’s about working as a team and growing together.
Being in love doesn’t have to last while love can be eternal
Being in love can last for a shorter or a longer period of time, but it has its end. It’s based on infatuation, lust, brain chemicals that give us that addicting feeling of desire.
Love doesn’t wear off. It doesn’t decrease. It doesn’t fade. L'amore rimane no matter what. It’s constant even though the honeymoon phase of the relationship is ancient history.
In the end, it’s important to remember that under no circumstances, being in love and loving someone excludes self-love.
Al contrario, lo accoglie. Solo quando ci si ama, ci si accetta e ci si apprezza veramente, si è in grado di dare gli stessi sentimenti puri a un'altra persona.
