10 motivi per cui è giusto essere amici del proprio ex

Essere amici del proprio ex non è sempre un disastro totale. A volte, che ci crediate o no, può trasformarsi in un'amicizia significativa.

After all, that person spent a great amount of time with you and you shared a lot of moments together. You’ve been through good and bad; that is something you don’t forget that easily. You may break up, but you can’t erase the existence of that person.

Although it ended the way it did, you still have some fond memories of your time together. There were times he made you happy when you were together, when he surprised you by doing something beautiful. It wasn’t awful all the time, especially not in the beginning.

Se riusciste a concentrarvi sui bei momenti trascorsi insieme, anziché su come vi siete rovinati a vicenda, potreste avere un'amicizia bella e duratura. Tutto ciò che serve è capire e rispettare l'altro.

Here are some reasons why it’s okay for you to be amici del tuo ex.

1. By keeping your heart open, you’ll be able to find love again

Se vivete la vostra vita perdonando le persone che vi hanno fatto del male e aprendo il vostro cuore a quelle che vi circondano, attirerete cose positive anche a voi. Alcuni lo chiamano karma, altri fortuna, ma il modo in cui trattate gli altri vi tornerà indietro in seguito.

By maintaining a good relationship with your ex, you’re forgiving yourself. You’re going to be a better person with much more confidence, which will pay off when you finally meet someone new.

2. È stata una rottura felice

OK, no break-up is happy, but let’s say that yours wasn’t ugly. You kind of expected it and maybe it was a mutual agreement between two people who just realized that they had nothing in common so they decided to break it off before someone got seriously hurt.

Questo tipo di situazione è perfetta per l'inizio di una bella amicizia.

3. Sa già tutto di voi

It’s easy to talk to him because you don’t have to explain yourself and the things you do or don’t do, or eat or don’t eat. He already knows all of that.

It feels natural talking to him and despite the fact you’re no longer together, it would be nice to act nice and keep him in your life as a friend.

4. Avete molti amici in comune

If you have a lot of mutual friends and you don’t want to create any awkward situations for them, you’re better off staying friends. Imagine if one of your friends is having a birthday party and you are both invited.

Wouldn’t it be better for you to stay friends and go to the party with no resentment or anger that was left from the break-up? Also, you can always stay friends but keep your distance; you don’t have to spend the whole night next to each other.

But it’s also important that you don’t bother each other with your presence.

5. You’ve moved on

You’ve had your share of tears and you’ve passed the healing process. Now that you hold nothing against him, it’s normal to be friends.

Now that you are over him, his new girlfriend won’t bother you and you won’t be staring in his direction the whole time, fearing someone will hit on him.

6. Non c'è più tensione sessuale

Forse siete usciti da un relazione a lungo termine where sex had turned from a source of pleasure to a habit. And now that you’ve broken up, if someone else attracts you more than your ex-partner, it’s safe to say that you can be lifelong friends.

7. Siete entrambi emotivamente maturi

Your maturity allowed you to look at things from a different perspective. You realized that he means a lot to you and that you don’t want to lose him, so if you had to break up, that doesn’t mean you mustn’t see each other ever again. You are reasonable enough to let him into your life as a friend.

8. Avete smesso di vivere nel passato

Finalmente avete voltato pagina e avete capito che il passato deve restare al suo posto. Qualsiasi cosa abbiate passato è ormai alle spalle e nulla di ciò che fate può cambiarlo.

L'unica cosa che può cambiare è il rapporto con il vostro ex. Quindi, se lo decidete, potete farlo entrare nella vostra vita e ricominciare da capo, ma questa volta con ruoli diversi.

9. Vi preoccupate l'uno dell'altro

You still care about each other but not in the same way as before. You grew to develop a different relationship, so why should you lose that just because of a stupid unwritten rule that exes shouldn’t be friends. If you want to be friends and if you still have some feelings for each other, do it.

10. Ti dà buoni consigli

You know that whenever you have a problem you can go to him. Even when you were in a relationship, he knew how to give you good advice. He didn’t do it that often, but when he did, he knew how.

You still value his opinion and you’ve got nothing against him, so he has nothing to lose and he will be completely honest.