Riparare un cuore spezzato

So, your heart has been broken and you’re pretty sure you’ll never be able to open yourself up to something new. How can you let yourself be so vulnerable ever again? This is it. You’re destined to be an old maid, alone in a house with a dozen cats. Sigh.

Quando si ha il cuore spezzato, può sembrare di non essere mai più in grado di amare. Si ha a malapena l'energia per rispettare gli impegni quotidiani. L'unica cosa che si vuole fare è rilassarsi in pigiama party e mangiare dolci. Ma non temete, c'è una filosofia di vita da seguire.

If it’s meant to be, it will be.

This is as true as it is simple. Learning to let love go, knowing that if the relationship is meant to be, it will return and if not, it’s for the better, is key. There are also some simple steps you must take to successfully make it through to the other side, though. Se li seguite, sarà più facile passare all'accettazione e a un posto migliore dal punto di vista mentale ed emotivo. Sarà più facile permettere a se stessi di guarire.

Attraversatelo, non aggiratelo. The only way to truly heal is to allow yourself to fully understand what happened to cause the partnership to end. This means accepting what you could and couldn’t have changed. But, don’t dwell on these things. They are learning lessons. By making mistakes, we understand how we will do this differently next time. In acknowledging how we were hurt by another person, and that there are certain things we can’t control, we better understand what traits we do not want in a future relationship.

Fingete finché non ce la fate. It’s an age-old saying that carries a lot of weight. You’re bound to feel crappy after a relationship ends. This isn’t anything to be ashamed of—it’s perfectly natural. However, focusing on positive thinking will help attract positivity. Try centering your thoughts on life’s optimistic attributes and be grateful for these.

Ritrovare e godere di nuovo della propria indipendenza. It’s great to know you’re loved by someone else. It’s even better to have genuine love for yourself. If this feeling was lost in translation when you were too busy giving yourself to another person, find it again. It is important to self-reflect on your strengths and the reasons why you are worthy of true love.

Praticare il pensiero e il sentimento consapevole. Work on staying in the present rather than focusing too much on the future or dwelling in the past. The present is here, now, and it’s not going to wait. There is a wealth of beauty to learn to appreciate in each moment we’re given. Don’t let the present slip by unacknowledged. Any negative thoughts that creep in should be allowed to exist without judgment. However, using cognitive behavioral concepts to turn them into more positive ruminations will help the healing process.

Recitare affermazioni positive. A proposito di positività, recitare le affermazioni è un ottimo modo per migliorare l'amore per se stessi and change the way we think indefinitely. Make a list of everything you love about yourself and reference this as often as needed. Add to it continually. When you really pause to think about it, you will realize how much you have to offer. And, you won’t be so quick to give all of this away.

Seguire la corrente e avere una mente aperta. Cercate di non chiudervi al mondo che vi circonda. Emettete positività, ma restate anche abbastanza aperti da riceverla. È probabile che foste aperti mentalmente ed emotivamente la prima volta che vi siete innamorati di un'altra persona. Permettete a voi stessi di continuare a essere aperti e ricettivi verso gli altri. In questo modo, al momento giusto, vi verrà incontro una persona degna di tutto l'amore che avete ancora da dare.

The number one thing to remember is that no one deserves to take away your happiness and no one can do so unless you let them. This is your journey. It’s not about anyone else—the focus needs to be on yourself, healing from the inside out. You will get through this! And, when you do, you will realize everything happens for a reason. Hang in there.