Non devi cambiare, devi solo smettere di frequentare gli stronzi

Tutte noi abbiamo un tipo. Che ci piaccia o meno ammetterlo, in qualche modo gravitiamo sempre verso lo stesso tipo di uomo, ogni volta.

Be that an ambitious hard-worker who doesn’t really have the time to nurture a loving relationship with you or be that a well-built guy who looks like he was made to break hearts with that gorgeous face and the body of a Greek god.

And that’s exactly what always happens. Ti spezza il cuore.

Did you ever start to wonder how come after every break-up you always end up disappointed in the entire male species, crying yourself to sleep, spending days eating Ben & Jerry’s and listening to Coldplay’s saddest songs?

Potrebbe essere il fatto che semplicemente, inconsciamente, scegliete sempre il ragazzo che non è giusto per voi?

You’re probably going back in time now, and recollecting your past relationships and seeing a recurring pattern. You never realized this before, and you always thought that there was something wrong with you, but now, you are probably starting to realize that it’s really not you.

It’s your unconscious desire to go after guys who make you feel so loved for a full whole minute and then spezzare il cuore con la stessa velocità con cui l'hanno vinta.

Now is the time to realize you need to break that vicious pattern and realize why it was there in the first place. That way, you will be able to go for guys that are more suitable for you and won’t make you feel like you necessità di cambiare anything about yourself—a parte la scelta degli uomini.

Chiedetevi perché vi rivolgete ai ragazzi che frequentate. There is always a reason, whether it’s visible or not. Maybe it has something to do with how you see yourself, and you are projecting this on the guys you date?

Forse risuonano con voi a un livello più profondo di cui non siete nemmeno consapevoli, per cui gravitate sempre verso di loro?

Di solito le persone scelgono cose con cui hanno familiarità e che sentono subito di poter gestire. Questo ci fa sentire sicuri e non c'è niente di male in questo.

Could it be that you are looking for someone who is just like your dad, because he was the only male figure you had in your life who you looked up to? And in theory, it should work, but in practice, it’s much more problematic.

Whatever the case is, now that you are aware of that recurring pattern, it’s time to break it, and venture out and try to find someone completely different from what you would normally go for. You’ll never know if you don’t try!

It can only be better, so give it a chance. Don’t fear the unknown, it may turn out to be just the thing for you.

Chiedetevi che cosa sentite di meritare. In un modo o nell'altro, parlate a voi stessi, sia nella vostra testa che a voce alta, e il modo in cui il vostro dialogo interiore funziona con il modo in cui scegliete i vostri uomini.

Si scelgono quelli che sembrano familiari, quelli che funzionano meglio con il proprio modo di pensare, parlare e sentire.

Maybe you simply believe you only deserve a certain type of guy in your life, so you’re not letting yourself break out of that unhealthy circle in which you keep coming back to the same guy, just in a different form.

It’s time you start making changes in your dating life before you end up with the wrong guy in the long run. It’s time to stop letting these men make you feel insufficient and inadequate, simply because you are afraid of making a different choice!

Uscite dal vostro zona di comfort e guardate oltre! Il mondo è pieno di ragazzi che potrebbero essere il vostro uomo. Devi solo avere il coraggio di vederli!