Non sei una cattiva persona, ma non eri la persona giusta per me

It’s been exactly a year and 10 months since we last talked. That was also the last time when I could think of you without feeling a knot in my stomach.

I’m in a new relationship, a better one. He reminds me of you. He constantly reminds me that he is everything you weren’t. He is passionate, patient, and full of understanding. He cares for me. He shows interest in my family and enjoys time spent with my friends. He doesn’t try to keep me away from his friends; he doesn’t enjoy making fun of important parts of my personality.

I can’t forget how stare vicino a te negli ultimi due mesi della nostra relazione è stato come camminare su un guscio d'uovo. And when I was trying hard to please you, it was never enough. I was never enough because I was supposed to be prettier, smarter, less emotional or simply better—but according to your standards.

I don’t think that you’re a bad person, but you weren’t the right person for me. I wasn’t the right person for you either. Problem is that I put all of my effort into becoming one. Eravamo tossici l'uno per l'altro; I know it now. And although I truly hope that I will forgive you one day, it’s clear to me that that tempestuous time behind us was the best thing that could have happened to us. The good and the bad – all of it was a great lesson.

Forse il prezzo è stato alto, ma grazie a voi ho imparato molto su di me e sulla mia parte invisibile. Tutte le mie lacrime hanno avuto un senso. Ho capito che ho il potere di superare, lasciare e andare avanti. C'è voluto un po' di tempo, ma è successo.

Maybe that story about the soulmate is true after all. Maybe he’s really the one who brings you to your own attention, so you can change your life; he breaks your heart open so new light can get in. That means that you’ll have to fight your worst enemy – yourself, that part of you that holds you back, but you’ll survive. Not just that, you’ll open your eyes and become stronger and more peaceful than ever.

I think I’ve completely erased you from my life now. You’re blocked, removed. I don’t hate you because where there is hate, there is also passion. What I feel is called indifference. I’m not interested in how your workday was or what you do in your free time. I’ve stopped wondering if I’ll ever run into you as I pass by ‘our’ places, and all of your favorite things became just things.

You wonder about the purpose of this letter then? Although I’m indifferent to you, I’m not indifferent to what you did to me. I still feel the consequences of that tempestuous time, the bitter taste of the toxic bond we had. And although the poison is no longer running through my veins, the unpleasant side effects sometimes occur—insecurity and mistrust; the fear of rejection, the fear that he will replace me with a better one.

But, you know what helps in such situations? The fact that my new boyfriend is also my friend. In fact, I believe that friendship is the link we lacked. Friends don’t condemn; they’re not selfish. They want the best for each other. You wanted the best for yourself, and you made it clear to me that I wasn’t that. You fooled me. You made me believe that there still was a chance for a fairytale as long as I was doing what you wanted me to do.

Siamo mai stati innamorati? Bella domanda; me lo chiedo anch'io. Credo che a un certo punto lo siamo stati, nel nostro modo un po' distorto, lo siamo stati davvero. Ma that wasn’t true love. True love knows that it’s necessary to make sacrifices sometimes. True love cares about the other one.

Good things come to those who wait. I’m glad I was patient enough to wait and welcome new, pure, and real love. It all happened when I decided to follow my own intuition for the first time, pursuing my own dreams because your dreams were never similar to mine.

Il giorno in cui ci siamo lasciati, ho fatto una lunghissima camminata, attraversando campi, salendo su colline enormi, finché sono arrivato in cima a questa montagna e ho guardato il mondo. Nel momento in cui ho raggiunto la vetta, è partita la canzone Let go. Ho pianto a dirotto, ma mi sono reso conto di quanto sia grande questo mondo, di quanto ci sia da fare e di quante persone buone si possano incontrare.

Quel giorno è stato l'inizio del mio viaggio di realizzazione che mi ha fatto capire come la rottura fosse un altro ostacolo sulla strada della vita. Let go is a key to what’s within. Questa è la lezione più importante di questo viaggio e questa lettera è la mia ultima, necessaria chiusura. Quindi, ovunque tu sia e con chiunque tu sia, spero che tu sia felice, che tu stia bene, ma spero che non ci incontreremo mai più.