Come convincere qualcuno a ricambiare: 20 modi efficaci per avere successo

Quindi, c'è una persona che vi piace, ma non avete la minima idea di cosa fare con le vostre emozioni.

What should you do to make this person understand you’re worthy of a chance, what are the psychological tricks to make this person see you in a new light?Sounds familiar, right?

Well, that’s because we’ve all been there. How to get someone to like you back? How to make someone to fall in love with you?

These are the questions we’ve all asked ourself at least once during our lifetime. Well, finally, we have the answer.

Basta seguire queste 20 indicazioni consigli per gli incontri and I promise you that you’ll get the person you want in no time.

Scoprite di più sul loro stato di coppia

The first step many people sadly want to surpass while trying to win over their crush is getting to the bottom of this person’s relationship status.

Dovete essere perfettamente consapevoli del fatto che le cose non sono più come in passato; la linea di demarcazione tra l'essere single e l'essere fidanzati sta diventando sempre più confusa.

So, how exactly can you know whether someone is off-limits or not, if we’re talking about a person you know nothing about?

Well, you can ask your mutual friends about them and if they don’t know the answer, you’re sentenced to stalking through their social media profiles and searching for trails of a romantic partner.

Se vi rendete conto che questa persona non è single, fatevi da parte fin dall'inizio. Dopo tutto, non siete una rovinafamiglie o un terzo incomodo e l'ultima cosa di cui avete bisogno è trascinarvi in una relazione con un traditore.

However, even if they’re officially single, there is the possibility of them being emotivamente non disponibile.

Ebbene, prima di far piacere a qualcuno, dovreste assolutamente cercare di scoprire anche il suo bagaglio emotivo.

Lavorare sulla propria autostima

Prima di pretendere di piacere a qualcun altro, bisogna innanzitutto piacersi e sentirsi bene nella propria pelle e prima di pretendere il rispetto, bisogna avere un senso di rispetto di sé.

Sounds like a cliché, I know, but trust me when I tell you that it couldn’t be truer.

Therefore, if you are on a mission of catching someone’s attention, you have to become a confident person and build an image of someone who knows what they want and is not afraid to get it.

You can’t show this special somebody your qualities unless you yourself are not completely aware of them, can you?

Quindi, il primo passo è costruire la vostra fiducia e farvi sentire speciali. Più facile a dirsi che a farsi, lo so.

Iniziate scrivendo tutti i vostri lati positivi e i tratti della vostra personalità. Quali sono le cose che qualcuno del sesso opposto potrebbe trovare attraenti in voi?

Every morning when you get up, look yourself in the mirror and repeat after me: “I’m beautiful, good-looking, have a sharp wit and an interesting sense of humor.

I’m worthy and there is nothing I should be afraid of.”

Don’t put all of your focus on this person because a boosted self-esteem will help you in other life areas, besides love. Make a list of short-term goals and work on them, step by step.

This way, every time you achieve something new, you’ll see how capable you actually are and that will serve you as fuel for your self-confidence.

Smettere di paragonarsi agli altri, especially to your crush’s exes. Instead, focus on your own value and the things which make you unique.

Smettete di pensare che questa persona sia fuori dalla vostra portata e liberatevi dei pensieri pessimistici sul fallimento.

I won’t lie to you—there always exists the possibility of this person not reciprocating your feelings. You could do everything by the book but if they don’t feel they’ve clicked with you, you can’t force them to like you.

Tuttavia, per il momento non è il caso di concentrarsi su questo aspetto. Piuttosto, siate certi del vostro successo e sperate per il meglio!

After all, even if you fail, you know it was heroically. You’ll know you tried and gave your best and you won’t have any regrets later on in the future.

Prendetevi cura del vostro aspetto

La prima cosa da fare se si vuole attrarre qualcuno del sesso opposto è apparire sempre al meglio.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should go get plastic surgery just to be more similar to top models from fashion magazines because that is not the only way to get someone’s attention.

You see, people in general are quite superficial, even though most would never admit that. I’m sure you have a great personality and a lot to offer but la tua cotta who still hasn’t had a chance to meet you can’t know that.

Pertanto, per darvi almeno una possibilità e avere la voglia di scavare sotto i molteplici strati della vostra personalità, devono prima essere attratti dal vostro aspetto fisico.

Naturalmente, in seguito, quando vedranno quanto siete effettivamente simpatici, il vostro aspetto sarà la cosa meno importante.

Tuttavia, ora è importante. Dopotutto, voi stessi sapete che dovete essere attratti da una certa persona per provare maggiore interesse nei suoi confronti.

Pertanto, iniziate con una buona igiene personale. Assicuratevi di fare sempre la doccia e di avere i capelli puliti e ordinati.

You don’t have to be dressed in branded clothes but they have to clean and ironed. Also, always dress according to the occasion and not as if you’ve put on the first thing that you spotted in your wardrobe.

Un'altra cosa importante è avere un profumo riconoscibile che possa aiutare la vostra cotta a ricordarsi di voi.

It doesn’t have to be anything too strong but trust me, every time they sense that scent on someone else, they’ll think of you.

Siate positivi con loro

A nessuno piacciono le persone scontrose e l'oggetto del vostro affetto non è diverso. Sì, so che, come tutti noi, anche voi avete il diritto di avere una giornata storta di tanto in tanto.

Nevertheless, at least at first, do your best to be as positive as possible every time you’re around your crush. Smile every time you see them, make a funny comment to make them laugh and bring light into the room whenever you show up.

Be as easygoing and relaxed as you can. Don’t be a party pooper and if you have a chance to, propose fun and interesting activities where the two of you can bond.

Don’t put all of your focus on to winning this person over and try to put your feelings for them aside. Instead, become someone they enjoy hanging out with.

Questo approccio vi aiuterà a liberarvi dalla pressione di ciò che accadrà in seguito, vi aiuterà a smettere di essere ossessionati da ogni piccolo dettaglio e vi darà la possibilità di essere voi stessi.

Don’t get trapped in the friendzone ma immaginate che si tratti di un amico con cui vi sentite a vostro agio e vi assicuro che vi seguirà.

I’m not saying that you should be a people pleaser and nod your head to everything they say just to make this person feel better but don’t argue about every little thing because that’s not the way to bring positive attention to yourself.

Don’t be a nervous drama queen who makes a fuss about everything, don’t drain their energy and don’t bring pessimism into their life.

Concentratevi invece sul diventare qualcuno che possa sempre farli sentire meglio, qualunque cosa accada. Lasciate che pensino a voi come alla persona più divertente e simpatica che abbiano mai incontrato.

This way, you’ll not only improve their mood, but they’ll also connect the feeling of joy with you.

Inviate loro i segnali del linguaggio del corpo

So, you’re trying to get this person to like you back—there is no doubt about that. However, at the same time, you don’t want to tell them how you feel straightforwardly.

Maybe you’re too shy to talk about your emotions, maybe you’re afraid of rejection or you’re waiting for them to make the first move.

Qualunque sia la questione, il punto fondamentale è che dovete trovare un altro modo per segnalare la vostra infatuazione a loro.

Il modo migliore per farlo è quello di inviare all'oggetto del vostro affetto segni del linguaggio del corpo che hanno più di un beneficio.

First of all, you’ll intrigue them and represent a kind of challenge. They will never be certain whether they’re imagining things or you’re really sending them hints that you’re into them.

Also, you’ll have a chance to assess their feedback just by looking at their bodily and facial expressions.

Are they responding positively to the signs you’ve been sending or are they looking at you as a creep who is invading their personal space?

Another good thing about body language signs is that they save you from getting rejected. If you see that the other person isn’t digging your signals, you pull back and avoid the awkward conversation about them not liking you back.

Contatto visivo

Una delle più grandi verità è che gli occhi sono lo specchio dell'anima. Pertanto, il modo migliore per esprimere i vostri sentimenti alla vostra cotta è attraverso gli occhi.

Per cominciare, provate a mantenere contatto visivo prolungato. Ogni volta che passate davanti a loro, date loro un'occhiata sexy e controllate.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to stare like a maniac or put all of your focus on their sexual attributes. Instead, look them directly in the eyes and wait to see whether they’ll look back.

Sorriso

While you’re maintaining deep eye contact, the important thing is to never take the smile off your face.

After all, staring at someone with a completely serious face is creepy; you don’t want them to get the impression that you want to pick a fight or something like that.

You don’t have to hysterically laugh but make sure your facial expressions send the message that you like what you’re seeing.

Mentre fate tutto questo, prestate attenzione se la vostra cotta vi guarda. Cosa vi dicono i loro occhi?

Don’t lose all hope even if they look away while you’re staring at them. Maybe they’re just embarrassed and need more time to relax.

Tocco accidentale

The next step is to get your crush’s body used to yours and the way to do so is to accidentally touch them with every chance you get.

Naturalmente, la cosa più importante è non oltrepassare il limite, non invadere il loro spazio personale e tirarsi indietro nel momento in cui ci si accorge che la vicinanza disturba la cotta.

However, if that doesn’t happen, you can start by kissing them on the cheek or hugging them a little bit longer whenever you two greet.

When you’re making a point, hold their hand, put yours on their shoulder or knee when they say something funny or just hold a mano sulla vita.

Il gioco delle labbra

Volete che questa persona vi baci, giusto? In questo caso, dovete attirare la sua attenzione sulle vostre labbra.

Accidentally bite your lower lip when you catch them looking at you or glance over at their lips in the middle of a conversation. Trust me—nothing says, “Kiss me,” more than this!

Essere vicini a loro

If you’re not brave enough to try and have physical contact with your crush, at least do your best to be as near them as possible.

Anche se può sembrare irrilevante, in realtà vi avvicina e intensifica la vostra intimità.

When you two are in the company of others, always grab an opportunity to sit next to them. When you’re standing together, your feet should be pointed at them.

Of course, these are all the signs you can follow if you want to see whether you’re making some significant progress.

If your crush is starting to do more and more of the things mentioned above, one thing is for sure: they’re beginning to like you back.

Be available…

Per piacere a qualcuno, bisogna innanzitutto conoscerlo. E perché ciò accada, dovete passare del tempo insieme.

That is exactly why you should be available to the person of your interest. You can call them to hang out if you don’t want to ask them on a primo appuntamentoMa se vi invitano da qualche parte, assicuratevi di accettare.

More importantly, show them that you’re there and that they can count on you.

Be the first one to offer them a hand when they need it, the one who calls to check on them when they’re feeling bad and the one who helps them with their problems when they’re going through some hard times.

When the two of you are texting, respond quickly and show them that you find their conversation important. Answer the phone when they call and never act like they’re bothering you.

… but a little bit mysterious

Tuttavia, il trucco consiste nel non essere troppo disponibili. Anzi, aggiungete un po' di mistero alla vostra personalità.

I’m not saying that you should play mind games or send mixed signals here because that is immature and will only drag both of you into an endless circle from which you won’t be able to escape.

It will just be enough not to reveal everything about yourself right away.Of course, you’ll have to show your crush your true self and expose your tratti di personalità.

Don’t be guarded but always leave them wanting to find out more about your personal life.

This way, you’ll intrigue their imagination and become an object of their thoughts. They’ll want to know what’s hidden underneath the layers of your personality and have a desire to be the first one to get to the bottom of you.

Ricordare le piccole cose che li riguardano

Una delle cose di cui quasi tutti si innamorano è quando l'altra persona conosce alcuni piccoli dettagli della sua vita.

I’m not saying that you should appear like a stalker and reveal all the intel you’ve gathered regarding this person through your mutual friends or social media ma sarebbe bello se vi ricordaste di qualcosa di apparentemente piccolo ma in realtà significativo per la vostra cotta.

For example, surprise them by congratulating them on their birthday even though they’ve never told you the date, don’t fail to notice when they change their hairstyle and show them that you remember the name of their childhood friend they told you about ages ago.

Tutto ciò dimostrerà loro quanto ci tenete e quanto sono importanti per voi.

More importantly, make this person realize that you notice them and their mood swings. Pay attention to their behavior and ask them if something’s wrong whenever you see that they’re feeling low.

Mostrare interesse per la loro vita

Another quality your crush is definitely looking for in their potential partner is the ability to listen. And when I advise you to listen to everything this person has to say, I’m not saying that you should just sit there quietly while they’re talking.

I’m telling you to become a good listener and their confidant in the real sense of these words. Show them that you’re devoted to everything they say and that they’re not boring you by blabbing about themselves.

Semplicemente, mostrate interesse per la loro vita. Fate domande, ma fate attenzione a non sembrare troppo invadenti e a evitare argomenti che potrebbero essere troppo personali o delicati.

Lasciate che vi parlino dei loro amici, dei loro familiari, del loro lavoro e dei loro hobby.

Inoltre, è possibile includere domande sul loro passato sentimentale, che possono aiutarvi a scoprire di più sul loro stato relazionale e sul tipo di persone che frequentano abitualmente.

Of course, you won’t be rude and expect them to tell you all the details of their past romances and love life but you two can talk about your longest relationships, toughest i fattori di rottura dell'accordo e standard.

By redirecting the communication in this direction, you’re actually sending them a hint about the field of their life which you’re most interested in.

Tutte queste informazioni possono servire a capire se voi due sareste potenzialmente amanti compatibili o meno.

Have you been idealizing this person just because you didn’t have a clue about them or do you like them even more, now that you’re getting to know them?

Questa può essere anche l'occasione per capire tutto ciò che avete in comune.

Maybe you can dig up some information about the object of your affection and find out more about their hobbies and things like that and then surprise them by talking about those things, as if you’re talking about your preferences.

However, don’t be passive in these conversations. Instead, talk to them about yourself as well.

After all, you don’t want them to conclude that you don’t have a life and that you don’t have anything to say.

Put in some effort…

Even though you don’t want to confess your feelings straightforwardly, you want this person to know how much they mean to you.

Pertanto, dovete trovare il modo giusto per fargli capire la profondità delle vostre emozioni.

It’s pretty simple; you have to put some effort into this entire story. Show this person that you take care of their well-being, that you want to make them feel good, that spending time with them matters to you.

Aiutateli anche quando hanno bisogno di assistenza, fate un gesto romantico which will knock them off of their feet and make them realize you’re worthy of their attention.

… but don’t try too hard

Tuttavia, ciò che è fondamentale è non sforzarsi troppo o.

Yes, I know that this balance is difficult to find but you need to understand that every person is different so you’ll simply have to sense the situation, follow your gut and go with the flow.

You see, when they like someone very much, many people want to please that person’s every need and they put all of their strength into winning this person over.

Ebbene, anche se questo è molto dolce, la verità è che può essere controproducente.

You don’t want to become this person’s maid or pet. They shouldn’t feel like you’ll always be there, patiently waiting for them for as long as they want.

Se vi accanite troppo sulla vostra cotta, inizierà a pensare a voi come a un noioso perdente che la soffoca.

It’s actually simple romantic math: When you give yourself to someone on a silver platter, they know that they don’t have to put up a fight into making you theirs so they stop finding you interesting right away.

Besides, putting all of your focus on one person is not good for your own emotional and mental health. As much as you like your crush, they’re not your entire world and you should never act as if they are.

Fate qualcosa per farli sentire speciali

Usually, big, romantic gestures are reserved for couples only. However, if you’re wondering how to make someone fall in love with you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you throwing them a little surprise.

Of course, I’m not advising for this to be a firework, a lettera romantica or a plane flying above their house, writing, “I love you,” all over the sky. Instead, do something small but make sure to make this person feel special.

Sarà sufficiente fargli una piccola sorpresa di compleanno o anche memorizzare il suo cioccolato preferito e comprarglielo.

Qualsiasi cosa facciate, assicuratevi che sia qualcosa di unico e degno di essere ricordato.

Complimentarsi con loro

Who doesn’t like compliments? It doesn’t matter whether your crush is male or female—either way, they enjoy hearing something nice about themselves.Therefore, another way of making someone like you is complimenting them.

However, please, don’t be pathetic and don’t use typical compliments.

Don’t get me wrong—this doesn’t mean that you should praise their every move or applaud them when they’re clearly making a mistake because that would sound too dishonest and you would give the impression that you’re actually kissing their ass.

Tuttavia, fare loro un dolce complimento di tanto in tanto non può portare alcun danno.

These compliments don’t have to be only related to their looks. After all, you don’t want to appear superficial.

Concentratevi piuttosto sulla loro bellezza interiore. Complimentatevi con la loro mente acuta, una certa abilità, la capacità di risolvere i problemi, i gusti musicali o il senso dell'umorismo.

All of this will help this person understand that you’re not just trying to entrare nei loro pantaloni—they will see that you want something serious with them.

Chiedete loro consiglio

Let’s be honest—all of us enjoy feeling important in someone else’s eyes. Well, if you’re trying to figure out how to get someone to innamorarsi di teUno dei modi per farlo è chiedere il loro parere.

Oltre a rafforzare il loro ego, questo può servire anche a capire se i vostri atteggiamenti sono compatibili e simili o meno.

Is this person telling you something you probably wouldn’t do in a million years or are they advising you to do something you would probably do without them?

After all, you’re not asking for the opinion of everyone you run into. Instead, you only do this with someone you appreciate and think fondly of.

Questo fatto da solo sarà una prova sufficiente per far capire a questa persona quanto è importante per voi.

Sii il migliore di te stesso

So, you’re a living human being made of flesh and blood. It is natural for you to have a set of flaws both you and everyone around you dislikes.

However, when you’re trying to attract someone, you won’t show all of your bad sides right away. Instead, you’ll be your best self in their presence.

No, this is not me telling you to pretend you’re someone you’re not or to change yourself for the sake of this potential relationship.

What I’m saying is that you should just put some effort into showing this special someone your most appealing sides.

Fategli capire quanto siete una persona premurosa e amorevole e fategli vedere un frammento di come sarebbe la loro vita se decidessero di condividerla con voi.

Show them that you’re one of a kind and that you’re nowhere else to be found. Show them your empatiasaggezza, maturità e gentilezza.

To put things simply, in this phase, it is your job to convince this person that you’re boyfriend/girlfriend material, that you’re worthy of a chance and later on, of their love.

Dimostrare le proprie capacità di comunicazione

Quando si vuole conquistare qualcuno, bisogna essere armati di grandi capacità di comunicazione.

Prima di ogni altra cosa, è necessario che i clienti siano interessati a parlare con voi. frasi per rimorchiare.

Besides being a good listener, become a great talker as well. Don’t be cheesy and don’t use the usual phrases they probably heard a million times before.

Quando se ne presenta l'occasione, stuzzicateli un po' e fate in modo che si chiedano cosa volevate dire in realtà. Inserite un discorso sull'amore o sul sesso solo quando vedete che avete un riscontro positivo e solo se il momento ve lo consente.

Nel frattempo, concentratevi sul porre domande profonde che rappresentino una sorta di sfida per loro e li facciano riflettere.

Don’t engage in too much small talk and don’t make them feel as if they’re being interrogated—just let the conversation flow its natural course.

Ricordate che è vostro compito evitare silenzi imbarazzanti e migliorare la comunicazione.

If you know you’ll be seeing this special someone but have absolutely no idea what to talk about with them, come up with a list of interesting topics that might amuse them.

L'uso dell'umorismo nelle conversazioni è sempre un vantaggio, ma è importante non esagerare. Fate attenzione a non oltrepassare il limite e a non usare battute troppo volgari, a meno che non vogliate essere percepiti come immaturi o non abbastanza seri.

Don’t be judgmental and let them speak. Respect their opinion even if you disagree with it but don’t be scared of saying yours either.

Utilizzate i social media a vostro vantaggio

Le moderne regole degli appuntamenti hanno portato molti ostacoli e problemi alle relazioni sentimentali.

E anche se molti dicono che i social media sono uno di questi ostacoli, se giocate bene le vostre carte, possono essere i vostri migliori alleati.

Even when you don’t know anything about the person of your interest and have no way of approaching them in person, you can always do the easiest possible thing—follow them or add them as a friend on some of your social media accounts.

Dopo aver accettato la vostra richiesta, mettete un like o commentare il loro post aggiornamenti o foto.

Potete inviare loro un messaggio privato relativo a qualcosa che hanno postato e che può servire a rompere il ghiaccio per ulteriori comunicazioni.

Also, if you’re too shy to approach this person face-to-face, this is the way to go. You have more time to think of a reply while you two are texting and they cannot see your nervousness from the other side of the screen.

Procuratevi una spalla

You might find this step childish but the truth is that it has helped out a lot of people who didn’t have the courage to seal the deal on their own.

Don’t worry, your fear of approaching the opposite sex doesn’t make you weak and it has nothing to do with your age or experience; it is perfectly normal and it only means that you’re head over heels for someone.

If this is what you can relate to, your solution is to find yourself a wingman. I’m not saying that this person has to literally approach your crush and ask for their number, like in the movies.

Tuttavia, dovrebbe trattarsi di un amico comune e di una persona di cui entrambi vi fidate incondizionatamente.

Yes, in this case, your wingman will be violating your crush’s trust but that will happen just because they’re aware of your feelings and want what’s best for both of you.

This is someone who will give you intel about your person’s romantic status, love life history and, most importantly, their opinion of you.

Are you making any progress? Are things going in your favor and are they starting to like you? Or do you repulse them and they can’t wait to get rid of you?

Get yourself a wingman and you’ll know!

Esigere rispetto

Looking at all the steps above, it might seem like you should obey your crush at all costs. Well, even though winning them over is your final goal, it doesn’t make you submissive or less worthy in this situation.

Instead, the way to make someone like you is to demand respect. You won’t literally ask them to give it to you but from day one, you have to act as if you won’t tolerate any disrespect.

You’re a mature person who has a lot of self-respect, who appreciates and loves themselves and you want the same treatment from everyone else as well.

Just because you like this special somebody very much, it doesn’t mean you’ll put up with any of their crap to have them by your side.

Il vostro tempo, i vostri amici, i vostri desideri e, soprattutto, i vostri sentimenti sono importanti e non sono in alcun modo meno importanti dei loro.

Yes, you want them but that doesn’t mean that you’re ready to lose yourself completely just to have them.

Questo passo è molto più cruciale di quanto si possa pensare. Oltre a essere importante per il vostro senso di autostima e il rispetto per se stessi, oltre che per la propria salute mentale ed emotiva, è anche un modo per far sì che la vostra cotta vi prenda sul serio e non cerchi di giocare con voi in futuro.

È un modo per sfidarli e renderli più interessati che mai. Un modo per farli innamorare di voi con la stessa intensità con cui voi vi siete innamorati di loro.

Siate aperti sui vostri sentimenti

Finally, if you see that none of this works out, it’s time to be honest about your feelings.

Yes, I know that this is something you want to avoid but your confession won’t come out of the blue—you’ll do a lot of things which will both relax you and prepare the person of your interest for it.

You have to realize that some people simply don’t take the hint and need to be told things directly in order to truly understand them. And if your crush is like that, you have no other choice but to come clean.

Of course, this doesn’t have to be some huge, romantic love declaration. You won’t tell them that li amate profondamente and can’t live without them because that is not the truth.

On the contrary, you can just say that lately you’ve started seeing them as more than a friend and that you would like to give it a shot.

After all, if you are scared of getting tongue-tied when you finally face them, you can always write yourself a little speech (which shouldn’t look rehearsed) and practice everything you want to tell them.

Forse questo è ciò che serve perché inizino a percepirvi sotto una luce completamente nuova e qualcosa che li aiuterà a capire che anche loro sono sempre stati presi da voi senza nemmeno esserne consapevoli.

Let them think about your words and don’t pressure them to give you an answer right away.

They might be shocked by your confession, despite all the signals you’ve been sending, and need time to sort out their thoughts and feelings.

However, don’t wait forever. Agree on a deadline by which they have to give you a response and if they don’t contact you in that given period of time, everything is more than clear.

Whatever happens, remember to be proud of yourself for trying and please, don’t let the worst possible case scenario ruin your self-esteem.

On the other hand, if you do succeed, which you probably will, congratulations because you’ve managed to make your crush like you back.