Questa è la ragazza che imparerete ad apprezzare solo dopo la sua partenza

All'inizio non vi accorgerete di chi è, perché non fa giochetti. È trasparente fin dall'inizio. Ti dà tutto l'amore che ha fin dall'inizio; è aperta e vulnerabile.

She has nothing to hide because she’s not pretending to be someone she’s not.

So, you think that’s something she’s obligated to do. You think she’s supposed to treat you like a king. So, la dai per scontatae tu non le dai nulla in cambio.

She’s always going to be there for you, at any hour. Whenever you call her, she’ll have time for you.

This is why you’ll take her for granted. You’ll assume she has to find time for you, and you never even stop and think how she’s feeling because suddenly your problems seem more important than hers.

Tutto ciò di cui parli sei tu. 

Quando c'è qualcosa che vi preoccupa, correte da lei e lei vi consola. I vostri problemi si accumulano e li caricate su di lei senza nemmeno pensare se c'è qualcosa che la preoccupa.

She deals so well with her own stuff, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t need your help. The thing is, she has never found time to bother you because you are always a priority. There is always something going on with you.

In the beginning, you’ll know she tries so hard to make you happy. In the beginning, you’re going to cherish and respect that.

You’re going to try hard to please her because you know she deserves it. By treating her this way, you’re going to inspire her to treat you even better.

Perhaps you’ll even wonder what it was that you did to deserve such a beautiful person in your life. How can someone be so selfless for one reason only – love? What did you do right to deserve her by your side?

You’re going to be thankful and careful not to screw anything up, not to hurt her unintentionally.

Slowly, you’ll take her for granted. You’ll get used to her treating you right and giving you more than you deserve. Slowly, you’ll start to think her selflessness and love is something you’re entitled to without making any effort.

You’ll no longer have time for her as much as you used to. Now, she can wait. It’s not that important. You’re thinking that nothing will change if you do something first and then devote yourself to her.

Beh, non cambierà nulla nell'immediato, ma il fatto di dare priorità a qualcos'altro si insinua in te e, prima che tu te ne accorga, quella ragazza che si concede completamente a te non è più così importante.

Putting her second will become normal because she won’t say a thing. She won’t object to your cruel behavior.

She won’t change her behavior. She won’t get even with you and treat you like you treat her. She’ll be even better and kinder, hoping you’ll realize you’re neglecting her, hoping you’ll change.

È questo che vi rende uguali a tutti gli altri. All'inizio giurate di tenerla al sicuro, di rispettarla e onorarla. Ma alla fine finisci per trascurarla e darla per scontata. Alla fine, diventi un idiota senza cuore, proprio come tutti gli altri.

You’re messing with her. From the way you treat her, you’ve learned this one thing and that is — you can get away with pretty much everything. She is not responding to your poor treatment. Moreover, the more you treat her badly, the more she treats you better.

Così, inconsciamente, iniziate a testare i suoi limiti. You become a narcissistic egocentric. You start doing whatever you feel like without thinking twice about her and whether your actions are going to hurt her feelings. You’re testing her limits, and you’re trying to find that line you’re not supposed to cross.

Suddenly, she’s had enough. Suddenly, you’ve hit the wall and come to that line.

Sadly, that is a road in one direction. There is no way back. You can try to find the way back to her heart, but you’ll get lost.

Improvvisamente, quella ragazza non si impegna più così tanto. Everything she did has vanished. She has turned into you. She doesn’t give a damn. She doesn’t answer your calls right away. She doesn’t plan everything. She doesn’t care that much.

Ora è una persona che conoscevate, ma ancora una volta è una completa estranea. Vi ricordate come vi raccontava la sua giornata, cosa aveva fatto, cosa le era successo? Vi teneva sempre aggiornati perché ci teneva tanto da includervi nella sua vita.
Ora rimane in silenzio. There are no more funny stories about her day. Now, you no longer know what happened to her. She doesn’t want to share herself with you anymore.

Poi inizia l'inferno.

Torni indietro e ti rendi conto che quella ragazza vale mille scuse. Quella ragazza ha meritato di non muovere mai un dito per compiacerti.

You realize how many times she could have been mad at you, but she let it go because she is like: “Everyone makes mistakes…so what?”

Now you realize how much shit she had to put up with because you’re no angel. You’re not someone who has deserved her. You are a person with flaws like everyone else. You made thousands of mistakes, and she never pointed out any of them.

She got over them, and she moved on loving you the same as before—loving you, even though you’ve hurt her.

Ti rendi conto che ti manca. 

Ma ti rendi conto che anche tu hai sbagliato.

She will get over you. She will love again. If that bit of conscience left in you is wondering whether you scarred her for life, I’ll tell you, you didn’t.

She’ll hurt, and it’s going to be painful. But, she’ll heal.

E un giorno incontrerà un altro uomo. Lo amerà e lo tratterà proprio come ha trattato lei, ma questa volta quell'uomo sarà consapevole di ciò che ha mentre lo ha.

That man won’t take her for granted and realize he misses her only after she’s gone.

You’ll even see them together. You’ll see her laugh. You’ll see her happy, and it will eat you alive. Your jealousy will become unbearable, but you had it coming.

You could have been that man she’s holding right now. You could have had everything with her by your side.

Now, you don’t have the right to miss her. You don’t have the right to want her back. Hai solo il diritto di lasciarla andare.