La relazione perfetta non esiste ma l'amore perfetto sì
Tutti sogniamo una relazione perfetta.
The kind of relationship where we won’t hide any part of ourself for the fear of rejection.
Una relazione in cui l'altra persona sarà tutto ciò che ammiriamo.
Sogniamo qualcuno che riempia le parti che ci mancano e metta la nostra vita a proprio agio.
In breve, cerchiamo qualcuno che ci faccia diventare un tutt'uno e ci tolga tutte le cose brutte con cui combattiamo.
Now, that’s a lot of pressure for a single person who’s no different from us in terms of innermost desires and shortcomings.
None of us is whole and perfect. We’re weirdly shaped and ragged but that’s what makes us interesting to look at.
We’re accidental works of art of some sort.
Le relazioni non saranno mai perfette because they consist of two unperfect humans who are trying their best to make sense of everything that’s happening to them.
Even when one of you is wrong, you’re still doing your best in that given moment.
It’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay not to understand everything immediately.
However, it’s not okay to repeat mistakes and fail to put effort into where effort is needed.
Lo sforzo è ciò che serve alla relazione per funzionare.
It’s a constant commitment to the one and only goal and that goal is to help each other on your life path and make each other happy.
Intraprendere una relazione seria significa accettare di essere presenti per la propria persona in ogni situazione che la vita ci propone.
That means a lot of uncertainty, a lot of doubt, lots of things we don’t really want to do. A lot of nonsense arguments, small frustrations, annoyance and hurt.
Nevertheless, love should be stronger than all of those and when it’s the real kind, è. Ma qual è il reale tipo di amore?
It’s the l'amore che non smette mai di evolversi e di perfezionarsi. It’s the love that doesn’t give up. It’s the love that understands before things are obvious.
Come possiamo perfezionare il nostro amore affinché sia così?
There’s no doubt that nothing in this world feels better than to be understood and amati per quello che siete Ma prima di esigere questo tipo di amore da un altro, dobbiamo trovarlo dentro di noi.
Perfezionando le nostre imperfezioni e curando il nostro dolore, impariamo ad amare senza giudicare.
It’s hardest to embrace our own imperfections; that’s why it’s important to learn to love our humanness.
It’s important to not get lost in a fantasy but love the ugly things too.
After all, everything we don’t love about ourself became the way it is because of a lack of love, care, and beauty; that’s how things become imperfect.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of projecting our own longings and wishes on another person who’s oblivious to our needs.
That’s another important issue when it comes to relationships: State your needs if you want them to be met. Talk about them. Find their core.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind or intuitively know what you know.
Apritevi, comunicate e abbiate fiducia in colui che vi ama.
La nostra umanità è piena di paure e insicurezze inspiegabili, di gelosia e avidità, di rabbia inutile e tristezza occasionale, ma anche di gioia e amore.
It’s not enough to love the flowers and stay away from the dirt. They are part of the same story, the same process.
The key is to love the process and magic of what it creates in the end. That’s love.
Love is trusting and seeing beyond what’s obvious.
The perfect relationship doesn’t exist but perfect love does and you’re capable of it.
