Sono "cattivi a mandare messaggi" (o semplicemente non sono interessati a te)?
If you ask me, texting is a double-edged sword. It helps us stay connected with people we care about (and ignore those we don’t), and at the same time, it has the power to make our lives a living hell.
Da quando queste domande sono diventate la nostra preoccupazione quotidiana: OMG, they haven’t sent me an emoji in a text message… what if they’re mad at me? They sent me a one-word reply. I seriously think that I should ask them what’s going on here.
Don’t even get me started on the “Seen” syndrome: I know they read my text message, but they still haven’t replied. Should I double-text them or should I pretend that I don’t care and that it’s okay for them to ignore me FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?
(I still can’t forgive the person who invented that famous “Seen” per averci rovinato la vita).
All these things force us to question whether they are ‘bad at texting’ or are they just not that into us. I know one thing for sure:
La distinzione tra le due tipologie non è così semplice come potrebbe sembrare.
It’s really hard to tell when a person is simply texting anti-talent and when they don’t care about you.
The worst thing of all is our tendency to make excuses for their behavior, so the phrase ‘bad at texting’ is sometimes nothing more than a LIE that we tell to ourselves because we don’t want to face the truth.
But, today, we’ll face the truth together.
Are they really ‘bad at texting’, but great in real life?
Avete conosciuto un ragazzo/una ragazza fantastico/a e tutto sembra perfetto quando siete insieme. Vi riempiono di affetto, vi fanno ridere, vi fanno sentire speciali e vi piace molto la loro compagnia.
And then, when you’re back at your place, things change drastically. You wait for them to text you for hours and nothing happens.
Oppure, vi hanno inviato qualcosa di completamente confuso, che vi fa mettere in discussione tutto.
So, there you are, sitting next to your cell phone overthinking and thinking about what’s exactly going on here.
Fanno davvero schifo con gli sms, ma sono fantastici nella vita reale? Esiste una cosa del genere?
Che ci crediate o no, sì, esiste. I’ve been with a guy who was really TERRIBLE at texting and I would always overthink things and worry about everything.
After some time, I asked him to tell me honestly how he’s feeling about me and to explain to me his texting indifference.
He told me that he’s totally crazy about me, but he doesn’t like texting. Finally, I realized that the reason why he sometimes ignored my text messages is that he hated replying to them, which brought me to the following conclusion:
If a person makes an effort in real life to treat you the way you deserve, then yes, chances are they are just ‘bad at texting’.
Cosa fare quando il vostro partner non è bravo a mandare messaggi (ma è bravissimo nella vita reale)
La cosa peggiore che potreste fare è iniziare a bombardarlo con tonnellate di messaggi di testo, chiedendogli di rispondere a ognuno di essi nel tentativo di costringerlo a cambiare.
• Keep seeing them in person as frequently as possible
• Don’t bombard them with text messages, but keep it simple
• Don’t see it as an issue, but try to understand it
• Instead of texting, prefer to call them
• Talk to them about it
Remember: their affection has nothing to do with their texting habit. If you know that they are great in real life, but not so great at texting, don’t let the latter prevail.
Tenete sempre a mente che tengono a voi, ma che hanno solo difficoltà a dimostrarvelo con i messaggi.
If they are guilty of doing THESE 6 THINGS then they’re not ‘bad at texting’, they’re just not that into you:
Now that we know when a person is really bad at texting, but great in real life, and we know what to do about it, it’s time to face the truth once again. It’s time to admit to yourself that maybe they’re just not that into you after all.
Ecco alcuni bandiere rosse per gli sms che non dovreste mai ignorare:
They’re only texting you when they’re bored or lonely.
Many of us use texting as a relaxing tool when we’re feeling bored or lonely. But, things get complicated when you’re doing that with someone who actually cares about you.
Not so long ago, I was texting with a guy who’s texting behavior was really suspicious. He would leave me in the middle of a conversation and he would never suggest meeting up in person.
Quando ho parlato di questo problema a una delle mie amiche, mi ha detto quanto segue: I’m sorry to tell you, but this is one of the biggest signs he’s only texting you when he’s bored or lonely.
La apprezzo per essere sempre brutalmente onesta con me. Vorrei solo aver capito prima cosa stava succedendo.
Le risposte di una sola parola sono diventate la norma.
If there’s anything in the world that I really hate, it is one-word replies. It’s like telling the other person: Hi and Bye (I don’t care about you).
Sometimes, one-word replies are justified (for example, when a person is busy at the moment), but if it happens on a regular basis, then you know they’re just not that into you.
So, please, don’t make excuses for them because they certainly didn’t deserve that.
A volte ci vogliono giorni/settimane/(mesi?) per rispondere.
Capisco perfettamente quando qualcuno è impegnato and doesn’t have time to text you back, but is it really possible to stay busy for days, weeks, or even months? I don’t think so.
Every single one of us can find a few seconds of our time to tell a person what exactly is going on and why we can’t text them at the moment. Anything else is just an excuse.
Meritate di più che dover aspettare per l'eternità che qualcuno vi risponda.
Tutto ciò che ti chiedono è di inviare loro dei nudi.
Seriously? I can’t accentuate enough how enraged I am about this one. I’ve had such an experience with one guy and all I can say is: Se mai dovesse succedere a voi, fuggite a gambe levate da loro.
There’s something utterly selfish in the fact that they don’t see you as a human being. They never ask you about your day or how you’re feeling because they are not interested in you on that level.
La matematica è semplice: All they ever ask you is to send them nudes because that’s the only thing they’re interested in.
L'invio di un messaggio per primo è un'occasione davvero rara.
I have no problems with initiating conversations, but if I have to do it every single time, then there’s something truly wrong with whatever situation-ship I’m in with that one person.
If they never or seldom bother to be the one texting first, then this is another huge sign that they’re not really into you. If they were, they would show it for sure.
Vi bombardano con foto non richieste.
Do you know what’s even worse than them asking you to send nudes? It’s them BOMBARDING you with unsolicited pics.
You can decide for yourself whether you’ll send them nudes or not, but you certainly can’t stay indifferent to their unsolicited pics.
Sapete come si dice: Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. If the only thing (or the main thing) they’re doing is bombarding you with pics of themselves, then you know they’re not ‘bad at texting’, but they are just not that into you.
I mean, you can’t be that ‘bad at texting’ to accidentally send dozens of unsolicited pics to someone, right? Right.
Do you still think that they’re ‘bad at texting’?
If you’ve just realized that they are actually ‘bad at texting’, but great in real life, congratulations! I’m truly happy for you.
If you’ve just realized that being ‘bad at texting’ was just your excuse for them, I’m both sorry and happy for you. I’m sorry that you didn’t realize it sooner, but I’m happy that you realize it now.
You still have a chance to live the life you deserve and to be with someone who is worthy of being with you. So, don’t waste your time texting those who don’t bother texting you back.
Don’t waste your time waiting, but face the truth and have faith that one day you will meet a guy/girl who will find plenty of different ways to show you that they really care about you.
