Smetti di mentire a te stessa: Se non ti tratta bene ora, non lo farà mai

Sei una persona che crede nel bene delle persone. Una ragazza che ha fede nel fatto che il suo amore è una forza onnipotente che può cambiare e sistemare chi ha bisogno di essere salvato.

You are an optimistic girl who believes in a better tomorrow, even if it’s against all odds. A girl who believes that things always find a way of sorting themselves out, one way or another.

Questo vale soprattutto per le relazioni sentimentali. Anche se tutti continuano a dirvi che your boyfriend isn’t good enough per voi, scegliete di ignorarle.

Non solo—scegliete anche di ignorare il vostro intuito e quella vocina in fondo alla testa che vi dice che lui non vi ha mai meritato e mai lo farà.

So, despite the way he’s been treating you, you keep on hoping that eventually he’ll change.

You keep on hoping that one of these days, things will magically fall into place and that he’ll turn into the man you hope for him to become.

That one of these days, he’ll realize how much you mean to him, that he’ll realize how much pain he’s been causing you all along and just like that—he’ll start treating you differently.

That he’ll start regretting the way he keeps on breaking your heart and that he’ll finally take responsibility for his actions. That one of these days, he’ll understand all of his mistakes and that he’ll do everything in his power to change his ways.

So che volete che le cose con quest'uomo funzionino nel miglior modo possibile. So che vuole che questa relazione abbia successo e so che spera davvero che lo abbia.

Tuttavia, all of this doesn’t give you the right to lie to yourself. It doesn’t give you the right to close your eyes to the obvious truth and to keep looking for excuses for this guy’s behavior.

It doesn’t justify the fact that you keep lying to yourself just so you could continue being with him.

However, this is exactly what you’ve been doing. You’ve been living a lie and you’ve been deceiving yourself, believing that this man will eventually change.

You refuse to look the truth in the eye and see him for who he really is. You refuse to accept the fact that things won’t be different and that he won’t miraculously become your dream guy.

No, he isn’t going through a rough patch—questo è il vero lui.

No, non è una fase—È così che le cose tra voi due saranno per sempre, a meno che non mettiate fine a questa relazione.

Quindi, per favore, smettete di mentire a voi stessi. Smettete di aspettare un cambiamento che non avverrà mai e accettate la realtà, per quanto dura o dolorosa possa essere.

Please, take your rose-tinted glasses off and see this man’s true colors. See that he will never treat you the way you deserve and that he will never give you the love you need.

Let’s face it—most of the time, this man acts like he doesn’t give a damn about your relationship.

He treats you like his second choice, he doesn’t give you the place you deserve in his life and he doesn’t respect you the way he should.

Il più delle volte, quest'uomo treats you like he doesn’t care about you. So, why exactly don’t you start believing him?

Quando smetterai di sperare in lui? Quando smetterai di aspettarti che lui si dia una regolata e inizi a darti l'amore e le attenzioni di cui hai bisogno?

Che cosa deve fare perché tu smetta di dargli infinite seconde possibilità, perché tu smetta di credere alle sue vuote promesse e perché tu smetta di mettere la tua vita in attesa che lui cambi?

What does it take for you to understand that if he doesn’t treat you the way he should now, chances are that he never will?

If he isn’t putting any effort into your relationship now, he probably never will. If he doesn’t love you enough now, that won’t change in the future.

Please, stop thinking that one of these days, he’ll wake up and suddenly come to his senses. Stop waiting for him to vedere il vostro vero valore and for him to start appreciating everything you’ve been giving him because that will never happen.

Please, don’t waste any more of your time or efforts on someone who clearly doesn’t deserve you. Instead, pack your bags and leave his sorry ass in the past, where he belongs.

Fidati di me—sarà la migliore decisione della vostra vita.