18 segni inequivocabili che mia moglie non è più attratta da me

That’s it. There’s no point in denying it anymore. I finally realized the signs my wife is not attracted to me anymore and came to terms with it.

A volte, it’s a very challenging job to keep the spark alive when you’re with someone in a long-term relationship. Purtroppo, io e mia moglie abbiamo ovviamente fallito.

To be honest, I don’t know where I went wrong. I would only want to know what made her change her feelings for me.

Most of all, I would like her to admit it to me and tell me the exact moment she realized that she isn’t attracted to me anymore.

Even though I came to terms with this unfortunate fact, I still don’t have the guts to confront her about it. After all, I do still love her, and honestly, I don’t want our marriage to end.

Abbiamo trascorso tanti anni insieme.

Ci sono così tanti bei ricordi che abbiamo creato insieme. A prescindere da ciò che accadrà in futuro con il nostro matrimonio, conserverò sempre quei momenti bellissimi e indimenticabili.

Alcune domande mi attraversano costantemente la mente.

È possibile salvare una relazione in crisi? Riusciremo a sistemare e salvare il nostro matrimonio? Riuscirò a conquistare di nuovo il suo cuore? Come salvare un matrimonio?

I have the same answer to all those questions… I don’t know. I truly don’t know. All I have left is the hope that even though she stopped being attracted to me, she has not stopped loving me.

Penso davvero che, così come l'amore è importante per far funzionare una relazione sana, lo è anche la passione. Aumenta l'intensità dei nostri sentimenti in una relazione sentimentale.

Il fatto è che se la passione è uscita dal vostro matrimonio, l'amore la seguirà e, prima o poi, anche l'amore lascerà il vostro matrimonio.

Prima lo accetterete, prima riuscirete a trovare una soluzione e a salvare il vostro matrimonio. L'amore è davvero una cosa molto complicata.

I know that feelings can change, but it’s very hard to accept that in one moment, you and your partner can be completely in love and madly attracted to each other, while in another moment, all that attraction can wax and wane just like that.

I know that the honeymoon phase can’t last forever, but respect, love, and support must remain in a relationship or marriage forever.

Se notate una qualsiasi delle bandiere rosse e dei comportamenti sospetti riportati di seguito, i campanelli d'allarme devono iniziare a suonare.

I put together these obvious signs my wife is not attracted to me anymore with the hope that it’ll help someone else find out the truth and try to save their marriage before it’s too late.

18 chiari segnali che mia moglie non è più attratta da me

When you’re in a relationship or you have been married to someone for a long time, it becomes very challenging to keep the spark alive.

Unfortunately, most couples fail to resist that challenge and that’s why there are more and more divorces nowadays.

Per avere e mantenere una relazione sana, entrambi i partner devono impegnarsi e lottare insieme.

È molto difficile per me ammetterlo, e fa male da morire, ma ho capito e finalmente sono venuto a patti con il fatto che mia moglie sta semplicemente uscendo dal nostro matrimonio.

If you’re in a similar situation, and if you’re asking how to know if your wife is not attracted to you and you are sentirsi insicuri sul matrimonioEcco alcuni innegabili segnali d'allarme per cui vostra moglie non è più attratta da voi, che spero vi siano d'aiuto.

Una mancanza di comunicazione.

One of the building bricks for every healthy relationship is good and effective communication. It’s hard to maintain a good relationship without it.

We almost stopped communicating completely. I really try to initiate communication, to talk about some irrelevant things, but I have a feeling that I’m bothering her or that she’s bored with me and my talking.

Also, I’ll have to prepare well before I confront her about everything I know. Ineffective and unhealthy communication always leads to creating misunderstandings and quarrels between partners.

If you aren’t struggling with a lack of communication in your marriage, you should have confronted your wife a long time ago.

I’m not saying you should fight with her; just sit together and talk about it, so you can achieve an agreement together.

I can feel that we’re slowly growing apart.

I know my wife and I can feel that she has become very distant. Sometimes, I feel like she can’t stand being in the same room with me.

We barely even talk. Our love life is suffering, too. We don’t spend any quality time together. We’ve become like two roommates… we only live together and that’s it.

I don’t remember the last time we told each other a simple ‘I love you’. Even when I say it, I feel like a fool because she gives me only a “half-smile” and turns to the other side of the bed.

Il romanticismo ha lasciato il nostro matrimonio.

We never go out on dates anymore, and that truly isn’t my fault. I’m the one who is always proposing to go out or do something new together and she always has some excuse ready to turn me down.

At the beginning of our marriage, she was always trying to surprise me with some romantic dinner dates or some other cute little things, and I knew that she wouldn’t always be so romantic, but all of that has completely stopped now.

I tried to surprise her a few times with a gift or by making her favorite meal, but nothing worked. She wasn’t surprised at all. She even got angry at me in a few of those situations.

Il romanticismo è ciò che mantiene viva la scintilla in una relazione. Una volta abbandonato il matrimonio, anche la scintilla se ne andrà e la vostra relazione sarà danneggiata in modo irreparabile.

Dà tutto per scontato.

È sempre stata una donna di azioni; odiava le parole. Ho sempre saputo che se volevo dimostrarle quanto la amavo, dovevo esprimerlo con i fatti.

Volevo per rimettere la vecchia scintilla into our marriage, and I tried to surprise her several times, but it was like she didn’t care for all those things I was doing for her.

I stopped trying for a while because I saw that it didn’t mean anything to her.

Ora fa tutto da sola. Prima eravamo entrambi coinvolti nei processi decisionali e lei non avrebbe mai fatto qualcosa senza prima consultarmi.

Now, it’s like she stopped involving me in her life and she stopped being involved in mine. Her priorities have changed, and definitely, I’m not on the top of that list anymore.

È diventata irrispettosa.

Every relationship should be based on mutual respect. When you truly love someone, you don’t want to be disrespectful to them because you know how that would hurt them.

Tenervi in considerazione quando si fanno progetti per il futuro e consultarvi su alcune cose importanti è un ottimo segno di rispetto.

A simple ‘thank you’ after you do something nice for them is a sign they respect you and don’t take you for granted.

In a good and healthy marriage, there shouldn’t be any secrets between partners. I noticed that my wife has started hiding some things from me, and that was the first sign of disrespect.

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She doesn’t initiate physical contact anymore.

A volte ho davvero la sensazione che mi odi e mi veda come il suo peggior nemico.

It’s not just that she doesn’t initiate physical contact anymore, but she also doesn’t allow me to touch her, to hug her, to cuddle her…

I’m trying to realize what I have done to her. I constantly rewind the film of the last few months in my head, but I really can’t understand what made her cool off so much.

Before, she was the one that always wanted to hold hands in public; now she gets angry every time I try to take her hand when we’re walking outside.

Va a letto prima di me ogni sera.

Ricordo come ci accoccolavamo davanti al camino o guardavamo film ogni sera prima. Era la mia parte preferita della giornata.

Ora anche questo è cambiato. Dopo aver cenato, guarda un po' la TV e va a letto molto prima di prima.

I have a feeling like she is running from me. She doesn’t want us to be close, and this is the best way to avoid it because she doesn’t have the guts to refuse me directly.

She seems “checked out” while we make love.

Come ho già detto, anche la nostra vita sentimentale sta soffrendo perché non c'è intimità between us. We hardly ever make love anymore, and even when we do, she seems cold and disconnected. I just don’t know how to farle trovare l'umore giusto più.

I have also stopped initiating it because I have a feeling like I’m forcing it, and that’s something I would never really do.

Per me, intimità fisica is all about connection and closeness. You can’t improve one without improving the other.

If you are feeling like your partner is disconnected while you’re being intimate, it’s probably because they’re focusing on something else.

They’re physically there, but both emotionally and mentally, they are in a whole different place.

She’s becoming emotionally unavailable.

For me, the worst thing is that I can’t get to her no matter how hard I try. She has become a closed-off person and I just can’t get to her.

Ogni volta che voglio parlare del nostro matrimonio e dei nostri sentimenti, ogni volta che le chiedo se va tutto bene, le risposte sono brevi e la conversazione finisce molto presto.

Avevamo un ottimo legame emotivo. Siamo sempre stati prima migliori amici, poi amanti e partner romantici. Conoscevo i suoi segreti più profondi e oscuri, così come lei conosceva i miei.

Parlavamo praticamente di tutto. Se uno di noi era turbato o arrabbiato per qualcosa, trovavamo sempre il modo di parlarne.

Litigare per cose stupide è la sua caratteristica ora.

Sometimes, I can’t even remember what we were fighting about because fights and quarrels about some stupid, irrelevant things have become a part of our everyday life now.

It’s like she wants us to be angry at each other all the time. We didn’t fight before, but now, it’s really driving me crazy.

I always say to her that no matter what the problem is, we can solve it through good and healthy communication. But no, she doesn’t believe in it anymore. Now, she only looks for reasons to fight with me.

She’s moody all the time, but only with me.

If I understand it well, all women are moody on those days of the month, right? Well, my wife is moody all the time, and I have noticed that she’s being moody only with me.

When we have guests, she’s nice and kind, but as soon as they leave, she brings back that moody other woman in her.

She blames me for everything bad that happens to us. She’s never pleased with my behavior or the way I treat her. She’s always nagging even about things that aren’t important at all.

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È diventata una vera professionista nel cambiare argomento.

For me, the problem isn’t that she doesn’t initiate communication anymore, it’s the fact that she’s avoiding talking with me.

Also, she has become very good at changing subjects that she isn’t okay with.

Every time I ask her what’s happening and why did she become so distant, she changes the subject and starts talking about something else. Sometimes, I don’t even realize it immediately.

I feel like she still cares for me and doesn’t want to admit that her feelings for me have changed because she knows it would hurt me. It’s the only logical explanation I can think of right now for her behavior.

She isn’t affectionate anymore.

Mi credereste se vi dicessi che ha completamente dimenticato il mio ultimo compleanno?

She didn’t buy me anything, she didn’t make a birthday cake for me, and she was always doing it… She didn’t even wish me a good and happy birthday.

Ero davvero triste e deluso. Non ho mai dimenticato il suo compleanno, il nostro anniversario o altre date importanti.

I knew how much those things mean to her and I couldn’t allow myself to hurt her by forgetting the date when we got married, for example.

Inoltre, mi faceva sempre delle piccole sorprese quando tornavo a casa dal lavoro.

Per esempio, una volta ha preparato il mio piatto preferito e ha messo in giro per casa un centinaio di foglietti adesivi su cui ha scritto i motivi per cui mi vuole bene.

Le telefonate e i messaggi di testo sono diventati molto rari.

Before, whenever I was on a business trip, she would constantly check in on me and I would get tons of her texts messages and calls where she was telling me how much she misses me, and that she can’t wait for me to come back home.

Now, she only asks how long will I be on the trip, and that’s all. I really miss her messages because each message would brighten up my day and make me smile.

Linguaggio del corpo chiuso.

Sono sempre stata consapevole del fatto che, per avere una relazione di successo con qualcuno, bisogna imparare a leggere il suo linguaggio del corpo.

Ho sempre capito quando era arrabbiata, turbata, triste, delusa o felice dai gesti del suo corpo.

Now, I’m not able to read them because her linguaggio del corpo has become totally closed-off. This is just another way she doesn’t allow me to come near her.

Sceglie di fare più spesso gli straordinari.

All'inizio pensavo che volesse fare carriera e mi andava bene che facesse gli straordinari. Ma quando ha ottenuto la promozione, ha continuato a tornare a casa tardi.

I’ve spent a lot of time trying to accept this, but now I’m sure that she’s choosing to work overtime rather than to come home and be with me the entire evening.
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I know her job. I know how things work there. No one will make you work overtime if you don’t want to.

Therefore, it seems to me that it’s a very good opportunity for her to run from home and avoid me as much as possible throughout the day.

Ho scoperto alcune cose che mi hanno fatto dubitare della sua lealtà.

She’s always on her phone. I know it’s wrong, but I just had a feeling that that little glass box might be the reason why she has become so distant.

So, one day, while she was making us dinner, I snooped through her phone. I didn’t want to read her texts with her girlfriends; I only wanted to see if there was someone new in her life.

I found some compromising messages from one of her co-workers. He makes her laugh and that’s precisely how I seduce her.

I don’t want to make any hasty conclusions, but I really think that there is something going on between them.

I’m still afraid to confront her because I know that if she falls in love with that man, then our little bit matrimonio infelice è decisamente irrecuperabile.

Il mio istinto mi dice che qualcosa non va.

Do you know the feeling when that inner voice is just telling you that something is awkward? Well, I can’t get rid of that feeling, and I’m completely sure that voice is telling me the truth.

I know my wife. I know that she has changed. Even though I can’t find reasons for it, her behavior towards me has definitely changed. I only hope that her feelings are still the same as before.

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Parole finali

Ho iniziato a notare questi segnali che mia moglie non è più attratta da me molto tempo fa, ma mi ci è voluto un po' per accettarlo e venirne a capo.

I’m still attracted to her and I still love her like I did the very first day, so it has been very difficult for me to accept the fact that her feelings have changed.

She’s still my best friend, my partner in crime, my lover, and my everything. I still hope this is just a phase and we’ll be able to fight with it and save our marriage.

I’m not quitting, and I will never give up on our marriage because I honestly love her and appreciate everything we’ve achieved together over the years.

Quando si tratta di vero amore, non bisogna mai mollare o arrendersi.

Il motivo per cui ho messo insieme questi segnali per cui mia moglie non è più attratta da me è perché voglio aiutare altri uomini che si trovano nella stessa situazione a capire se i loro le mogli hanno perso il desiderio di loro o meno.

I know it’s hard to accept it, especially if you still honestly love your wife, but the sooner you come to terms with it, the sooner you will be able to riparare un matrimonio in crisi.

However, you should know that a fluctuation in the romance can be just a temporary phase in your marriage. It doesn’t have to mean that it’s doomed or that your wife has stopped loving you.

La passione e il romanticismo si alternano e si affievoliscono in una relazione.

It doesn’t mean that you’re in un matrimonio senza amore or that it has come to an end, and it definitely doesn’t mean that your partner doesn’t love you anymore or wants to leave you.

Inoltre, non dovete mai incolpare voi stessi per questo. Ci sono tante possibili ragioni per cui la scintilla è scomparsa dalla vostra relazione.

Menopausa, figli, problemi di autostima e di fiducia in se stessi sono solo alcuni dei possibili motivi per cui vostra moglie ha smesso di essere attratta da voi.

Un'altra cosa da sapere è che tutte le coppie sposate incontrare sfide e difficoltà.

If your bond is strong and if the love is real, then there is no obstacle that you won’t be able to overcome together.

Potete riconquistare la vostra amante. Basta ricordarle il motivo per cui si è innamorata di voi all'inizio.

Remind her of your first date or the first time you two kissed. Bring back some of those beautiful memories and win your wife’s heart back again.

Ricordate sempre che il vero amore si dimostra sempre attraverso le piccole cose, perché sono quelle che contano di più per ogni donna.

On the other hand, if you’re aware that your wife has stopped loving you and ti tradisce con un'altra persona, anche se la amate profondamente, dovete trovare la forza di lasciarla andare.

Let go of your marriage because there is no point in saving a broken relationship if the other side isn’t willing to cooperate. You can’t fix your marriage by yourself.

Don’t ever force anything in life, but especially, don’t force love.

If you’re aware that she doesn’t love you the way she used to or that there is another man in her life, it’s best for you to let her go, and move on with your life.

I know it’ll be painful and it’ll hurt you, but you need to man up and be brave. There is no point in sticking with something that has no future, and a loveless marriage definitely doesn’t have a future.

For the last time, I’m going to ask you to think well about these warning signs that your wife is not attracted to you anymore.

If you love her, then fight for her until your last breath. But, if you have a feeling that she has checked out of your marriage, then it’s time for you to do the same.

Whichever option you choose, I wish you luck. I know you’ll need it as much as I need it right now.

I’m going to tell you only one thing more… fight for true love because it’s truly the only thing that brings meaning to our lives.