3 segnali allarmanti del fatto che non sei altro che la sua fidanzata adottiva

Ultimamente sta spuntando il termine "fidanzata adottiva". Anche se è stato reso popolare dai TikTokers solo di recente, il fenomeno esiste da sempre.

In pratica, una fidanzata adottiva è quella con cui gli uomini escono finché non trovano la loro persona per sempre.

Quella che i ragazzi usano come trampolino di lancio per la loro destinazione finale: la donna con cui vogliono passare il resto della loro vita.

So, how can you tell if you’re someone’s foster girlfriend? Just go through these red flags and if most of them are relatable, everything is crystal clear.

You’re more his parent than his romantic partner

When you come to think about it, if it weren’t for your intimate moments, someone would characterize you as this guy’s mother more than his girlfriend.

Per la maggior parte del tempo, si comporta come un monello immaturo who doesn’t know what he wants from life.

On the other hand, you’re the one who takes the lead. The one who takes care of him and raises him.

You might think this is how a healthy relationship should work. Well, it would be perfect if all of it wasn’t one-sided.

I hate to be the one to break it to you but you’re just preparing this man for the woman who will come after you.

You’re teaching him everything he needs to know about relationships and life in general.

You’re teaching him good manners, advising him regarding literally everything and you’re pushing him forward to become the best possible version of himself.

Yes, you’ll turn a boy into a man. You’ll spend years watering a plant that will eventually bloom.

Nevertheless, the problem is that you won’t reap the fruits of your labor.

Invece, basta fare tutto il lavoro duro e la ragazza che viene dopo di te le avrà.

Rifiuta di impegnarsi con voi

Another sign that you’re your boyfriend’s foster girlfriend lies in his inability to commit.

Even though you two have been together for ages, he still acts as if your relationship isn’t serious enough.

Non è devoto a voi, né lo è si è impegnato a fondo di qualsiasi tipo nella vostra storia d'amore. Inoltre, si rifiuta di parlare del futuro.

He makes plans without you and doesn’t include you in his life the way he should. He doesn’t see you two as partners in crime.

Beh, lasciatemi dire una cosa; you’re not his final destination. Instead, he just sees you as one of the stops along the way.

Please, stop fooling yourself. He is not a commitment-phobe, he just doesn’t want to commit TO YOU.

Actually, this is the entire point. YOU are not the girl he takes seriously, he doesn’t plan his future with YOU and he doesn’t see YOU as his real partner.

Non è emotivamente disponibile

Quando l'uomo che frequentate e di cui vi prendete cura non vi riserva il trattamento che meritate, invece di vedere la verità, trovate delle scuse per lui.

Don’t worry; almost all women do this.

Ebbene, una delle giustificazioni più comuni nella vostra situazione è il presunto indisponibilità emotiva.

You’re a smart girl so it didn’t take you long to realize that your guy doesn’t see you as his forever person.

Tuttavia, invece di allontanarvi, avete concluso che ha bisogno di tempo per abbattere i muri intorno al suo cuore.

You think he does love you but he doesn’t know how to show it the right way.

Forse è stato danneggiato in passato e ora ha paura di aprirsi. Non è in grado di amare nessuno nel modo giusto e questo è il suo massimo.

Suona familiare, vero? Ebbene, tutto questo è una favola.

He is not emotionally unavailable. In fact, you’ll see that for yourself once he gives his wholehearted love to her.

All of a sudden, he’ll become everything you wanted him to be.

He won’t have trouble expressing his true feelings, he’ll be romantic and attentive and will go out of his way for the sake of that relationship.

Quindi, per favore, toglietevi gli occhiali rosa e smettetela di trovare scuse per qualcosa che è destinato a fallire.

Hey, nobody likes being a foster girlfriend. Let’s be real, this is not something you’ve dreamed about or how you saw your romantic future.

Nevertheless, I’m begging you not to see this as the end of the world. At least, now you know where you stand and you can do something about it.

Ciò che non si deve mai fare in queste circostanze è rimproverarsi di essere una fidanzata adottiva.

This is not your fault and it doesn’t make you any less worthy.

You two just didn’t click enough. He’s never seen you as ‘the one’ and your relationship has never been the ‘real deal’.

However, trust me when I tell you that he isn’t ‘the one’ for you either. You’ll understand that once you find your forever person.