5 caratteristiche che fanno sì che i ragazzi con problemi di impegno rimangano in una relazione
Avete mai amato una persona che sembra essere allergica all'impegno? Sì, è capitato a tutti. Ho passato secoli a cercare di capire come attrarlo e farlo rimanere. Tuttavia, ha sempre continuato a scappare quando c'era anche la minima possibilità di una relazione seria.
I know it can be incredibly frustrating when you really want him and you see he likes you too but he just can’t take that next big step.
Mi sono rivolto a dei coach di incontri e ho letto numerosi blog che rivelavano perché gli uomini esitano a impegnarsi e cosa li fa rimanere. Tutti concordavano sul fatto che gli uomini con problemi di impegno vogliono una donna che:
1. Evita inutili drammi
No one wants a relationship that’s like the most dramatic Spanish telenovela, right? Il dramma è un'enorme disaffezione per questi ragazzi.
Prendiamo questo esempio. Una volta la mia auto si è rotta mentre andavamo al nostro appuntamento e, invece di dare di matto, ho chiamato un carro attrezzi e ho riso con lui di questo inconveniente. Mi ha detto che avrebbe odiato se fossi stata il tipo di persona che si fa prendere dal panico e crea drammi per questo.
Being with a woman who’s a drama queen and makes a problem out of every little thing is pretty exhausting. And annoying if we’re honest. Parlate di qualsiasi problema e mantenete la calma. He’ll appreciate that more than you think.
People who are unwilling to commit are often like that for a reason. Maybe they’ve been in a relationship that was nothing but arguments and stupid fights so now they’re scared of reliving that experience again. If you keep things peaceful and chill, he’ll stay around forever.
2. Crea uno spazio sicuro e comprende
Gli uomini con problemi di impegno portano con sé molti bagagli, sia di relazioni fallite che della loro vita passata e persino dell'infanzia. Dovete essere pronti e in grado di gestire tutto il disordine emotivo che viene fornito in una confezione con loro.
You might be his first serious and healthy relationship so there’ll probably be a lot of work to do until he feels comfortable with you and lets his true personality shine.
Create una zona priva di giudizi se volete che si apra. so he finally gets a sense that someone is willing to listen and understand him. You don’t need to be his psychologist, just give yourself time to build trust and that’ll be a huge step towards your commitment.
3. Si gode la vita e la mantiene interessante
Dimenticatevi di essere pigri e di passare le giornate a guardare i programmi di Netflix. Alzatevi ed esplorate il mondo!
Se vuoi attrarlo, it’s time to think about being more spontaneous. Plan an unexpected trip away, do things out of your comfort zone, and apply for that cooking course you’ve always wanted! These men want something new every day, both unpredictable and fun!
Una volta sono andata a uno di questi eventi "wine&paint" con la mia “hard to catch” date and mind you, I don’t even know how to hold a brush, let alone paint a whole picture! My attempt at painting definitely turned into something nowhere near artistic, unlike his work of art. But he found it funny and we had a great time!
By being adventurous and fun, you’ll always keep things interesting so he’ll want to stay and be part of your journey. Also, Ogni nuova esperienza è un'ottima occasione per creare un legame.e di creare ricordi che non possono che avvicinarvi!
4. Goes with the flow and doesn’t stress
It’s the same as with unnecessary drama – they want peace. I know you really want to put a stamp on your relationship but slow down! There’s enough time and no need to rush that process.
Godetevi il viaggio, lasciate che tutto accada al suo ritmo., and show him you’re not desperate. Constantly pushing him and adding additional pressure will scare him away. And that’s not something you want.
You want to be his calm place, someone he thinks about when he’s stressed and knows you’d calm him down just by being there. That’s why è necessario avere un'energia rilassata e credetemi, se lo fate, non vi lascerà mai andare.
5. Ha i suoi interessi e non è appiccicoso
If there’s something men are scared of more than commitment, it’s having someone glued to them 24/7. They don’t want to be with someone who acts obsessively. Feeling required to please someone’s needs every millisecond is just tiring.
When you have your own thing going on it makes you instantly more attractive to everyone! Why? Because you show your happiness and well-being don’t depend on someone else. You can enjoy a day without them and let them have their freedom without holding resentment.
I used to think I needed to leave everything behind when I got into a relationship and this wasn’t healthy at all. It just created unnecessary chaos in our lives because I wouldn’t let him breathe.
Avere i propri hobby e interessi fa bene anche a voi. It can help you lead a fulfilled life and at the same time, it’ll take the pressure off him.
I think the universe works in mysterious ways. You’ll see that the moment you stop chasing something, it’ll come your way.
Besides this, it’s important to know that some people are just not destined for us and that’s okay. Maybe not having them as part of your life is actually good for you.
By letting go of what’s not good for you, you’re making space for what is meant for you. However, these traits are good to have just in case!
