Lettera aperta al mio ex: grazie per avermi tradito

Anche se il tradimento è diventato tristemente comune negli appuntamenti moderni, essere traditi dalla persona amata è ancora una delle cose più devastanti che si possano provare.

Dovrei saperlo perché l'ho provato sulla mia pelle.

Quando tu, che pensavo fossi il l'amore della mia vita mi ha tradito, mi sono sentita tradita, umiliata e delusa, oltre ad avere il cuore spezzato.

I felt like the person I trusted the most backstabbed me in the most awful way. Also, I couldn’t help but wonder how come I didn’t see it before.

Come mai sono stata così sciocca da permettere che una cosa del genere continuasse ad accadere proprio davanti ai miei occhi, senza che io mi accorgessi di nulla?

In questo modo, il mio senso di autostima è scomparso da un giorno all'altro.

I asked myself what you missed in our relationship that you had to search for in someone else. What did this girl have that I didn’t?

Every single one of these thoughts and questions ran through my head the moment I found out that you weren’t faithful.

Even though staying by your side was never an option, leaving you didn’t ease my pain.

Mi sentivo come se volessi morire e come se niente e nessuno potesse aiutarmi a stare meglio. Come se fosse la fine del mondo e come se non mi sarei mai ripresa da tutto quello che mi hai fatto.

Mi sono chiesto come ho potuto sprecare tanti anni della mia vita vivendo nella menzogna.

Obviously, you never loved nor respected me the way you should have because you don’t do a thing like this to someone you love.

Capirei se tu fossi abbastanza onesto da dirmi che ti sei disinnamorato di me.

Ma quello che non sono mai riuscita a capire e a perdonare è stato il fatto di aver violato la mia fiducia e di avermi tenuto come piano di riserva pur avendo una relazione e convincendomi che mi amavi più di ogni altra cosa.

After some time spent grieving, I’ve decided it is time to rimettermi in sesto in un modo o nell'altro.

Dopo tutto, voi eravate da qualche parte là fuori a vivere la vostra vita, come se non fosse successo nulla, e io ero qui, aggrappata a questo dolore e a permettere che il mio cuore spezzato mi definisse.

I’ve decided that I wasn’t to blame for everything that went on and that you are the only one responsible for your barare .

Vedi anche: Una lettera al mio ex fidanzato

Sapevo di aver fatto del mio meglio per far funzionare la nostra relazione, e se c'era qualcosa che ti infastidiva, avresti dovuto parlarne apertamente invece di scherzare alle mie spalle.

I’ve decided that hating the girl you had an affair with was pointless, as well.

Yes, my first instinct was to blame her for everything, but then it hit me—she wasn’t the one who promised commitment to me.

She wasn’t the one who would lay in bed next to me every night as if everything was alright, the one who continued to make future plans with me, knowing what was happening, and the one who kept on swearing that she loved me, even though the truth was completely different.

Nevertheless, despite all of this, I learned that I shouldn’t be hating you either. I’ve realized that holding grudges and being bitter was only impacting me negatively.

My desire for revenge was only making me a prisoner of my own pain, and it didn’t affect you in any way whatsoever.

So, this is not me cursing you or wishing you all the worst. This is not me resenting you or swearing that I’ll never forgive you for everything you’ve done.

No, this is me thanking you. Yes, you’ve heard it right: I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for cheating on me.

Because if you hadn’t done it, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t know how strong of a woman I am, and I wouldn’t know how much I could take.

I wouldn’t know that a simple heartbreak can’t break me completely. That time really does heal all wounds and that every pain is temporary, no matter how devastating it might feel.

I wouldn’t know that I could make it without you or without anyone else to hold my hand. If you hadn’t cheated on me, I wouldn’t have become my own hero and savior.

I wouldn’t understand some verità illuminanti sull'amore e le persone in generale.

I wouldn’t know that there are some insensitive and toxic people, such as yourself, who don’t give a damn about hurting others and that my love can’t change those people, as much as I would like it to.

Ma soprattutto, if you hadn’t cheated on me, I wouldn’t have loved and respected myself the way I do now.

I wouldn’t know how much I deserve, what love isn’t or what to expect from a healthy relationship.

I wouldn’t be this proud of my strength and my capacity to overcome all miseries.

I wouldn’t have known better than not to let people who don’t deserve me into my life, and I would continue thinking that there is nothing wrong with settling for less.

Quindi, grazie per avermi spezzato il cuore. Thank you for cheating on me because if you hadn’t done it, I would have never learned a valuable life lesson.