10 lições importantes que a sua quase relação pode ensinar-lhe

Even if he wasn’t the right one, the pain will still be there 

Só porque o seu parceiro não era a pessoa certa, não quer dizer que não sofra.

Tu é que querias que isto resultasse. Deste o teu coração e a tua alma para desenvolver bases fortes com o homem. 

Querias tudo, mas não recebeste nada em troca.

Eras apenas mais uma rapariga que ele seduzia com o seu charme e as suas palavras doces.

E tu caíste nessa.

You gave all you had and he couldn’t even commit to you.

So, when he leaves, don’t wonder why your heart is broken.

It’s completely normal that you feel that way. 

But trust me, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Maybe you feel bad now, but you’ll soon be so happy that you got rid of someone who could never love you the way you deserve.

If he doesn’t make you feel good, you’re allowed to leave 

Permanecer numa relação quase perfeita é como agarrar-se a algo que não é real.

Só pode ficar com o coração ainda mais partido e acabar deprimido. 

No man should ever make you feel like you’re not good enough.

E se houver alguém que vos faça sentir assim, esqueçam-no.

He’ll never be the man of your dreams. 

Ele nunca poderia dar-te o amor que mereces.

And what’s most important: ele nunca te pôs em primeiro lugar.

That’s why you should leave whenever you feel unappreciated.

If you’re ready to invest it all to be happy with him and he doesn’t feel the same way, just leave.

If he cared enough, he’d pursue you.

But since he’s not giving you what you want, it is better to end it before it’s too late.

Acredita em mim, ninguém te vai culpar por escolheres perseguir a tua felicidade. 

Merece uma conclusão

Não se deve implorar por uma conclusão.

It’s something that should happen naturally.

One of the characteristics of almost relationships is not getting closure because the one who loves less thinks he doesn’t have to justify himself. 

So you end up with all your feelings and you don’t know where to put them.

You’re confused because you didn’t see the red flags and now it’s suddenly all over.

Pode ser bastante duro.

But even if he doesn’t give you any closure, just move on and be happy that you’re free to do what you want. 

Salvou-se a tempo e pode agora começar um novo capítulo da sua vida.

Podes apaixonar-te por alguém que sabe amar.

You can’t change anyone

No matter how much you try, you can’t change someone unless they want to do so.

So, don’t even try.

Don’t waste your time and energy on trying to make someone love you. 

Love and friendships shouldn’t be forced.

Devem surgir naturalmente.

E se vires que não vais a lado nenhum, esquece.

Vai doer menos, confia em mim.

O que precisa de fazer é aceitar que não está destinado a vocês os dois e seguir em frente. 

Once you remove yourself from everything that was breaking you, you’ll see that you did the right thing.

E a sensação de estar tão orgulhoso de si próprio será a mais doce de sempre.

O problema não está em si

I know that you’ll reach a stage where you believe that the problem lies with you.

It’s not true. You are not guilty of falling in love with that jerk. 

You didn’t know how he’d behave toward you.

You believed all he said and thought he’d provide you with that fairytale he was talking about.

You gave him all you had and he didn’t give you anything in return.

You waited for him to get his shit together but he didn’t change. 

E não tem qualquer intenção de o fazer.

He won’t feel bad after you leave him.

He’ll just jump over to another victim and do the same to her.

So, don’t think you’re the guilty one.

He’s the one to blame.

Please don’t you ever forget that.

O amor já não tem o mesmo significado para ti

After you get your heart broken, you don’t have the same outlook on love.

When you escape an almost relationship, you’re so scared that every next man who enters your life will do the same to you. 

Pensamos nisto sempre que alguém nos chama a atenção.

E depois foge-se sempre do amor.

And even if you know that you’re not doing the right thing, you’ll be a prisoner of your own mind for so long. 

You think that true love doesn’t exist until you find a man who makes all your doubts go away.

Só então será finalmente a versão antiga de si próprio. 

Aprende-se a respeitar-se mais a si próprio 

After all that you’ve gone through in your almost relationship, you actually learned one thing well: how to respect and love yourself.

Now you know that if you don’t respect yourself enough, others won’t do it either. 

And that’s what you are proud of currently.

Percebemos que qualquer homem mau tentará enganar-nos e aproveitar-se de nós se o deixarmos.

Mas como já passou pelo horror de estar com alguém que queria tudo sem lhe dar nada em troca, sabe como agir agora. 

Nunca permitirás que nenhum homem te maltrate ou te tome por garantida.

Agora queres tudo ou nada.

And you’re staying single até obteres o que realmente mereces. 

Ultrapassa-se mais cedo do que se pensa 

Maybe you don’t believe that you’ll get over your almost relationship, but you will.

De facto, acontece mais cedo do que se pensa.

I know that you are confused now and don’t know how to move on, but you’ll learn to live with it over time. 

You’ll go through different phases and learn new things about yourself.

You’ll realize that you’re no longer the same person and the change you went through actually helped you. 

Maybe you didn’t end up with the love of your life, but you learned to get over some things faster.

You discovered a new strength within yourself and are now so proud of the woman you’ve become. 

You no longer compare your love life with other people’s lives 

Quando se acaba uma relação quase terminada, aprendem-se algumas coisas.

You learn that you shouldn’t compare your love life with other people’s lives. 

You realize that every love story is individual and you can’t expect the same thing to happen to you as to your best friend.

If you continue doing that, you’ll end up depressed every time someone else gets what you wanted. 

Além disso, há pessoas que sabem mentir bem e fingir que está tudo bem.

That’s one more reason to stop trusting all that you see.

Quanto mais cedo o conseguir, mais fácil será para si.

Se alguém te ama, vai atrás de ti 

It is pretty simple. You know if someone loves you if they’re prepared to chase you.

Ponto final. Tudo o resto são brincadeiras.

So, when you notice that a man you’re seeing wants boyfriend benefits but doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, just know it’s a red flag. 

If someone truly cares about you, he’ll make some effort.

He’ll try to make you feel good and nothing will be too much for him.

So, next time someone tries to lead you on just because they’re your weak spot, just move on. 

Qualquer pessoa que queira mais do que dá não é suficientemente digna de fazer parte da sua vida.