10 lecciones importantes que te puede enseñar tu relación casi amorosa

Even if he wasn’t the right one, the pain will still be there 

Que tu pareja no fuera la adecuada no significa que no vayas a sufrir.

Tú eras el que quería que esto funcionara. Te entregaste en cuerpo y alma a desarrollar sólidos fundamentos con el hombre. 

Lo querías todo pero no recibiste nada a cambio.

Eras una chica más a la que engañaba con su encanto y sus dulces palabras.

Y caíste en la trampa.

You gave all you had and he couldn’t even commit to you.

So, when he leaves, don’t wonder why your heart is broken.

It’s completely normal that you feel that way. 

But trust me, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Maybe you feel bad now, but you’ll soon be so happy that you got rid of someone who could never love you the way you deserve.

If he doesn’t make you feel good, you’re allowed to leave 

Permanecer en una casi relación es como aferrarse a algo que no es real.

Sólo conseguirás que te rompan aún más el corazón y acabarás deprimido. 

No man should ever make you feel like you’re not good enough.

Y si hay alguien que te hace sentir así, olvídate de él.

He’ll never be the man of your dreams. 

Nunca podría darte el amor que mereces.

And what’s most important: nunca podría ponerte en primer lugar.

That’s why you should leave whenever you feel unappreciated.

If you’re ready to invest it all to be happy with him and he doesn’t feel the same way, just leave.

If he cared enough, he’d pursue you.

But since he’s not giving you what you want, it is better to end it before it’s too late.

Créeme, nadie te culpará por elegir perseguir tu felicidad. 

Te mereces un cierre

Conseguir el cierre no es algo por lo que debas mendigar.

It’s something that should happen naturally.

One of the characteristics of almost relationships is not getting closure because the one who loves less thinks he doesn’t have to justify himself. 

So you end up with all your feelings and you don’t know where to put them.

You’re confused because you didn’t see the red flags and now it’s suddenly all over.

Puede ser bastante duro.

But even if he doesn’t give you any closure, just move on and be happy that you’re free to do what you want. 

Te has salvado a tiempo y ahora puedes empezar un nuevo capítulo de tu vida.

Puedes enamorarte de alguien que sabe amar.

You can’t change anyone

No matter how much you try, you can’t change someone unless they want to do so.

So, don’t even try.

Don’t waste your time and energy on trying to make someone love you. 

Love and friendships shouldn’t be forced.

Deberían surgir de forma natural.

Y si ves que no vas a ninguna parte, déjalo estar.

Te dolerá menos, créeme.

Lo que tienes que hacer es aceptar que no está destinado a vosotros dos y seguir adelante. 

Once you remove yourself from everything that was breaking you, you’ll see that you did the right thing.

Y esa sensación de estar tan orgulloso de ti mismo será la más dulce de todas.

El problema no está en ti

I know that you’ll reach a stage where you believe that the problem lies with you.

It’s not true. You are not guilty of falling in love with that jerk. 

You didn’t know how he’d behave toward you.

You believed all he said and thought he’d provide you with that fairytale he was talking about.

You gave him all you had and he didn’t give you anything in return.

You waited for him to get his shit together but he didn’t change. 

Y no tiene intención de hacerlo.

He won’t feel bad after you leave him.

He’ll just jump over to another victim and do the same to her.

So, don’t think you’re the guilty one.

He’s the one to blame.

Please don’t you ever forget that.

El amor ya no significa lo mismo para ti

After you get your heart broken, you don’t have the same outlook on love.

When you escape an almost relationship, you’re so scared that every next man who enters your life will do the same to you. 

Piensa en esto cada vez que alguien llame tu atención.

Y entonces huyes del amor siempre.

And even if you know that you’re not doing the right thing, you’ll be a prisoner of your own mind for so long. 

You think that true love doesn’t exist until you find a man who makes all your doubts go away.

Sólo entonces serás por fin la antigua versión de ti mismo. 

Aprendes a respetarte más a ti mismo 

After all that you’ve gone through in your almost relationship, you actually learned one thing well: how to respect and love yourself.

Now you know that if you don’t respect yourself enough, others won’t do it either. 

And that’s what you are proud of currently.

Te das cuenta de que cualquier hombre malo intentará engañarte y aprovecharse de ti si se lo permites.

Pero como has pasado por el horror de estar con alguien que lo quería todo sin darte nada a cambio, ya sabes cómo actuar. 

Nunca permitirás que ningún hombre te maltrate o te dé por sentada.

Ahora lo quieres todo o nada.

And you’re staying single hasta que consigas lo que realmente mereces. 

Lo superas antes de lo que crees 

Maybe you don’t believe that you’ll get over your almost relationship, but you will.

De hecho, ocurre antes de lo que crees.

I know that you are confused now and don’t know how to move on, but you’ll learn to live with it over time. 

You’ll go through different phases and learn new things about yourself.

You’ll realize that you’re no longer the same person and the change you went through actually helped you. 

Maybe you didn’t end up with the love of your life, but you learned to get over some things faster.

You discovered a new strength within yourself and are now so proud of the woman you’ve become. 

You no longer compare your love life with other people’s lives 

Cuando terminas una relación casi, aprendes un par de cosas.

You learn that you shouldn’t compare your love life with other people’s lives. 

You realize that every love story is individual and you can’t expect the same thing to happen to you as to your best friend.

If you continue doing that, you’ll end up depressed every time someone else gets what you wanted. 

Además, hay gente que sabe mentir bien y fingir que todo va bien.

That’s one more reason to stop trusting all that you see.

Cuanto antes lo consigas, más fácil te resultará.

Si alguien te quiere, te perseguirá 

It is pretty simple. You know if someone loves you if they’re prepared to chase you.

Punto. Todo lo demás son tonterías.

So, when you notice that a man you’re seeing wants boyfriend benefits but doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, just know it’s a red flag. 

If someone truly cares about you, he’ll make some effort.

He’ll try to make you feel good and nothing will be too much for him.

So, next time someone tries to lead you on just because they’re your weak spot, just move on. 

Cualquier persona que quiera más de lo que da no es lo suficientemente digna para formar parte de tu vida.