10 medos irracionais que todos os homens têm nos relacionamentos

Fear can keep us from doing so many great things. Usually, it’s the female side of the relationship who has the biggest fears regarding the relationship.

She’s always questioning everything in order to know if there’s anything wrong. But what if I told you that men are the ones with the most irrational fears in their relationships?

In their eyes, a relationship can be wonderful or terrifying; there’s no in-between. They are afraid of the same things as we women are, plus more.

É claro que isto pode não se aplicar a todos os homens. Cada pessoa é completamente diferente e as mulheres podem experimentar estes medos também.

1. Não ter tempo suficiente

Os homens têm medo that throughout the week they won’t have the time needed to dedicate to the relationship.

They don’t find it rational to invest a whole day in a road trip with their girlfriend when they could finish a project they started or watch the game that night.

2. Não se esforçar o suficiente

Because of the fact that they are scared that they won’t make time for their girlfriend, this automatically leads to the fear of not giving enough effort.

Os homens não têm noção de quanta atenção uma mulher realmente precisa e o que fazer para que ela se sinta especial.

So this puts a lot of pressure on them and they fear that they won’t do a good job.

3. Andar demasiado depressa

This fear can be so illogical that it can slow down the relationship process. You see, men are creatures of habit and when they start a relationship after a long period of being single, something seems off and they don’t really seem to like that things are a mover-se tão depressa.

You might be together for years and he still can’t ‘’put a ring on it’’ because of his fear. This can lead a pensar demais e ele pode realmente começar a questionar toda a relação.

4. Alterar

Este medo é um pouco racional. As nossas vidas são para sermos nós próprios e fazermos todas as coisas que gostamos de fazer, certo? Assim, naturalmente, os homens receiam que a sua relação os possa mudar ao ponto de deixarem de gostar das coisas que gostavam quando eram solteiros.

Relationships can be time-consuming and he might be thinking that there’s no way you can put effort into making your partner feel happy and into the other dreams and goals you have besides the relationship.

5. Não há sexo suficiente

We all know that men love sexual interaction and they fear that having sex with one partner for the rest of their life might get boring at one point or that their partner won’t be up for having sex as often as they do.

Além disso, os homens gostam de ter relações sexuais com muitas mulheres, só para apimentar as coisas. Por isso, uma vida sexual monogâmica não é assim tão apelativa para eles.

6. A partner who’s too needy

Bem, é claro que as relações criam dependências entre si, mas os homens receiam que a sua namorada possa ser demasiado dependente deles e carente.

Because he loves you, he will do whatever it takes to make you happy, but that also creates scenarios that aren’t really pleasing to him.

Men want more breathing space as they’re getting to know their partner and that’s what’ll give them some security.

7. Batota

Trair é a pior e mais desonesta coisa que uma pessoa que amamos nos pode fazer.

After you’ve been cheated on, you start feeling like you’re not good enough and men, just like women, don’t want that.

They fear you cheating on them and whatever they say, it’ll break their heart to the core if you do.

8. Vulnerabilidade

We all know that men are born protectors. Society doesn’t let them show a weakness of any kind and they got used to that mindset. But the moment they get more emotionally invested in the relationship, there might be a fear of vulnerability.

They weren’t raised with the idea that being vulnerable is acceptable, but rather to rarely show their emotions. They fear their emotions like the plague and they simply crawl back to their room and hide together with their vulnerability.

9. Perder amigos

Os homens adoram os seus amigos e familiares e a ideia de que estar numa relação pode não lhes dar espaço e tempo suficientes para se dedicarem a eles é aterradora.

It’s just that if you start investing yourself too much in a serious, committed, romantic relationship, you invest less (or nothing at all) in other relationships.

10. Coração partido

They fear getting hurt. If a man had a hard time with past relationships, it’s normal if he fears commitment now.

Os homens têm medo que a sua parceira os deixe, rompa com eles ou os traia. Temem a perda de alguém tão especial para eles e ficar com o coração partido.