10 paure irrazionali di tutti gli uomini nelle relazioni di coppia

Fear can keep us from doing so many great things. Usually, it’s the female side of the relationship who has the biggest fears regarding the relationship.

She’s always questioning everything in order to know if there’s anything wrong. But what if I told you that men are the ones with the most irrational fears in their relationships?

In their eyes, a relationship can be wonderful or terrifying; there’s no in-between. They are afraid of the same things as we women are, plus more.

Naturalmente, questo non vale per tutti gli uomini. Ognuno è completamente diverso e le donne possono sperimentare queste paure anche.

1. Non avere abbastanza tempo a disposizione

Gli uomini hanno paura that throughout the week they won’t have the time needed to dedicate to the relationship.

They don’t find it rational to invest a whole day in a road trip with their girlfriend when they could finish a project they started or watch the game that night.

2. Non si impegna a sufficienza

Because of the fact that they are scared that they won’t make time for their girlfriend, this automatically leads to the fear of not giving enough effort.

Gli uomini non sanno quanto sia importante l'attenzione di una donna e cosa fare per farla sentire speciale.

So this puts a lot of pressure on them and they fear that they won’t do a good job.

3. Spostamento troppo veloce

This fear can be so illogical that it can slow down the relationship process. You see, men are creatures of habit and when they start a relationship after a long period of being single, something seems off and they don’t really seem to like that things are muoversi così velocemente.

You might be together for years and he still can’t ‘’put a ring on it’’ because of his fear. This can lead al sovrappensiero e può iniziare a mettere in discussione l'intera relazione.

4. Modifica

Questa paura è in un certo senso razionale. La nostra vita consiste nell'essere noi stessi e nel fare tutte le cose che ci piacciono, giusto? Quindi è naturale che gli uomini temano che la loro relazione possa cambiarli al punto da far loro smettere di amare le cose che amavano quando erano single.

Relationships can be time-consuming and he might be thinking that there’s no way you can put effort into making your partner feel happy and into the other dreams and goals you have besides the relationship.

5. Non abbastanza sesso

We all know that men love sexual interaction and they fear that having sex with one partner for the rest of their life might get boring at one point or that their partner won’t be up for having sex as often as they do.

Inoltre, gli uomini amano fare sesso con molte donne, solo per rendere le cose più piccanti. Quindi una vita sessuale monogama non è molto attraente per loro.

6. A partner who’s too needy

Certo, le relazioni creano dipendenza l'una dall'altra, ma gli uomini temono che la loro fidanzata possa essere troppo dipendenti da loro e bisognosi.

Because he loves you, he will do whatever it takes to make you happy, but that also creates scenarios that aren’t really pleasing to him.

Men want more breathing space as they’re getting to know their partner and that’s what’ll give them some security.

7. Imbroglio

Il tradimento è la cosa peggiore e più disonesta che una persona che ami possa farti.

After you’ve been cheated on, you start feeling like you’re not good enough and men, just like women, don’t want that.

They fear you cheating on them and whatever they say, it’ll break their heart to the core if you do.

8. Vulnerabilità

We all know that men are born protectors. Society doesn’t let them show a weakness of any kind and they got used to that mindset. But the moment they get more emotionally invested in the relationship, there might be a fear of vulnerability.

They weren’t raised with the idea that being vulnerable is acceptable, but rather to rarely show their emotions. They fear their emotions like the plague and they simply crawl back to their room and hide together with their vulnerability.

9. Perdita di amici

Gli uomini amano i loro amici e la loro famiglia e il pensiero che una relazione possa non dare loro abbastanza spazio e tempo da dedicare a loro è terrificante.

It’s just that if you start investing yourself too much in a serious, committed, romantic relationship, you invest less (or nothing at all) in other relationships.

10. Cuore infranto

They fear getting hurt. If a man had a hard time with past relationships, it’s normal if he fears commitment now.

Gli uomini hanno paura che la loro compagna possa lasciarli, lasciarli o tradirli. Temono la perdita di una persona così speciale per loro e che si fa spezzare il cuore.