12 sinais de que ele está a perder o interesse e 5 formas de reavivar as coisas
If you’re not sure what’s going on with him, then you’re most definitely looking for signs he’s losing interest (speaking from experience) and you’ll find them all below.
Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there.
Apaixonámo-nos por este tipo fantástico (potencial o Um) and everything is going great, until he just leaves, saying how it doesn’t feel right or how he’s not happy.
And we’re left wondering whether there was anything we could have done, if there were any signs that he was unhappy or if he was simply drifting away from us.
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We overanalyze every relationship that comes after, looking for signs he’s losing interest and we can’t help ourselves.
That’s why I’m here to put your mind at ease and point your attention toward those red flag signs that his interest in you might be slowly drifting away.
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O que faz com que um homem perca o interesse numa mulher?
Há muitas razões para um homem perder subitamente o interesse numa mulher e a maior delas é o medo de perder a sua liberdade numa relação.
If everything was going smooth from the start and you’re in a committed relationship, a sudden loss of interest can mean lots of things and it’s usually linked to síndrome da erva mais verde.
It’s either that or he’s a fobia de compromissos disfarçada. Deixe-me explicar a famosa síndrome da relva mais verde. Isto acontece quando um homem se apercebe que pode estar a perder algo lá fora (outras mulheres).
This doesn’t mean that he sees other women as better or prettier than you. It’s in every man’s nature to chase women and some of them can control themselves while others find it difficult to do so even when they are in a serious relationship. So, fazer com que ele te persiga.
Another ‘famous reason’ why a man would lose interest in a woman is when she’s rushing things. This mostly happens in the early fases do namoro ou no início de uma relação.
Quando uma mulher força um homem a comprometer-se com ela ou quando se mostra carente, ele perderá o interesse e ela começará a perguntar-se porquê.
If you’re not sure whether he’s losing interest or something else is going on, the following signs will tell you for sure.
Ver também: 15 sinais de alerta de que o seu parceiro está a perder o interesse
12 Obvious Signs He’s Losing Interest In You
Nota: Se passou por estes sinais e continua a pensar em resolver as coisas com ele e evitar que ele perca o interesse, temos alguns conselhos excelentes para si.
So let’s start:
He’s not available on the phone like he used to be
As mensagens de texto eram uma necessidade. Costumava-se enviar mensagens de texto para trás e para a frente durante todo o dia e toda a noite e as chamadas telefónicas duravam horas.
Mas ultimamente, dá por si a ansiar à espera da sua respostae não vê nada. Dá por si a olhar para um ecrã em branco, perdendo toda a esperança de que ele responda às suas mensagens.
Suddenly, he’s always busy, he forgets his phone, he doesn’t check in during the day, he forgets to answer or to let you know that everything is okay.
This is one of the first warning signs that he’s losing interest because he simply doesn’t want you around him all the time. So, don’t text him primeiro (pelo menos por enquanto) e ver como as coisas mudam.
He’s making excuses
No início, ele estava sempre por perto, sempre presente quando precisávamos dele, sempre presente para nos ajudar e sempre à procura do nosso apoio e suporte.
But now he’s all alone, independent, and working all the time.
He has crazy deadlines, he has to do this or that now, he doesn’t think he will be there at the agreed time. These are all obvious signs he is losing interest in you.
It’s simple; as soon as a person starts giving you excuses that are hard to believe, they don’t really want to spend time with you. It’s evident that there’s no verdadeiro esforço, apenas o mínimo necessário.
Deixou de fazer perguntas
He stopped asking questions about you, about your life, about your feelings. When we’re asking questions, it means that we’re interested in the other person.
Isto significa que queremos conhecê-los melhorO que é que eles querem é saber o que sentem em relação a certas coisas e o que é que gostam.
But as soon as the questions stop, it means he’s not interested in the things you have to say, he’s not interested in checking on you. He’s no longer interested in you and he has no future plans with you.
Tornou-se rude e defensivo
If the man you once knew, the man you fell in love with, was always kind, caring, and opened up to you but has turned into this cold, rude, and defensive man, it’s not a sign that something’s wrong with him or you.
It’s simply a clear sign that the guy is losing interest in the relationship and he doesn’t know how to cope with it so he becomes distant and cold.
Ao contrário dos primeiros tempos, agora ele passa cada vez menos tempo consigo e quando passam tempo juntos, he’s acting distant.
And as soon as you start asking questions and demanding answers, he turns defensive, because he’s not yet aware of your relationship failing.
He’s not aware of him distancing himself from you and thus magoar-vos.
There’s no intimacy anymore
You used to make love all the time. You just couldn’t keep your hands off of each other.
Ainda se lembram dos momentos em que desfrutaram de todas aquelas noites de amor romântico e de outras noites de sexo cru e sensual.
But now, it’s been weeks since the last time you hugged each other or the last time you enjoyed each other’s bodies. Your sex life is no longer existent.
A falta de intimidade física é, sem dúvida, um grande sinal de que um homem está a perder o interesse but it could also be a sign that he’s having some health issues or problems at work.
Unless he refuses to admit that there’s a problem or if he refuses to talk about it, then it means that his interest is long gone.
Só existe intimidade
Este é o outro lado do signo anterior. O seu foco principal é como entrar nas suas calças e nada mais.
Ele desaparece durante dias a fio e, de repente, uma mensagem de texto dele ilumina o seu telemóvel com uma proposta de última hora para saírem juntos.
All in all, if all the other aspects of the relationship, like keeping in touch, spending time with you without sex, planning ahead, and making efforts aren’t there, then he is definitely losing interest in you.
Ele deixou de te tratar como namorada e começou a tratar-te como uma engate.
Ele já não repara nas pequenas coisas em si
How to tell if he’s losing interest? Simple.
Ele costumava reparar sempre que mudavas a maneira como te penteavas, o vestido novo que compravas ou uma nova especiaria que usavas para cozinhar.
He used to notice when you were cold, offering you his jacket. And now you feel like you could freeze to death next to him and he wouldn’t even notice.
You feel like you’re a living ghost inside of your own home, inside of your own relationship. You’re there, but he simply doesn’t see you. His lack of interest is making you sad.
He’s no longer taking you into consideration
When he makes a decision, whether about his trips, his working hours, or projects he’s working on, he doesn’t consider you or your feelings.
Ele decidiu colocar-se em primeiro lugar e faz planos sem si porque o vosso futuro juntos está a deixar de existir aos olhos dele.
He’s no longer interested in your feelings, maybe hoping that if he neglects you badly enough, you will leave him; you will be the bad guy and not him then.
It’s evident that this is the beginning of a relação tóxica ou devo dizer, uma relação não recíproca.
Não tem iniciativa
Sente-se nostálgico em relação à sua primeiro encontro e o início da vossa relação, porque foi um período em que ele estava realmente a fazer planos e a esforçar-se.
Costumava fazer-te jantares surpresa, levar-te a sair às sextas-feiras à noite e planear as tuas pequenas viagens de fim de semana.
But he no longer does those things and you have found yourself only looking at his back when he’s leaving the house. He’s always running off to work, always tired, and not interested in going out with you.
He used to be so excited about movies and concerts you were going to see together but now he no longer mentions them, because he doesn’t want to see them with you.
When you plan a date night upfront, that’s when you go out. But if it were up to him, you two would never leave the house together. Yes, these are all telltale signs he’s losing interest.
He’s picking fights
This is something guys often do when they’re losing interest in a girl they’re dating or if they’re gearing up for a rutura.
A ideia é enlouquecer-te e esgotar-te com todas as lutas que tens, para que acabes por desistir.
And those fights are over the smallest things, like who’s going to take out the garbage, whose turn it is to pay the bills, what kind of dress you wore to that business thing you had.
It’s not those things that truly bother him, it’s the relationship itself.
Ele é rude e desrespeitoso
This is one of the biggest signs of a guy’s fleeting interest. From a warm and loving creature, he has turned into a nitpicky, rude, and offensive creature.
Todas as piadas dele são dirigidas a si. Sente-se que ele se aproveita das suas inseguranças e as faz sobressair.
He ignores your existence. You can’t say anything right as he gets offended at every little thing.
Estas são algumas das merdas coisas que os homens fazem quando querem acabar consigo. Tratam-nos mal para que desistamos deles.
You have that gut feeling you can’t shake off
Por vezes, independentemente do que as outras pessoas nos dizem, independentemente do que ele nos diz para garantir que sabemos que ele ainda nos ama, independentemente do que lemos numa revista qualquer, nós simplesmente sabemos.
E, por vezes, esforçamo-nos tanto para ignorar esse sentimento, que nos esforçamos mais para evitar que a relação se desmorone, para evitar que nós nos desmoronemos.
But as someone who always tried harder and ended up broken, I know that it’s sometimes better to walk away from someone who doesn’t appreciate you enough do que não ter esperança em nada e acabar quebrado.
Signs He’s Losing Interest In A Long Distance Relationship
He’s no longer looking forward to talking to you
You can’t remember the last time he called you and you had a long, conversa significativa. If he no longer initiates conversations, it’s evident that he’s no longer looking forward to talking to you and he’s slowly but surely losing interest.
As vossas conversas são aborrecidas
Your conversations are no longer exciting as they used to be. It’s like he no longer even tries to keep you updated regarding his life. You talk about random things but the conversation doesn’t fulfill your expectations.
Tenta evitar qualquer forma de comunicação consigo
When you set a date for a video call or a regular call, he cancels at the last minute. This didn’t happen only once but multiple times. Also, when you text him, he’s constantly busy and doesn’t have time to enviar-lhe uma mensagem de volta.
He’s no longer looking forward to seeing you
When was the last time you two saw each other in person? If you can’t remember, it could mean that he’s no longer looking forward to seeing you (unless he is prevented by something else like his job).
He’s not excited to know anything about you
Quando conversam, ele mostra interesse pelo seu trabalho, amigos e outras coisas que acontecem na sua vida? Ou só fala por falar?
If he’s not excited to know anything about you, this means he’s losing interest in uma relação à distância.
It’s impossible to keep the spark alive if only one person is making an effort in such a relationship and if both partners aren’t doing their best to stay connected.
Signs He’s Losing Interest Through Text
As mensagens de texto diminuem
When things were going well between the two of you, you literally couldn’t stop texting. That changed drastically. He no longer texts you frequently and sometimes he doesn’t text for days.
This is an obvious sign that you’re no longer on his priority list or he has no idea what to text any longer.
Whatever the reason be, remember that you shouldn’t push things. If you do, he’ll think that you’re needy and he’ll continue afastar-se.
Os textos de uma só palavra são frequentes
Before he would send novel-length texts and you would read them with a smile on your face knowing that he cares so much that he took time to send you such a long text. Well, that’s a thing of the past now because one-word replies become frequent.
Whatever you text him, chances are you’ll get a one-word reply and you’re always prepared for that. You no longer expect to receive a text message that is longer than a few words.
This worries you for a reason. It means that he’s losing interest in keeping a conversation going and he doesn’t care about how you’ll feel when he sends you a texto de uma palavra. Homens.
(I apologize in advance to those who don’t fall into this category of men who send one-word replies).
Nenhuma mensagem de texto
If there’s something even more annoying than one-word texts, it is no text messages AT ALL. Seriously, guys?
Do you really think that we don’t notice when you suddenly decide not to text us for some reason? And you expect us not to overthink? Certo.
Dear lady, if he no longer texts you, then you know something is off. It’s likely that he’s losing interest in you and now he decided to simply ignore you and delete you from his life for the time being.
What will happen next, you wonder? Well, chances are that he’ll come back when it’s convenient for him and you will either pretend like nothing happened or you’ll let him know that he can’t play with you like that anymore.
Aconteça o que acontecer, proteja-se e ponha a sua felicidade em primeiro lugar.
Respostas vagas a perguntas directas
Pergunta-lhe algo do género: Quando é que vens jantar a casa? Ele responde: I don’t know. Maybe in 2 hours, maybe later.
A sério? Pensar demais ataca novamente.
Depois, começa a fazer a si próprio muitas perguntas já gastas: But what is he doing? Why is he so indecisive all the time? Why can’t he text a simple yes or no? Why is everything so complicated?
Well, whatever he’s doing, it’s obvious that he’s not really thinking of you. If he did, he wouldn’t give you vague responses to straightforward questions but he would find a way to show up for dinner and make things function. It’s as simple as that.
He sends you “None of your business” text
Whenever a guy sends me such and similar text, I instantly know that something’s not right. Since when something is none of my business (especially if I’m in a relationship with that person)?
If a guy sends you “None of your business” text, you have every right to feel hurt and disappointed. It’s one of those rude texts that scream “I don’t give a damn about you or your opinion.”
Agora, a questão é: Precisa mesmo de um homem assim na sua vida? Ou achas que ele pode mudar? Estas perguntas não são assim tão simples, pelo que deve dedicar algum tempo a refletir sobre elas.
He frequently sends “I already made plans” texts
Whenever you suggest that you two do something together, he tells you that he already made plans with his buddies. If it happened once, you wouldn’t suspect a thing but this has become a routine.
Well, this is one of the obvious signs that he’s losing interest in you because he no longer wants to spend time with you. Instead, he prefers hanging out with his friends and other people.
If you want him to change his mind, then it’s time to remind him that you won’t wait forever on him to start treating you the way you deserve. How will you do that? It’s up to you but below you’ll find some valuable advice on what to do when he’s losing interest.
What To Do When He’s Losing Interest?
The best thing to do when he’s losing interest is to keep living your own life and give him enough time to make up his mind.
However, before you even think about doing something about it, ask yourself, “Does this man really deserve me?”
Por vezes, ficamos tão cegos pelo amor que sentimos por essa pessoa que parece que nos escapam todos os sinais de alerta que nos dizem que ela não é a pessoa certa para nós.
If you believe you and your man have something left to save and that he is losing interest just because you’ve caiu na rotinahá algumas tácticas para tentar reacender o vosso amor:
Seja o seu eu encantador em vez do seu eu pegajoso
Sei que o seu primeiro instinto é persegui-lo e mostrar-lhe o seu valor mas, infelizmente, isso só o pode afastar ainda mais.
Here’s what you need to do:
- Deixar de estar demasiado disponível.
- Pára de cancelar os teus planos para estar com ele.
- Stop texting him if he isn’t texting you.
- Deixem de se agarrar com demasiada força porque só vão sufocar o que resta.
Follow his lead and don’t invest in him if he isn’t investing in you. The scariest but best way para fazer com que um homem te persiga mais uma vez é ligeiramente ignorando-o.
Ama a vida, ama-te a ti próprio e deixa-o ver o mulheres fortes e independentes he can’t afford to lose.
Don’t pause your life until he makes up his mind
Ao esperar desesperadamente que ele arranje tempo para si, não está a fazer um favor a nenhum dos dois.
Em primeiro lugar, está a fazer-se sentir miserável. Em segundo lugar, está a torná-lo tomá-lo por garantido porque estás sempre às ordens dele.
Em vez de passar a noite de sexta-feira colada ao telemóvel, à espera que ele a convide para sair, faça planos com os seus amigos, saia, vá ao cinema ou peça um cocktail.
Faça algo divertido e distraia-se de tudo.
Não se esqueça de publicar a sua saída à noite nas redes sociais. Provavelmente, ele está a imaginar que não tens vida própria e que estás a desejar ficar em casa, mas deves provar que ele está errado.
Mostra-lhe do que és feita
Parece um pouco estranho, mas a melhor maneira de despertar novamente o seu interesse é trabalhar em si próprio.
Muitas vezes, mudamos no decurso da nossa relação, perdemo-nos no processo de amar outro ser humano.
Dê um passo atrás e pense na rapariga por quem ele se apaixonou. Quem era você nessa altura? Porque é que ele se apaixonou amar contigo no primeiro lugar?
Seja honesto consigo próprio: Está a pedir demasiado e demasiado cedo?
Uma das razões mais comuns pelas quais os homens perdem o interesse é porque sentem que estão sob demasiada pressão.
Your relationship must progress naturally, you can’t force yourself on anybody.
You can’t make someone commit to you fully if they are not ready. You can’t spend every waking moment of every hour glued to your partner. You can’t text non-stop.
O melhor conselho de qualquer especialista em relacionamentos que alguma vez ouvirá é que ambos têm de ter as vossas próprias vidas para criarem uma vida juntos.
Têm de ter os vossos interesses, amigos e espaço pessoal para passarem tempo juntos com mais qualidade e significado. Além disso, tem de lhe dar tempo para se decidir.
Criar espaço garante uma relação saudável; it won’t make you more distant.
Aumentar a perceção que ele tem de si
Se seguir os quatro passos anteriores à risca, terá um efeito chocante no seu parceiro. Ele vai perguntar-se o que raio se está a passar, o que é definitivamente uma coisa boa.
Reveja todas as coisas que tem feito mal e faça-as bem da próxima vez. Surpreenda-o com a sua independência e desejo de viver.
Tornar-se a melhor versão de si próprio e o amor seguir-te-á como um cachorrinho treinado. A única questão que resta é se o rapaz que está a perder o interesse em si é realmente o seu verdadeiro amor?
Considerações finais
If the above signs he’s losing interest resonate with him, worry not and overthink not. Sometimes, men lose interest for a very short period of time and then they come to their senses and realize what they could lose if they continue atuação distante.
Other times, they don’t realize that but this doesn’t mean you should worry about it. Instead, you should embrace the fact that they have shown you their true colors and you’re definitely not meant to be.
