5 movimentos de poder que uma mulher deve fazer se quiser uma relação a sério

Don’t you just wish you were born in an era of that old-fashioned love? It seems like it was all easier back then. If nothing else, everything was more genuine and honest.

Hoje em dia, namorar e encontrar o amor é uma confusão. A arte do namoro e dos longos períodos de namoro foi substituída por sair e engatar, o que fez uma confusão gigantesca nas nossas vidas amorosas.

Acabamos por ficar com uma vida medíocre relacionamentos situacionais instead of being in a real relationship. And it isn’t like we don’t want something meaningful. It’s just that it is hard to come by.

It’s hard but it is not impossible, especially if we know what to do. There are 5 power moves a woman can pull if she wants a real relationship:

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De certeza que conhece alguém, ou conhece alguém que conhece alguém, que encontrou o amor através de aplicações de encontros. Mas essas pessoas são realmente raras. São excepções.

Se utiliza o Hinge, o Tinder ou algo semelhante, já deve ter reparado em todos os creeps que andam por aí.

Se há alguém decente por aí, está a ser ofuscado por todos aqueles que estão a tentar dar uma queca ou que estão apenas a matar tempo e, nesse processo, a desperdiçar o seu.

So if you are serious about finding real love, chances are these apps won’t help you. They will just steal your time and exhaust your efforts.

Don’t settle for fake, last minute, mediocre dates

“I have nothing better to do, so I might as well hang out with her.” is not the date you are supposed to go on. You don’t need someone calling you out of the blue just because it’s convenient for them.

Make sure to tell them it’s not convenient for you, and that they should have asked you earlier. You are not one who sits by the phone and jumps as soon as it ringsl—at least you shouldn’t be.

Dates should be preplanned, thought of and give you something to look forward to. They don’t have to be luxurious or expensive—that’s not the point.

The point is that you see he put some thought into it and that he can’t wait to see you. Only a man who makes an effort is worthy of your time.

O seu esforço no primeiro encontro dir-lhe-á muito.

Don’t let him cross the doorstep of your home too soon

Don’t go to his place either. It’s a trap. Most of us are prone to chilling and spending time in the comfort of our homes.

A maioria de nós comete o erro de convidar alguém para essa zona de conforto demasiado cedo.

This makes people subconsciously think that by doing, we are up for a more laid back and casual relationship. It’s not just about não ter relações sexuais demasiado cedo. It’s about turning the date into hanging out.

Don’t give all the boyfriend benefits to someone who is not your boyfriend.

É melhor mantê-lo afastado do seu sofá, pelo menos durante as primeiras semanas, até o conhecer melhor. Mais tarde, haverá muito tempo para sofás, mimos, Netflix e relaxamento.

4. Desmontá-lo suavemente se ele começar a fazer jogos

By now, you can spot a player from a mile away. He will play texting games. One minute he’ll be there and the next nowhere to be found. He will lead you on in all the ways possible.

Of course, you won’t put up with that. Been there, done that. There is no point in going through it again. That’s why you have to send that text you don’t really want to send, but you know you have to.

Pode ser mais ou menos assim:
“ Hi there. I don’t like beating around the bush so I’ll be honest with you. I am not into casual hookups. I like real dates and I believe men who make efforts are extremely hot. I need time to get to know someone better in order to jump into bed with them and only them. If you don’t share my opinion that’s ok. I like to let people know where they stand with me.”

Know what you want and don’t be afraid to say it

Normalmente mentimos a nós próprios. Envolvemo-nos em algo com alguém que não envolve qualquer tipo de compromisso com evitar parecer demasiado carente no início.

De alguma forma, esse início prolonga-se e acabamos numa quase relação sem o desejarmos. E tudo o que fazemos é magoar os nossos corações e desperdiçar o nosso tempo.

Don’t let somebody put words in your mouth that aren’t yours. Don’t say you are not into labels and that you don’t mind keeping things casual if instead, you truly want to be somebody’s girlfriend.

So be honest with yourself first, and be honest with the person you are dating. Determine your boundaries, and don’t drift far away from as suas normas.

If you want a real relationship with someone who is not afraid to be in one and who is willing to match all your efforts, don’t settle for anything less.