5 mosse di potere che una donna dovrebbe fare se vuole una relazione vera e propria

Don’t you just wish you were born in an era of that old-fashioned love? It seems like it was all easier back then. If nothing else, everything was more genuine and honest.

Al giorno d'oggi, gli appuntamenti e la ricerca dell'amore sono disordinati. L'arte del corteggiamento e dei lunghi periodi di frequentazione è stata sostituita dalla frequentazione e dal rimorchio, che hanno reso la nostra vita sentimentale un gigantesco pasticcio.

Ci ritroviamo in un'attività mediocre e di scarsa qualità. situazioni di vita instead of being in a real relationship. And it isn’t like we don’t want something meaningful. It’s just that it is hard to come by.

It’s hard but it is not impossible, especially if we know what to do. There are 5 power moves a woman can pull if she wants a real relationship:

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Sicuramente conoscete qualcuno, o conoscete qualcuno che conosce qualcuno, che ha trovato l'amore tramite le app di incontri. Ma queste persone sono davvero rare. Sono eccezioni.

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Se c'è qualcuno di decente là fuori, viene messo in ombra da tutti quelli che stanno cercando di scopare o che stanno solo ammazzando il tempo e, nel frattempo, sprecano il vostro.

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Don’t settle for fake, last minute, mediocre dates

“I have nothing better to do, so I might as well hang out with her.” is not the date you are supposed to go on. You don’t need someone calling you out of the blue just because it’s convenient for them.

Make sure to tell them it’s not convenient for you, and that they should have asked you earlier. You are not one who sits by the phone and jumps as soon as it ringsl—at least you shouldn’t be.

Dates should be preplanned, thought of and give you something to look forward to. They don’t have to be luxurious or expensive—that’s not the point.

The point is that you see he put some thought into it and that he can’t wait to see you. Only a man who makes an effort is worthy of your time.

Il suo impegno al primo appuntamento vi dirà molto.

Don’t let him cross the doorstep of your home too soon

Don’t go to his place either. It’s a trap. Most of us are prone to chilling and spending time in the comfort of our homes.

Molti di noi commettono l'errore di invitare troppo presto qualcuno in quella zona di comfort.

This makes people subconsciously think that by doing, we are up for a more laid back and casual relationship. It’s not just about non fare sesso troppo presto. It’s about turning the date into hanging out.

Don’t give all the boyfriend benefits to someone who is not your boyfriend.

È meglio tenerlo lontano dal divano almeno per le prime settimane, finché non lo conoscerete meglio. In seguito ci sarà tutto il tempo per divani, coccole, Netflix e chill.

4. Abbandonatelo dolcemente se inizia a giocare

By now, you can spot a player from a mile away. He will play texting games. One minute he’ll be there and the next nowhere to be found. He will lead you on in all the ways possible.

Of course, you won’t put up with that. Been there, done that. There is no point in going through it again. That’s why you have to send that text you don’t really want to send, but you know you have to.

Può andare più o meno così:
“ Hi there. I don’t like beating around the bush so I’ll be honest with you. I am not into casual hookups. I like real dates and I believe men who make efforts are extremely hot. I need time to get to know someone better in order to jump into bed with them and only them. If you don’t share my opinion that’s ok. I like to let people know where they stand with me.”

Know what you want and don’t be afraid to say it

Di solito mentiamo a noi stessi. Ci mettiamo con qualcuno che non comporta alcun tipo di impegno nei confronti di evitare di apparire troppo bisognosi all'inizio.

In qualche modo quell'inizio si prolunga e ci ritroviamo in una relazione quasi senza volerlo. E tutto ciò che facciamo è ammaccare i nostri cuori e perdere tempo.

Don’t let somebody put words in your mouth that aren’t yours. Don’t say you are not into labels and that you don’t mind keeping things casual if instead, you truly want to be somebody’s girlfriend.

So be honest with yourself first, and be honest with the person you are dating. Determine your boundaries, and don’t drift far away from i vostri standard.

If you want a real relationship with someone who is not afraid to be in one and who is willing to match all your efforts, don’t settle for anything less.