5 señales de que sufres un trastorno de estrés post-narcisista

El Trastorno de Estrés Post-Narcisista (TEPN) se produce después de haber convivido con un narcisista. Los narcisistas te cambian a ti y a tu forma de percibir el mundo.

Te intimidan y manipulan para que te conviertas en la persona que nunca quisiste ser.

Su comportamiento tóxico te consume y te convierte en una persona insegura y asustada.

Después de liberarse de un narcisista, your life doesn’t get better right away. There is a long journey and a lot of healing stages ahead of you before you return to being your old self.

You’re still going to be scared, you’re still going to wonder if he’s coming back or how to shut him out of your life for good.

You’re going to be depressed and anxious. You’re going to feel helpless, like you’re losing control over your life instead of getting it back.

Esto es lo que te hace un trauma. Esto es lo que una cantidad sustancial de abuso puede hacerle a alguien.

1. You’re haunted by the memory of him

Basta un desencadenante para que vuelvas al pasado. Puedes ver u oír algo que te recuerde a él y tu mente volverá instantáneamente a una época en la que estabas con él.

El trauma que te ha causado es demasiado grande para que lo olvides.

You can try to repress it but something will trigger you back, something will remind you of all the pain you’ve been through.

You’ll dream of him and those dreams will seem like reality. You’ll wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night because you’ve dreamed of him molesting you and it seemed like it was really happening.

These dreams won’t go away that easily because your mind isn’t ready to let go just yet. You’ve been traumatized and you need to let time go by for things to settle down.

If someone gets upset or angry with you, that will probably trigger you to have a flashback of narcissistic abuse. When you fall into that state, you’ll lose common sense.

You’ll start panicking and the paranoia you’ll be feeling will be overwhelming.

You’ll start questioning the authenticity of the people around you because after sobrevivir al abuso narcisista...todo parecerá una amenaza potencial.

Cada persona en su vida será un manipulador potencial a sus ojos.

2. You can’t trust anyone

Tratar con un narcisista puede destruirte hasta la médula. Puede corroer tu personalidad y convertirte en una persona superficial y vacía, ideal para manipular.

Te lleva a un estado de vulnerabilidad extrema, que en realidad es perfecto para la gente que quiere aprovecharse de ti.

You are aware of the fact that now, after you’ve survived a narcissist, you are an easy target. And that’s why you simply can’t trust anyone.

Nothing can assure you that you won’t go through the same kind of abuse all over again from the start. No one can convince you that they are only trying to help you.

Every new person in your life will be a potential manipulator in your eyes. This is what happens after narcissistic abuse but remember that it’s not your fault.

It’s normal that you don’t trust anyone because you trusted him and look what you got—insecurity, pain and an emotional fallout.

3. Estás pasando desapercibido

You don’t want to see anybody and you don’t want to talk to anyone. You’re hiding from people and from your own emotions.

You’ve learned in your relationship with a narcissist that you’re not supposed to feel anything. Because every time you felt something, he would suck those emotions dry and refill his energy, leaving you empty and broken.

So, in order to survive him, you’ve learned not to feel anything. You’ve learned to become completely uninteresting.

The thing is, as long as you are interesting to a narcissist and as long as you show that you’re hurting, he will keep coming back to exploit that.

Once you become boring, he won’t have any reason to come back to you. Once you become uninteresting and indifferent, he’ll lose interest.

You’ve done it and you’ve chased him away. But now, you have to get back in touch with your feelings.

You have to let your emotions back in. For now, you’re hiding from them, like you’re hiding from everything else.

4. Te sientes perdido

Durante mucho tiempo, él estuvo al volante de tu vida. Durante mucho tiempo, él decidió lo que ibas a hacer y cómo ibas a actuar.

Nada dependía de ti.

Pero ahora, de repente, eres libre de hacer lo que quieras. Eres libre de actuar como quieras y eso te asusta.

You’re constantly looking around, to see if he is there to tell you to stop and do what he says.

You still can’t take control over your life. You’ve been manipulated for so long that you aren’t even sure how to get your life back.

That’s why some women disobey the norma de no contacto y vuelven con un narcisista, porque se sienten perdidos.

Así que vuelven a lo único que conocen. A él.

Esto también pasará. Tienes que entender que tiene que pasar algún tiempo, tienes que dejar que tu cuerpo y tu mente se curen.

Then, you’ll get back the control over your life. Just nunca cometas el error de volver al hombre que abusó de ti.

5. La vida normal parece un cuento de hadas

You’re experiencing all kinds of different emotions. You’re happy, sad, depressed and anxious. Your feelings are mixed and they change quickly.

After he gaslighted you, you’ll keep doubting yourself and that’s why you’ll have difficulties getting back to your normal life.

You’ll question yourself about if you are good enough and if you’re sane and capable of living on your own.

He’s been feeding you with toxicity and now that he’s gone, you’re lost but most importantly, you’re free.

Utiliza el apoyo y el amor que recibes de tus seres queridos y atraviesa el etapas de curación tras escapar de un abuso narcisista uno por uno.