5 segnali di disturbo da stress post-narcisistico

Il Disturbo da Stress Post Narcisistico (PNSD) si verifica dopo aver vissuto con un narcisista. I narcisisti cambiano l'individuo e il modo in cui percepisce il mondo.

Vi intimidiscono e vi manipolano per farvi diventare la persona che non avreste mai voluto essere.

Il loro comportamento tossico vi consuma e vi trasforma in una persona insicura e spaventata.

Dopo aver Liberarsi da un narcisista, your life doesn’t get better right away. There is a long journey and a lot of healing stages ahead of you before you return to being your old self.

You’re still going to be scared, you’re still going to wonder if he’s coming back or how to shut him out of your life for good.

You’re going to be depressed and anxious. You’re going to feel helpless, like you’re losing control over your life instead of getting it back.

Questo è l'effetto di un trauma. Questo è l'effetto che può avere su una persona un abuso consistente.

1. You’re haunted by the memory of him

Basta un solo fattore scatenante per farvi tornare al passato. Potete vedere o sentire qualcosa che vi ricorda lui e la vostra mente tornerà immediatamente al momento in cui eravate con lui.

Il trauma che vi ha causato è troppo grande perché possiate dimenticarlo.

You can try to repress it but something will trigger you back, something will remind you of all the pain you’ve been through.

You’ll dream of him and those dreams will seem like reality. You’ll wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night because you’ve dreamed of him molesting you and it seemed like it was really happening.

These dreams won’t go away that easily because your mind isn’t ready to let go just yet. You’ve been traumatized and you need to let time go by for things to settle down.

If someone gets upset or angry with you, that will probably trigger you to have a flashback of narcissistic abuse. When you fall into that state, you’ll lose common sense.

You’ll start panicking and the paranoia you’ll be feeling will be overwhelming.

You’ll start questioning the authenticity of the people around you because after sopravvivere all'abuso narcisisticoTutto sembrerà una potenziale minaccia.

Ogni persona nella vostra vita sarà un potenziale manipolatore ai vostri occhi.

2. You can’t trust anyone

Avere a che fare con un narcisista può distruggervi nel profondo. Può corrodere la vostra personalità e trasformarvi in una persona superficiale e vuota, ideale per la manipolazione.

Vi porta a uno stato di estrema vulnerabilità, che in realtà è perfetto per le persone che vogliono approfittarsi di voi.

You are aware of the fact that now, after you’ve survived a narcissist, you are an easy target. And that’s why you simply can’t trust anyone.

Nothing can assure you that you won’t go through the same kind of abuse all over again from the start. No one can convince you that they are only trying to help you.

Every new person in your life will be a potential manipulator in your eyes. This is what happens after narcissistic abuse but remember that it’s not your fault.

It’s normal that you don’t trust anyone because you trusted him and look what you got—insecurity, pain and an emotional fallout.

3. State facendo il vuoto

You don’t want to see anybody and you don’t want to talk to anyone. You’re hiding from people and from your own emotions.

You’ve learned in your relationship with a narcissist that you’re not supposed to feel anything. Because every time you felt something, he would suck those emotions dry and refill his energy, leaving you empty and broken.

So, in order to survive him, you’ve learned not to feel anything. You’ve learned to become completely uninteresting.

The thing is, as long as you are interesting to a narcissist and as long as you show that you’re hurting, he will keep coming back to exploit that.

Once you become boring, he won’t have any reason to come back to you. Once you become uninteresting and indifferent, he’ll lose interest.

You’ve done it and you’ve chased him away. But now, you have to get back in touch with your feelings.

You have to let your emotions back in. For now, you’re hiding from them, like you’re hiding from everything else.

4. Ci si sente persi

Per tanto tempo è stato al volante della vostra vita. Per tanto tempo ha deciso cosa avreste fatto e come avreste agito.

Nulla dipendeva da voi.

Ma ora, all'improvviso, siete liberi di fare quello che volete. Siete liberi di agire come volete e questo vi spaventa.

You’re constantly looking around, to see if he is there to tell you to stop and do what he says.

You still can’t take control over your life. You’ve been manipulated for so long that you aren’t even sure how to get your life back.

That’s why some women disobey the regola del divieto di contatto e tornano da un narcisista, perché si sentono persi.

Così tornano all'unica cosa che conoscono. Lui.

Anche questo passerà. Dovete capire che deve passare del tempo, dovete lasciare che il vostro corpo e la vostra mente guariscano.

Then, you’ll get back the control over your life. Just non commettere mai l'errore di tornare dall'uomo che ha abusato di te.

5. La vita normale sembra una favola

You’re experiencing all kinds of different emotions. You’re happy, sad, depressed and anxious. Your feelings are mixed and they change quickly.

After he gaslighted you, you’ll keep doubting yourself and that’s why you’ll have difficulties getting back to your normal life.

You’ll question yourself about if you are good enough and if you’re sane and capable of living on your own.

He’s been feeding you with toxicity and now that he’s gone, you’re lost but most importantly, you’re free.

Sfruttate il sostegno e l'amore dei vostri cari e passate attraverso il fasi di guarigione dopo la fuga da un abuso narcisistico uno per uno.