6 fortes sinais de que estás apaixonada por um mestre da manipulação
Todos nós já fomos manipulados alguma vez nas nossas vidas—it’s part of human nature.
Children manipulate their parent;, salesmen manipulate their customers; lawyers manipulate jurors—it’s nothing new and somehow seems normal…normal to the point where it becomes destructive.
Manipulation in a relationship is even more destructive, as it can be very effective and can even risk your own mental health. Because of that, it is very important for you to recognize if you’re being manipulated in your relationship before it becomes too late.
It is not as easy as you might think because master manipulators are often typically very skillful. They start out with subtle manipulation and raise the stakes over time—so slowly that you don’t even realize it’s happening.
Mas se souber o que procurar, ao longo do tempo conseguirá descobrir as suas tácticas de manipulação e estes são os sinais mais importantes a procurar:
1. You’re apologizing for the things you’re not guilty of
You’re apologizing and then suddenly thinking: “Oh, wait, I’m not the one who messed up. Why am I apologizing?”. The worst part is that this is not the first time, and it seems not the last one either.
A master manipulator will trick you into believing that you’re the guilty one. No matter what he did—it’s always someone else’s fault, usually yours.
If you get angry at him, it’s your fault for having unreasonable expectations. If he gets mad, it’s your fault for upsetting him.
2. Sente-se obrigado
If he did you a favor, you feel obliged to repay him for his sacrifice—over and over again. Is this really how a relationship works? Is this how it is to be in love? No, it’s not.
Even if he doesn’t say that he expects you to do something in return, he will mention it whenever it suits him. When you two have a fight, you will be always reminded of the time he did something for you and this will be one of his best arguments.
3. Ele é imprevisível
Ele é temperamental and you never know what frame of mind he’ll be in. You never know when he can lash out furiously, and you live in constant fear of that.
O humor dele é inconsistente e o seu humor passa a ser influenciado pelo dele e até dependente dele.
4. Apanhou-o a mentir demasiadas vezes
Se ele é um manipulador habilidoso e você o apanhou de alguma forma a mentir, imagine quantas vezes ele lhe mentiu sem que você se apercebesse disso?
He will tell you everything you want to hear, and he will make sure that you believe in that. The only downside is that his actions speak louder than words and he’ll be exposed sooner or later.
5. A mudança não é uma opção
Sometimes you know that he’s manipulating you, but you know he is a good guy and don’t want to lose him. You know that if he changed only a bit there would still be hope.
Well, that won’t happen. It won’t happen because he does not want to change. He doesn’t see the immorality of his actions and he will trick you into believing the same.
6. He knows all your buttons and he won’t hesitate to push them…all
Estava tão feliz quando começaram a namorar porque ele estava tão interessado na sua vida. Ele queria saber tanto sobre si e queria estar envolvido em tudo.
Parecia que ele realmente se importava e queria conhecer-te. Um mestre manipulador quer exatamente isso, mas com o objetivo de descobrir rapidamente os seus pontos fracos e usá-los se necessário.
Ele tem uma perceção das suas emoções fora de série, mas usa-a para a manipular, não para a fazer sentir melhor.
Ver também: 20 sinais reveladores de uma mulher manipuladora (+ como lidar com isso)
