20 sinais reveladores de uma mulher manipuladora (+ como lidar com isso)
Já reparou em alguns sinais de manipulação emocional na sua relação romântica? Receia que a mulher com quem namora o esteja a manipular e a usar?
Aqui estão os 20 sinais de uma mulher manipuladora que confirmarão se as suas dúvidas são verdadeiras ou não. Se reconhecer a maioria destes sinais de alerta, então já sabe o que tem de fazer.
Permanecer numa relação manipuladora e esperar que o seu parceiro mude é como tentar magoar-se a si próprio de propósito. Sooner or later, you’ll need to come to terms with the truth, and the more you wait, the bigger your pain will be afterward.
20 sinais infalíveis de uma mulher manipuladora
Para pôr mãos à obra, eis as bandeiras vermelhas e os sinais mais óbvios de uma mulher manipuladora:
1. Ela tem tantos traços de narcisista
Maybe you didn’t notice it when you first started dating, but the more time you spend with her, the more traços narcísicos percebe que ela tem.
Ela tem de ter sempre razão, tem de estar no centro das atenções e o mundo inteiro tem de girar à volta dela, dela e só dela.
A verdade é que quase todos os a pessoa manipuladora é na realidade um narcisista because they’re using another person just to fulfill their needs. It’s what a narcissistic person would do.
2. O início da vossa relação foi um bombardeamento de amor
At the beginning of your relationship, everything was so perfect, and you still can’t believe that you’re dating someone prone to comportamento manipulador. Ela estava tão interessada em ti e esforçou-se muito para te conquistar.
Agora, quando olhamos para ele, apercebemo-nos de que era apenas bombardeamento de amor. Nunca foi amor verdadeiro. She just wanted to make you fall in love with her, and that’s when her game of manipulation started.
3. Ela tenta arruinar completamente a tua autoestima
A sua auto-confiança é a primeira coisa que uma mulher manipuladora vai atacar. Ela sabe que homens com baixa autoestima são as presas mais fáceis de manipular.
She wants you to have a bad self-image so it’ll be easier for her to make you think that you need her, not the other way around. And the more you allow her to do this, the more she’ll use it until she completely destroys your self-esteem.
4. Ela acende-te a fogueira com muita frequência
When someone humiliates, disrespects, and guilt-trips you all the time, it’s obvious that they’re actually trying to gaslight you. In other words, they want to manipulate you into thinking that you’re going crazy.
You’ll doubt your own sanity, and she’ll see it as an opportunity to make herself look like your “savior.” That way, you’ll be grateful to her, and she’ll use it to keep using you as it benefits her.
5. Ela dá-te um tratamento de silêncio sem razão aparente
When someone goes no contact with you, it’s mostly because they have a good reason for it. Maybe you did something bad to them, or they’ve found out that you were badmouthing them or something similar.
No entanto, quando alguém nos dá o tratamento do silêncio without providing any explanation for it, it’s probably because they’re using it as a manipulation tactic. Querem obrigá-lo a fazer algo que lhes seja conveniente.
6. A depreciação tornou-se o novo normal para si
A depreciação é também uma forma de abuso emocional. You know that it hurts someone who has strong feelings for you, and you’re belittling them on purpose because you actually want to hurt them on purpose.
In the beginning, you weren’t okay with it, of course. But with time, you learned to cope with it and accepted it as a ‘normal’ part of your relationship.
7. As explosões emocionais repentinas são a sua tática de manipulação favorita
Ok, a maioria das mulheres tem alterações de humor, and we all have emotional outbursts sometimes. However, if your partner has really gone too far with those outbursts, it’s a clear sign they’re using it as a manipulation tactic.
And it’s mostly when they run out of words to talk about or arguments to defend themself that they use those explosões emocionais para conseguir o que querem.
It’s because they know you care about them and don’t want them to endanger their well-being.
8. She’s so used to playing the victim card
Não importa como as vossas lutas começam e acabam, de alguma forma, ela consegue sempre parecer a vítima.
Even though she started the whole thing, and you were convinced that you’re right, she became so good at playing the victim that she manages to convince you that you’ve made a mistake.
And it’s actually like everyone around you sees her, especially those who are aware that your relationship is abusive. She is a victim in their eyes, and she’ll continue to be as long as you don’t show them the real picture of your relationship.
9. You’re so sick of her mind games
Percebeu há algum tempo que she’s playing mind games with you, but you don’t know how to put an end to it. It really bothered you before, but you kept telling yourself that it’s not true and that you’ve been imagining it all.
However, you’re now aware that it’s true, and you’ve finally had enough of it. Trust me, it’s high time to put an end to it and show her that she can’t play with you as she likes because you can be a player too.
10. Ela culpa-te sempre depois de uma discussão
Sarah Ruggera, LMFT, says: “Os manipuladores emocionais dão a volta às suas afirmações e fazem de si o problema.” And if it seems like she’s a pro at blame-shifting, it’s one of the most obvious signs of a manipulative woman.
She does it mostly because she wants you to feel bad about it and apologize for something you didn’t do. She’ll never accept her part of the blame, and you’ll always be the one to blame for every single fight and disagreement you’ll have.
11. As chantagens emocionais são a sua arma para conseguir sempre o que quer
Whenever you don’t do something she wants you to do, she starts blackmailing you emotionally. She tells you it’s a sign you don’t care about her as much as you say you do, or she starts crying just to make you regret your actions.
If you love her, it’s most likely that you’ll fall for her emotional blackmails. Farás tudo o que for preciso só para a fazer feliz e emocionalmente satisfeita.
12. Mas também usa a manipulação psicológica
She’s your romantic partner, and she knows that the best type of manipulation to use on you is emotional. However, she’ll also try to manipulate you psychologically, making you look bad in your own skin.
She’ll try to harm your self-confidence because it will make it easier for her to manipulate you. You’ll constantly seek validation from her, and she’ll use it to benefit her.
13. She doesn’t care that much about your well-being
The truth is, if she did, she would never do this to you. Every single one of us knows how much it hurts when someone you love plays with you, and it’s definitely not something you would do to someone you care about.
And when you say you don’t feel well and expect her to take care of you, she ignores you and disappears. After all, you need to understand that she’s only there when it’s convenient for her or when she needs something from you.
14. A sua atitude passivo-agressiva é intolerável
Whenever she’s angry at you, she doesn’t show it directly. Instead, she is stubborn and refuses to do things you ask her to do.
It’s like she’s under protest just to make you realize that she’s angry at you. Ela exprime todos esses sentimentos negativos dando-lhe um tratamento de silêncio ou sendo sarcástica.
15. However, she’s always overly nice to you around other people
Do you know why that is? Well, she behaves so nicely around others only to create an ‘alibi’ for herself if you ever accuse her of being a manipulative person.
Others have never seen any trace of her manipulative behavior, and, of course, they won’t believe you.
Tens de compreender que tudo o que ela faz, fá-lo com uma intenção. Não há coincidências nas suas acções porque ela planeia tudo com antecedência.
16. Tudo isto afecta também a sua saúde emocional e mental
And it’s really no wonder why. When someone you love plays with you, it needs to leave serious consequences on your emotional well-being. It leaves you with serious trust issues and doubts about whether true love really exists.
Também deixa marcas na sua saúde mental porque diminui a sua autoestima. Começamos a pensar menos em nós próprios e a culpar-nos por tudo o que aconteceu e continua a acontecer.
17. You’ve noticed that she’s manipulative with her loved ones too
The surprising thing is that you also noticed that you aren’t the only person who’s fallen for her manipulation. Her best friends and family members have also been manipulated by her on various occasions.
Then, my friend, I need to tell you that you’re dealing with a serial manipulator here.
When she’s able to use all those people she loves, just think what she can do to those she doesn’t care about at all.
18. Ameaça-o com frequência com uma separação
This is also a form of manipulation. She’s aware of your feelings for her, and she uses them to scare you. Ela também sabe que perdê-la é um dos teus maiores medos, por isso usa-o para te obrigar a fazer coisas que ela quer que faças.
This is a perfect example of emotional manipulation. You’ll do anything just to keep her by your side, and that (unfortunately) means you’ll accept her manipulation.
19. She makes you feel as if you’re the worst partner ever
Even though the truth is far from that. Even though the truth is that she is, she’s the bad one in your relationship.
However, she knows that if she manages to make you believe this, you’ll do whatever is needed to show her that it’s not true. You’ll shower her with love and affection 24/7, and that’s actually what she wanted from you.
20. You know very well it’s not a healthy relationship
You’re aware of it. Especially now that you’ve convinced yourself that she’s manipulating you. And I know that despite it all, you still can’t find the courage to let her go.
Como é que se pode deixar ir alguém que se ama profundamente? Quando e como deixarás de amar essa pessoa?
Unfortunately, I can’t give you the right answer to these questions. All I can say is that no one can guarantee that you’ll stop loving her immediately. But I promise you will one day.
You will meet someone who really deserves you, and that’s when you’ll understand why things happened this way.
Ver também: 10 frases manipuladoras: Frases a que estar atento
Como é que se lida com uma mulher manipuladora?
Now that you’ve learned how to spot a manipulative woman, it’s time to learn how to deal with her. Here are 7 ways to help you cope with a manipulative partner.
1. Enfrentá-la e confrontá-la
When you’re in an intimate relationship with someone, and you have strong feelings for that person, it’s difficult to understand and realize when you’re being used by that same person.
Ama-os e nunca faria nada para os magoar, e pensa que eles pensam o mesmo de si. However, we aren’t all the same. Even if it means losing her, you need to face her and tell her that you’ve had enough of her manipulative behavior.
I know you love her, and you’re afraid that you might lose her, but if you don’t stand up for yourself, you might lose yourself forever. And that’s the worst thing someone can allow themselves to do.
2. Reúna toda a força que precisar para resistir à manipulação emocional dela
Even if you realize that you’re being manipulated by the person you love, you don’t have enough strength to resist them. You think you’re weak because they’ve managed to trick you in that way.
No entanto, tens de o fazer. Precisa de acreditar em si próprio e na sua força. Just because they used you once doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you were blinded by your love and couldn’t see the real truth.
Agora, tens de te levantar e lutar por ti. Deixe os seus sentimentos de lado e ponha fim à sua manipulação emocional. Diga-lhes que ninguém pode brincar consigo.
3. Estabelecer limites de uma vez por todas
The fact is, no one can manipulate you if you don’t allow them to. Those who don’t have clear personal boundaries are always the easiest prey for pessoas manipuladoras.
If you don’t set boundaries, if you don’t stand up for yourself, she will continue to manipulate and use you in a way that benefits her. If you don’t try to resist her, she’ll see it as a green light to continue with her manipulative tactics.
4. Don’t allow her to use your feelings
Just because you love someone doesn’t give them the right to play with your feelings. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should allow them to use you how they want.
You don’t have to be with someone at any cost. Sometimes, it’s better to be alone than with the wrong person que só podem magoar-vos e deixar-vos.
5. Don’t allow this to make you think less of yourself
You’re just a human being, a vulnerable man who has fallen in love with a woman. Don’t think that makes you look stupid, no matter how things ended.
You aren’t guilty because someone else was playing with your feelings. Foi honesto o tempo todo e deve estar orgulhoso de si próprio. E, por outro lado, deixem-nos enfrentar o karma, porque um dia ele vai apanhá-los.
You’re an incredible man who ran into the wrong woman. No entanto, todos nós precisamos de passar por situações como esta para aprendermos uma lição.
One day, you’ll meet the right one, a woman whose only priority will be making you happy – a woman who will love you more than you’ll love her.
6. If she doesn’t want to change, you need to leave that toxic relationship
Se sente algo por ela, deve dar-lhe outra oportunidade, especialmente se ela tentar provar-lhe que merece realmente essa oportunidade.
However, if you see that she doesn’t put any effort into making things work, if she continues with her emotional manipulation, you have one choice and one choice only… To turn your back on her and walk away FOREVER.
It’s the only way to save yourself from any further hurt. Truthfully, it’s unlikely a manipulative person will change, and waiting for something you’re aware will never happen will only break your heart little by little.
7. Don’t be afraid to seek help
If you need advice on what to do or simply need someone to share your sorrows with, don’t be afraid to speak to someone outside of your relationship. Talk to your best friend and let them be your confidant or a shoulder to cry on.
If your partner becomes too aggressive, and if you feel at any moment that you’re in danger, please call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Lembre-se, ninguém merece estar numa relação abusiva.
Se o seu parceiro usa manipulação emocional e isso começa a afetar a sua saúde emocional e mental, consulte um especialista para o ajudar a lidar com a situação.
No matter what you do, don’t ever keep those things and your negative feelings to yourself. In this case, sharing is indeed caring!
De que é que os manipuladores têm medo?
Manipulative people aren’t as cold and strong as most of us think. They also have their fears and insecurities. They also have imperfections like we all do, but they hide them much better.
Revelar as suas vulnerabilidades é o maior medo de quase todas as pessoas com comportamento manipulador. It’s like they think it would make other people think less of them, which would, in a way, take away their power to manipulate others.
Also, other people’s vulnerabilities are their greatest tool when it comes to manipulating others, so they believe that revealing their weaknesses will make them easy prey for others to manipulate.
Para concluir
Estas eram todas as bandeiras vermelhas e sinais de uma mulher manipuladora. Espero sinceramente que consiga evitar uma mulher como esta, mas se alguma vez se envolver numa relação manipuladora, agora já sabe como lidar com ela.
And if you’ve just found out that your better half is manipulating you, all I can tell you is that I know how much it hurts. Eu sei o quanto dói descobrir que alguém que amamos sinceramente só nos está a usar para conseguir o que quer.
Sei que o teu coração está partido neste momento, mas tens de aceitar a verdade. Tens de a aceitar e concentrar-te em sair dessa relação tóxica.
