6 sinais de que ele está se fazendo de vítima para te destruir

O jogo da vítima é uma espécie de manipulação emocional utilizada pelos homens para o manter por perto, para o quebrar ou simplesmente porque acreditam verdadeiramente que são vítimas.

It’s the kind of manipulation we quite often brush off because they really have convincing stories and how could a victim be a manipulator?

But it’s manipulation, after all, so watch out for these signs and excuses that he might be using on you.

Todas as ex que ele teve eram umas cabras

    

Cada uma delas quebrou-o, enganou-o ou mentiu-lhe. A culpa nunca foi dele, era apenas um rapaz ingénuo e jovem que se apaixonou loucamente.

He’s using this to guilt-trip you into staying with him, making you believe that it’s your job to fix him.

But how can someone have such bad luck to date only bitches? His past relationships all have one thing in common, and it’s not his bad luck. It’s him.

Está sempre a atacá-lo

No matter what you say, what you do or how you approach him, he always feels like he’s being attacked.

You’re doing great at work—you’re doing it only so you can leave him, you’re doing it only to show him how much better you are and he is only a stupid boy.

You try to tell him something that’s been bothering you—you’re only doing it to show him you’re superior; he never meant to hurt you, how could he? After all, he’s the one broken here.

Ele despeja todos os seus problemas em cima de ti

He uses you as his trash bin. All of the universe has turned against him, he’s doomed.

If he gets a parking ticket, he’ll say, “A cop gave me a ticket.” It’s impossible for him to take responsibility for his actions. It’s NEVER his fault.

Como eu disse, o universo está a tentar apanhá-lo. De entre 7 biliões de pessoas, ele deve ser muito especial para ser um dos alvos.

Por isso, naturalmente, ele precisa de alguém para desabafar, para acenar com a cabeça enquanto conta a sua triste e pequena história de vida.

In this case, you’re the one he uses for that, without even checking on you, without even thinking how this might affect your mood or state of mind.

Listening to constant negativity is truly bad for anyone’s health.

Ele transforma pequenos incidentes em argumentos

It’s easier to play the victim if you’re the one being yelled at. His way to get away with stupid, little things is to provoke you so much until you snap, and he gets to play the victim once more (whereas he could simply apologize, but that would mean he has to take responsibility for something he has done).

Ao fim de algum tempo, começa a perguntar-se se é você que tem problemas de controlo da raiva e se está sempre errado.

Maybe he’s really trying, and you’re simply being a bitch? Honey, take a good look at your relationship. He could just be manipulating you to get away with his screw-ups.

He doesn’t seem to understand why no one comes to his defense

Pobrezinho, porque é que ninguém está do lado dele? Porque é que os teus amigos estão sempre do teu lado, sempre a apoiar-te, e os dele não estão?

Maybe because they know him a little bit better than you had the chance to, maybe his friends know it’s better to stay out of his ‘problems’.

Talvez os teus amigos te amem e respeitem tal como és, em vez de te virarem as costas.

Ele vai tentar usar isso para que te sintas culpada por não estares mais do lado dele, para que te sintas culpada porque ele não tem ninguém e tu tens tantos amigos.

You’ll start devoting all of your time to him until you’re completely cortado da sua vida privada.

Ele NUNCA sente a necessidade de pedir desculpa

Because nothing is ever his fault (duh). Until he learns to take responsibility for the things he has done, you’ll never be able to move forward in the relationship.

I don’t know about you, but if I don’t get a sincere apology for something that truly upset me, I’m not able to move on after that incident.

And if you’re constantly going round in circles, with him refusing to apologize and brainwashing you into believing it’s you and not him, how long will it take until you completely lose yourself in his manipulation?

Quanto tempo é que ele vai levar para te quebrar completamente, até te tornares apenas mais uma das suas ex-machos?