6 segni che sta giocando a fare la vittima per distruggerti

Il gioco delle vittime è un tipo di manipolazione emotiva che gli uomini usano per tenerti con sé, per farti cedere o semplicemente perché credono davvero di essere vittime.

It’s the kind of manipulation we quite often brush off because they really have convincing stories and how could a victim be a manipulator?

But it’s manipulation, after all, so watch out for these signs and excuses that he might be using on you.

Ogni sua ex era una stronza

    

Ognuna di loro lo ha spezzato, lo ha tradito o gli ha mentito. Non è mai stata colpa sua, era solo un ragazzo ingenuo che si era innamorato perdutamente.

He’s using this to guilt-trip you into staying with him, making you believe that it’s your job to fix him.

But how can someone have such bad luck to date only bitches? His past relationships all have one thing in common, and it’s not his bad luck. It’s him.

Lo attaccate sempre

No matter what you say, what you do or how you approach him, he always feels like he’s being attacked.

You’re doing great at work—you’re doing it only so you can leave him, you’re doing it only to show him how much better you are and he is only a stupid boy.

You try to tell him something that’s been bothering you—you’re only doing it to show him you’re superior; he never meant to hurt you, how could he? After all, he’s the one broken here.

Scarica su di voi tutti i suoi problemi

He uses you as his trash bin. All of the universe has turned against him, he’s doomed.

If he gets a parking ticket, he’ll say, “A cop gave me a ticket.” It’s impossible for him to take responsibility for his actions. It’s NEVER his fault.

Come ho detto, l'universo lo sta cercando. Su 7 miliardi di persone, deve essere così speciale da essere preso di mira.

Quindi, naturalmente, ha bisogno di qualcuno con cui sfogarsi, che annuisca mentre racconta la sua triste, piccola, storia di vita.

In this case, you’re the one he uses for that, without even checking on you, without even thinking how this might affect your mood or state of mind.

Listening to constant negativity is truly bad for anyone’s health.

Trasforma piccoli incidenti in discussioni

It’s easier to play the victim if you’re the one being yelled at. His way to get away with stupid, little things is to provoke you so much until you snap, and he gets to play the victim once more (whereas he could simply apologize, but that would mean he has to take responsibility for something he has done).

Dopo qualche tempo, iniziate a chiedervi se siete voi ad avere problemi di gestione della rabbia e se avete sempre torto.

Maybe he’s really trying, and you’re simply being a bitch? Honey, take a good look at your relationship. He could just be manipulating you to get away with his screw-ups.

He doesn’t seem to understand why no one comes to his defense

Povero piccolo, perché nessuno è dalla sua parte? Perché i tuoi amici sono sempre dalla tua parte, ti sostengono sempre, e i suoi no?

Maybe because they know him a little bit better than you had the chance to, maybe his friends know it’s better to stay out of his ‘problems’.

Forse i vostri amici vi amano e vi rispettano così come siete, invece di voltarvi le spalle.

Cercherà di usare questa situazione per farti sentire in colpa per non essere più dalla sua parte, per sentirti in colpa perché lui non ha nessuno e tu hai tanti amici.

You’ll start devoting all of your time to him until you’re completely tagliati fuori dalla propria vita privata.

Non sente MAI il bisogno di scusarsi.

Because nothing is ever his fault (duh). Until he learns to take responsibility for the things he has done, you’ll never be able to move forward in the relationship.

I don’t know about you, but if I don’t get a sincere apology for something that truly upset me, I’m not able to move on after that incident.

And if you’re constantly going round in circles, with him refusing to apologize and brainwashing you into believing it’s you and not him, how long will it take until you completely lose yourself in his manipulation?

Quanto tempo gli ci vorrà per distruggerti completamente, fino a farti diventare solo un'altra delle sue ex stronze?