6 traços enfáticos que o tornam irresistível para um narcisista

Livramo-nos de um narcisista e rapidamente nos encontramos numa relação com outro.

You start believing that only narcissists are what are left of living creatures on earth and that’s why you meet only them.

You lose all hope of ever meeting someone normal (it doesn’t even have to be that famous, unicorn “real man”) who will treat you the way you deserve, respect you, and won’t play the fucking games with you.

And every time you think you’ve finally met the right one, it turns out that he’s a narcissistic manipulator in disguise.

Parece-lhe familiar?

The next step is accusing yourself of bad decisions and making poor choices in men, but what you probably didn’t know is that it’s no coincidence that you’re a magnet for these toxic, narcissistic manipulators. These 6 emphatic traits make you simply irresistible to them:

1. Confia naturalmente em toda a gente

You don’t divide people into two categories: those who cannot be trusted and those who need to earn your trust. You’re somewhere in between the two because you naturally trust everyone.

You believe that others will treat you with respect, just as you do yourself, and that they won’t do any harm to you (mentally or physically).

You’re naturally trusting because of your pure soul; you always think positively, which is the main reason why you’re the chief target of narcissistic manipulators.

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2. Acredita na reciprocidade

Acredita que se tratar alguém com respeito, se o fizer sentir especial e se se esforçar constantemente numa relação, o seu parceiro fará o mesmo por si.

You believe in reciprocity with your entire being because you don’t know any other way.

Mas os narcisistas acreditam exatamente no oposto. Abusam da sua crença na reciprocidade, fingindo que querem a mesma coisa e que estão dispostos a fazer um esforço e a retribuir (pelo menos, no início de uma relação).

3. Nunca desistes tão facilmente

You see good in others and you don’t give up at the first small obstacle. You don’t throw in the towel even if someone hurts you once, twice –perhaps multiple times.

A sua determinação em nunca desistir tão facilmente na vida e nas relações é como uma droga para um manipulador narcisista.

Eles gostam do jogo de o magoar e manipular e ficam ainda mais entusiasmados quando sabem que não vai desistir tão facilmente.

Eles gostam de o ver sofrer e depois voltar para eles como se nada tivesse acontecido.

4. You’re honest and compassionate

You’re like an open book to everyone because you’re not afraid to speak your mind and you have nothing to hide. You’re not afraid to be vulnerable in front of others, even though you know they could use it against you. 

You’re also compassionate to the core. You feel other people’s pain and you always want to be with them and help them at any cost. Narcissists know all of this; they also know that honesty and compassion are two vulnerable traits to have, which is precisely why they exploit them. 

Everything you say to narcissists, they will use against you and somehow you’ll keep being compassionate with them, despite them hurting you. That’s why you’re their key target.

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5. Amas incondicionalmente

Amas incondicionalmente. You have a big heart that’s been broken many times, but you still don’t lose hope for better days.

You still care more about others than yourself. You still care more about other people’s happiness than your own. And narcissists are fully aware of that.

They know that no matter what they did to you, you won’t judge them or accuse them of being assholes. They know that you’ll show compassion and always forgive them, no matter what they’ve done to you. 

Usam os seus traços inocentes e empáticos em proveito próprio e fingem que o adoram, enquanto concebem um plano perfeito para o seu jogo tóxico e manipulador.

6. Tem um forte desejo de curar os outros e de corrigir as pessoas

Tem um forte desejo de curar os outros e de os corrigir, se necessário, porque acredita que qualquer pessoa pode mudar se apenas a ajudar.

E os narcisistas também sabem disso. Eles são bem versados em fisgar-nos ao serem imaturos e manipuladores que precisam da vossa ajuda.

Mas, a verdade é que eles nunca estiveram nem estarão dispostos a mudar. Esta é apenas uma ferramenta que lhes permite ganhar tempo para o poderem manipular durante mais tempo.

The plain fact is that you cannot change anyone unless they themselves are willing to change – this applies to narcissistic manipulators too.