6 rasgos enfáticos que te hacen irresistible para un narcisista

Te deshaces de un narcisista y pronto te encuentras en una relación con otro.

You start believing that only narcissists are what are left of living creatures on earth and that’s why you meet only them.

You lose all hope of ever meeting someone normal (it doesn’t even have to be that famous, unicorn “real man”) who will treat you the way you deserve, respect you, and won’t play the fucking games with you.

And every time you think you’ve finally met the right one, it turns out that he’s a narcissistic manipulator in disguise.

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The next step is accusing yourself of bad decisions and making poor choices in men, but what you probably didn’t know is that it’s no coincidence that you’re a magnet for these toxic, narcissistic manipulators. These 6 emphatic traits make you simply irresistible to them:

1. Confías en todo el mundo de forma natural

You don’t divide people into two categories: those who cannot be trusted and those who need to earn your trust. You’re somewhere in between the two because you naturally trust everyone.

You believe that others will treat you with respect, just as you do yourself, and that they won’t do any harm to you (mentally or physically).

You’re naturally trusting because of your pure soul; you always think positively, which is the main reason why you’re the chief target of narcissistic manipulators.

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2. Crees en la reciprocidad

Crees que si tratas a alguien con respeto, le haces sentir especial y te esfuerzas constantemente en una relación, tu pareja hará lo mismo por ti.

You believe in reciprocity with your entire being because you don’t know any other way.

Pero los narcisistas creen exactamente lo contrario. Abusan de tu creencia en la reciprocidad fingiendo que quieren lo mismo y están dispuestos a esforzarse y corresponder (al menos, al principio de una relación).

3. Nunca te rindes tan fácilmente

You see good in others and you don’t give up at the first small obstacle. You don’t throw in the towel even if someone hurts you once, twice –perhaps multiple times.

Tu determinación de no rendirte nunca tan fácilmente en la vida y en las relaciones es como una droga para un manipulador narcisista.

Disfrutan en el juego de hacerte daño y manipularte y se emocionan aún más cuando saben que no te rendirás tan fácilmente.

Les divierte verte sufrir y luego volver a ellos como si nada.

4. You’re honest and compassionate

You’re like an open book to everyone because you’re not afraid to speak your mind and you have nothing to hide. You’re not afraid to be vulnerable in front of others, even though you know they could use it against you. 

You’re also compassionate to the core. You feel other people’s pain and you always want to be with them and help them at any cost. Narcissists know all of this; they also know that honesty and compassion are two vulnerable traits to have, which is precisely why they exploit them. 

Everything you say to narcissists, they will use against you and somehow you’ll keep being compassionate with them, despite them hurting you. That’s why you’re their key target.

Véase también: 5 maneras a prueba de balas para mantener a los narcisistas fuera de tu vida

5. Amas incondicionalmente

Amas incondicionalmente. You have a big heart that’s been broken many times, but you still don’t lose hope for better days.

You still care more about others than yourself. You still care more about other people’s happiness than your own. And narcissists are fully aware of that.

They know that no matter what they did to you, you won’t judge them or accuse them of being assholes. They know that you’ll show compassion and always forgive them, no matter what they’ve done to you. 

Utilizan tus rasgos inocentes y empáticos en su provecho y fingen que la adoran, mientras idean un plan perfecto para su juego tóxico y manipulador.

6. Tienes un fuerte deseo de curar a los demás y arreglar a la gente

Tienes un fuerte deseo de curar a los demás y arreglarlos si es necesario porque crees que cualquiera puede cambiar si sólo le ayudas.

Y los narcisistas también lo saben. Están bien versados en engancharte siendo imbéciles inmaduros y manipuladores que necesitan su ayuda.

Pero, la verdad es que nunca estuvieron ni estarán dispuestos a cambiar. Esto no es más que una herramienta que les hace ganar tiempo para poder manipularte durante más tiempo.

The plain fact is that you cannot change anyone unless they themselves are willing to change – this applies to narcissistic manipulators too.