7 sinais de uma pessoa negativa e como lidar com (ser) uma
Everyone knows that person who walks into the room and ruins everyone’s mood. Or maybe you have a friend who complains and worries so much that it has come to the point that you avoid them. What about that coworker who always has something passive-aggressive to say?
A pessoa negativa é alguém que vê tudo e todos como antipáticos e deixa que a sua atitude negativa afecte a forma como se trata a si próprio e aos outros. Evitar o seu negativismo e não deixar que o perturbem pode ser um desafio.
Most of the time, you’ll notice many of these 7 signs of a negative person in people who bring you down. Or perhaps you’ll recognize your own behavior in some of them.
Keep reading to learn how to protect yourself if you’re dealing with negative people and how to change and become more positive if you são um.
7 Sinais de uma pessoa negativa
Todos nós temos dias maus, mas para alguém com uma visão negativa do mundo, todos os dias são maus. Uma pessoa negativa sente que só lhe acontecem coisas más e que o mundo inteiro está a tentar apanhá-la.
There are 7 signs of a negative person who lets negative thoughts and feelings rule their life. They’ll be easier to understand if we first look at an example of how negative people approach everything in life.
O que é um pessoa negativa como?
Let’s say that a negative person needs a favor from an acquaintance. Most people would be nervous but still politely and warmly ask the other person for help.
Uma pessoa negativa começa por se pôr num frenesim de negatividade by thinking about how their acquaintance won’t want to help, how they’ll be rude or argue with them. So when they finally make the request, they’re already annoyed, impatient and ready to bite back.
De certa forma, as pessoas negativas manifestam um mau resultado de uma situação ou um mau comportamento de alguém com quem têm de lidar porque acreditam que as coisas vão acabar mal. Pessoas negativas esperar sempre o pior.
E quando o conhecido reage à sua negatividade sendo desdenhoso e defensivo, uma pessoa negativa vê isso como uma confirmação das suas crenças. Because we create our own experiences, it’s no surprise that their expectations come true.
Aqui estão os sinais reveladores de uma pessoa negativa.
1. Cinismo
• They don’t trust people and their motives.
• They always suspect others and their intentions.
• They don’t approach people and situations in good faith.
• They don’t do things with sincerity.
• They have negative expectations.
• They only focus on the bad parts of their experiences.
• They only remember the bad things and forget the good.
• They don’t accept compliments and they suspect the good intentions of the person who tells them something nice.
• When they pay someone a compliment, it’s often actually criticism disguised as one.
• They regularly have negative thoughts about themselves.
• They focus on other people’s weaknesses.
• They don’t rely on anyone.
• They have a bad attitude and find fault in everything.
2. Hostilidade
• They’re argumentative and always ready to contradict others.
• They look for attention through bad behavior.
• They judge other people’s beliefs, behavior and preferences.
• They rarely have nice things to say about other people.
• They can’t forgive even the smallest slight and hold grudges.
• They pick fights with others for any reason.
• They always have something negative to say about anyone.
• They’re unfriendly.
• They don’t want to develop relationships with other people.
• They criticize everything.
• They always find something negative to say about something other people get excited about.
3. Pessimismo
• They always have something to complain about.
• They engage in black-and-white thinking.
• They can’t enjoy success because they expect it to go away.
• They’re always waiting to be disappointed by people or life in general.
• They put a negative spin on good news.
• They always worry about what might happen.
• They always get nervous and never excited about the future.
• They turn a small issue into a disaster.
• They’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
• They believe that a disaster is inevitable.
• They’re always against whatever there is to be for or against.
• They believe only coisas más acontecer-lhes.
• They try to bring others down.
4. Inveja
• They’re vindictive and mean-spirited.
• They play the victim.
• Success of others makes them unhappy.
• They’re not grateful for what they have.
• They whine about how much worse they have it.
• They exaggerate their failures.
• They don’t allow themselves to be happy.
• They blame everything on others.
• They don’t take responsibility for their own actions.
• They don’t believe good things about themselves.
• They always find ways to talk negatively about themselves and others.
• They’re focused on what’s wrong with them instead of what’s good about them.
• They’re extremely critical of themselves.
• They’re vampiros de energia.
• Everything happens to them.
5. Apatia
• They don’t work on improving themselves.
• They avoid things.
• They reject the truth if it doesn’t fit their beliefs.
• They always have excuses for their failures.
• They allow the past to determine their present and future.
• They’re underachievers.
• They’re afraid of new things and never take risks.
• They stay in their comfort zone.
• They avoid situations that have resultados imprevisíveis.
• They have a fear of failure, so they’d rather just not try.
• They believe other people’s success is due to luck.
• They think they could be happy if things magically changed.
• They miss out on life because of their apathy.
6. Arrogância
• They have low self-esteem, but they cover it up with arrogance.
• They reject all negative feedback.
• They can’t handle criticism.
• They’re egocentric and selfish.
• They don’t know why people don’t like them apesar do seu comportamento.
• They can’t be wrong.
• It’s never their fault.
• They have very thin skin and the smallest comment offends them.
• They try to tell others what to do.
• They reject other people’s points of view.
• They’re a know-it-all.
• They belittle others to keep them feeling bad.
• They are control freaks.
7. Falta de empatia
• They downplay other people’s achievements and good points because they feel bad about their own.
• They don’t understand how their behavior affects others.
• They’re rude to people.
• They love to get something from others but hate giving.
• They’re unable to see things from the perspective of others.
• They love to gossip and talk about other people’s faults and mistakes.
• They turn conversations into arguments.
• They always have to win.
• They’re never happy for others.
Como é que lida com Pessoas negativas?
We all encounter negative people on a daily basis: energy vampires, pessimists, people who pick fights with you for no reason. or people that make you feel like you have to walk on eggshells when they’re around.
Quando temos de interagir com pessoas assim, temos de dar prioridade à nossa própria saúde mental. Estabelecer e fazer respeitar os limites é a única coisa que o protegerá da sua negatividade.
Estas pessoas perturbam-no e estragam-lhe o dia, e a sua atitude negativa pode ser contagiosa. Se continuar a encontrar este tipo de pessoas, os danos que elas lhe infligem podem torná-lo desconfiado e transformar-se num pessoa negativa tu mesmo.
A forma como se lida com uma pessoa negativa depende da relação que se tem com ela.
1. Afastar-se
Sometimes you have a bad experience with someone you’ll only see once in your life, so your priority should be to get away from them as soon as possible. If it’s someone you have no commitment to and you don’t have to lidar com eles, simplesmente afastar-se.
If you’ve ever run into someone who’s trying to bait you into an argument with them, you’ve probably felt obligated to defend yourself and make them calm down, but you don’t have to do it. Pode recusar-se a enfrentá-los em vez de cair na sua armadilha.
Ignoring someone or leaving the room instead of arguing with them might be difficult because it feels rude or disrespectful. But it becomes easier when you remember that this person isn’t trying to communicate with you and só querem antagonizá-lo.
Dizer algo do género, “I’m not interested in discussing this,” and ignore them or leave. They will try to continue the argument, rant or gossip they started, but it’s best if you stay persistent and shut them down.
2. Concentre-se no seu objetivo
Nos casos em que tem de Se interagir com uma pessoa negativa, a forma de evitar a sua negatividade é concentrar-se na razão pela qual tem de falar com ela. Seja qual for o negativismo que eles manifestem, ignore-o e discuta apenas o que tem para discutir.
For example, you need a coworker to give you some information related to work, and this person is a gossip who likes to talk behind people’s backs.
When you come to them asking for the info, instead of telling you what you need to know, they’re trying to tell you something unsavory about another coworker. You can tell that they won’t give you what you need before they’ve had their fill of involving you in their malicious small talk.
Don’t think that the only way to get out of this is to give in and listen to them. Instead, ignore their attempts to engage you and only focus on the work-related reason you’re talking to them. Reiterate why you’re there and ignore whatever else they talk about.
Por muito tempo que tentem fazer com que fofoque com eles, recuse-se a cooperar e continue a pedir-lhes as informações de que necessita até as obter. Esta é a única forma de sair desta situação sem lhes dar o que eles querem.
3. Ajudá-los
Quando alguém que nos é próximo é negativo, as coisas tornam-se mais complicadas.
The fact that someone you care for is plagued by negative thinking, which makes them toxic and unhappy with their own lives, hurts and it’s understandable if you want to help them. It’s also very difficult.
A única maneira de alguém deixar de ser negativo é estar disposto a mudar. (Ver abaixo dicas sobre como deixar de ser negativo).
Mesmo quando alguém decide que quer fazer melhor, é necessário muito trabalho árduo para melhorar a sua saúde mental. Se o seu ente querido for negativo e decidir trabalhar para melhorar, pode apoiá-lo e dar-lhe apoio.
But if they’re still at the stage where they refuse to see that their negativity is a problem, you won’t be able to help them.
The only thing you can do is make sure they don’t get you entangled in the negativity. The worst thing a negative person can do to you is turn you into one and it doesn’t take a lot for that to happen.
Dicas para lidar com pessoas negativas
Utilize estas orientações para o ajudar, independentemente da sua relação com uma pessoa negativa.
- Manter-se positivo
Don’t react to their negativity with negativity of your own. If they yell and you yell back, you’re falling into their trap. Don’t react to their behavior the way they expect you to but stay true to your intentions and don’t engage.
• Set boundaries
Be firm about the behavior you will tolerate and how far you’ll go to help them. Your boundaries can be different for different people, but you must have them to protect yourself.
• Don’t judge
Luta com bondade. Mostre compreensão em vez de lhes dizer que são horríveis. Realize that their behavior is caused by negative thoughts and insecurities they’re struggling with.
• Don’t take things personally
Don’t forget that it’s their own issues that are making them behave this way. Even though this isn’t an excuse for their behavior, knowing it can be helpful if you feel hurt by their actions.
• Don’t be their therapist
You can’t solve their problems, so don’t even try. Don’t give them advice. You can show them support and understanding, but you don’t have responsibility for their feelings.
• Change the subject
Try to avoid getting emotional because of their negative behavior. Instead, it’s a good idea to change the subject and try talking about something positive.
Você é um Pessoa negativa?
Se se reconhece em alguns destes traços negativos, já sabe os danos que ser uma pessoa negativa causa em todas as áreas da sua vida.
Negativity doesn’t only bring others down, it makes you miserable too. Prejudica as suas relações, torna a sua vida mais difícil e mantém-no constantemente ansioso e nervoso.
A negative mindset can affect everything in your life – from job interviews you’re sure you’ll fumble to sabotaging romantic relationships before they even begin.
Have you ever had an angry outburst that made you feel superior as it was happening, but afterward, you felt drained and hopeless? Do you enjoy raining on someone’s parade when they’re happy about something to put them in their place?
Being mean to someone might make you feel pleased for a short while, but when it’s over, you won’t feel any better about yourself.
O que é que torna uma pessoa negativa?
A maior parte da negatividade que o deixa a si e às pessoas à sua volta desconfortáveis tem origem na mesma fonte: sentimentos negativos sobre si próprio.
When low self-esteem, a lack of confidence, depression, insecurity, a fear of failure, anger or anxiety aren’t addressed in a healthy way, they come out as toxicity. You bring people down to feel better about yourself, even if you don’t mean to do it.
This kind of behavior tends to happen in the heat of the moment, and even though you know that you’re being toxic, you can’t stop. Before you can learn how to control your behavior, you need to learn how to stop letting your negative thinking affect your life.
Como deixar de ser um pessoa negativa?
O primeiro passo para se tornar uma pessoa positiva começa por ser positivo consigo próprio. Tem de lidar com os seus problemas e aprender mecanismos saudáveis para lidar com eles. This won’t only help you stop being toxic to others but also help you grow as a person.
As you become happier with yourself, you’ll become a kinder, more positive person.
1. Auto-consciência
The first steps to becoming a more positive and happier person are self-awareness and willingness to change. It sounds simple, but if you don’t see anything wrong with your feelings and behavior, you won’t commit to changing.
If you’re always suspicious of other people’s intentions, it’s largely because you approach your interactions with people ready to defend yourself. Ask yourself why this is so. If you’re envious when someone you know achieves something, determine why you feel that way.
Trabalhe para reconhecer o que está por detrás dos seus pensamentos e reacções negativos. Journaling and meditation might be helpful if you’re having trouble getting in touch with your feelings.
2. Compaixão
Changing a negative mindset into a positive one starts with being compassionate with yourself. When you know that you’re being negative towards other people because you don’t like yourself, then you can decide to be a little kinder to yourself.
A auto-aceitação requer prática. If you’re used to being hard on yourself and talking down to yourself, it will take a while to change. The important thing is to recognize it and start focusing on the good instead of the bad.
Pare quando se aperceber de um comportamento auto-depreciativo e começar a desafiar os seus processos de pensamento para gerar energia positiva.
3. Amor duro
On the road to loving yourself, you’ll have to face yourself. Confronting your negative thoughts is unpleasant, but it’s um ato de amor-próprio that’s necessary on the path to recovery. It’s the first step towards becoming happy.
If you were ever in therapy – and if you’re a negative person, you could benefit from it – you’ll know that it makes you do things you don’t want to do that are for your own good. Self-reflection is the most important of them.
Enfrentarmo-nos a nós próprios é difícil porque expõe todas as mentiras que contamos a nós próprios e obriga-nos a lidar com todos os sentimentos crus e desprotegidos de que tentamos fugir. A atenção plena e as afirmações podem ser úteis.
4. Mudar o seu ponto de vista
A principal diferença entre pessoas negativas e positivas é que as pessoas positivas olham para as coisas que lhes acontecem e aceitam-nas tal como são. As pessoas negativas concentram-se apenas no que é mau.
Learning how to be more positive and let go of negative interpretations of events and people’s behavior will change how you feel about it. Abordar as pessoas com empatia e eventos sem expectativas.
If you usually become angry at a friend for ignoring your text for a certain period of time because you think they don’t care about you, you could instead decide to put yourself in their shoes. Think about how busy they might be and that a single text message could have escaped their notice.
5. Quebrar o hábito da negatividade
You don’t trust people, so you feel lonely. You always expect bad things, so bad things happen. You feel envious if someone close to you achieves something instead of being happy.
Quando a negatividade se torna um hábito, torna-se a sua reação padrão. Desafie os seus pensamentos negativos, substituindo-os por pensamentos positivos para deixar de lado a negatividade. Mesmo que tenha de se convencer a si próprio no início, quanto mais se concentrar no lado positivo, mais fácil se torna.
Por exemplo, se culpa sempre os outros pelas coisas más que lhe acontecem, comece a assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos. Crie hábitos positivos, decidindo ver as coisas de uma forma mais positiva.
6. Gratidão
A gratidão pode ajudar muito a ver as coisas boas da sua vida. Thinking about the things you’re grateful for can help you change your perspective on your life. Apreciar tudo, mesmo as pequenas coisas.
If you often feel envious of others because they have something you don’t, focusing on the good things you do have is very helpful. But if you’re already thinking about how you don’t really have anything to be grateful for, you’re deluding yourself.
Desenvolva a gratidão mudando conscientemente os seus pensamentos. If you can usually find something negative in everything good in your life and think things like, “I like my job, but–” make an effort to stop qualifying the positives with faults.
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Em conclusão
A maioria dos 7 sinais de uma pessoa negativa são comportamentos causados por pensamentos negativos e autoimagem negativa. Algumas pessoas negativas querem mudar e levar uma vida melhor, enquanto outras preferem ficar na sua pequena bolha de miséria.
When you have to deal with a negative person who’s unwilling to work on their feelings and behavior, it can be difficult to remember that their negativity hurts them too. Don’t forget that you can only help someone willing to be helped.
Make sure to protect your own mental health by using boundaries and not letting them pull you into their negativity.If you’re a negative person, trabalhar para melhorar a sua autoestima e fazer um esforço consciente para ser mais positivo pode ajudá-lo a ter uma perspetiva mais feliz e a escapar à luta contra a negatividade.
