7 señales de una persona negativa y cómo lidiar con (ser) una de ellas
Everyone knows that person who walks into the room and ruins everyone’s mood. Or maybe you have a friend who complains and worries so much that it has come to the point that you avoid them. What about that coworker who always has something passive-aggressive to say?
A persona negativa es alguien que ve a todos y a todo como antipático y deja que su actitud negativa afecte a la forma en que se trata a sí mismo y a los demás. Evitar su negatividad y no dejar que te alteren puede ser todo un reto.
Most of the time, you’ll notice many of these 7 signs of a negative person in people who bring you down. Or perhaps you’ll recognize your own behavior in some of them.
Keep reading to learn how to protect yourself if you’re dealing with negative people and how to change and become more positive if you son uno.
7 Signos de una persona negativa
Todos tenemos días malos, pero para alguien con una visión negativa del mundo, todos los días son malos. Una persona negativa cree que sólo le ocurren cosas malas y siente que todo el mundo va a por ella.
There are 7 signs of a negative person who lets negative thoughts and feelings rule their life. They’ll be easier to understand if we first look at an example of how negative people approach everything in life.
¿Qué es un persona negativa ¿Cómo?
Let’s say that a negative person needs a favor from an acquaintance. Most people would be nervous but still politely and warmly ask the other person for help.
Una persona negativa primero se sume en un frenesí de negatividad by thinking about how their acquaintance won’t want to help, how they’ll be rude or argue with them. So when they finally make the request, they’re already annoyed, impatient and ready to bite back.
En cierto modo, las personas negativas manifiestan el mal resultado de una situación o el mal comportamiento de alguien con quien tienen que tratar porque creen que las cosas saldrán mal. Las personas negativas espere siempre lo peor.
Y cuando el conocido reacciona a su negatividad mostrándose despectivo y a la defensiva, la persona negativa lo ve como una confirmación de sus creencias. Because we create our own experiences, it’s no surprise that their expectations come true.
Estos son los signos reveladores de una persona negativa.
1. Cinismo
• They don’t trust people and their motives.
• They always suspect others and their intentions.
• They don’t approach people and situations in good faith.
• They don’t do things with sincerity.
• They have negative expectations.
• They only focus on the bad parts of their experiences.
• They only remember the bad things and forget the good.
• They don’t accept compliments and they suspect the good intentions of the person who tells them something nice.
• When they pay someone a compliment, it’s often actually criticism disguised as one.
• They regularly have negative thoughts about themselves.
• They focus on other people’s weaknesses.
• They don’t rely on anyone.
• They have a bad attitude and find fault in everything.
2. Hostilidad
• They’re argumentative and always ready to contradict others.
• They look for attention through bad behavior.
• They judge other people’s beliefs, behavior and preferences.
• They rarely have nice things to say about other people.
• They can’t forgive even the smallest slight and hold grudges.
• They pick fights with others for any reason.
• They always have something negative to say about anyone.
• They’re unfriendly.
• They don’t want to develop relationships with other people.
• They criticize everything.
• They always find something negative to say about something other people get excited about.
3. Pesimismo
• They always have something to complain about.
• They engage in black-and-white thinking.
• They can’t enjoy success because they expect it to go away.
• They’re always waiting to be disappointed by people or life in general.
• They put a negative spin on good news.
• They always worry about what might happen.
• They always get nervous and never excited about the future.
• They turn a small issue into a disaster.
• They’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
• They believe that a disaster is inevitable.
• They’re always against whatever there is to be for or against.
• They believe only cosas malas les ocurra.
• They try to bring others down.
4. Envidia
• They’re vindictive and mean-spirited.
• They play the victim.
• Success of others makes them unhappy.
• They’re not grateful for what they have.
• They whine about how much worse they have it.
• They exaggerate their failures.
• They don’t allow themselves to be happy.
• They blame everything on others.
• They don’t take responsibility for their own actions.
• They don’t believe good things about themselves.
• They always find ways to talk negatively about themselves and others.
• They’re focused on what’s wrong with them instead of what’s good about them.
• They’re extremely critical of themselves.
• They’re vampiros de energía.
• Everything happens to them.
5. Apatía
• They don’t work on improving themselves.
• They avoid things.
• They reject the truth if it doesn’t fit their beliefs.
• They always have excuses for their failures.
• They allow the past to determine their present and future.
• They’re underachievers.
• They’re afraid of new things and never take risks.
• They stay in their comfort zone.
• They avoid situations that have resultados imprevisibles.
• They have a fear of failure, so they’d rather just not try.
• They believe other people’s success is due to luck.
• They think they could be happy if things magically changed.
• They miss out on life because of their apathy.
6. Arrogancia
• They have low self-esteem, but they cover it up with arrogance.
• They reject all negative feedback.
• They can’t handle criticism.
• They’re egocentric and selfish.
• They don’t know why people don’t like them a pesar de su comportamiento.
• They can’t be wrong.
• It’s never their fault.
• They have very thin skin and the smallest comment offends them.
• They try to tell others what to do.
• They reject other people’s points of view.
• They’re a know-it-all.
• They belittle others to keep them feeling bad.
• They are control freaks.
7. Falta de empatía
• They downplay other people’s achievements and good points because they feel bad about their own.
• They don’t understand how their behavior affects others.
• They’re rude to people.
• They love to get something from others but hate giving.
• They’re unable to see things from the perspective of others.
• They love to gossip and talk about other people’s faults and mistakes.
• They turn conversations into arguments.
• They always have to win.
• They’re never happy for others.
¿Cómo afrontar Personas negativas?
We all encounter negative people on a daily basis: energy vampires, pessimists, people who pick fights with you for no reason. or people that make you feel like you have to walk on eggshells when they’re around.
Cuando tienes que relacionarte con gente así, debes dar prioridad a tu propia salud mental. Establecer y hacer cumplir los límites es lo único que te protegerá contra su negatividad.
Te molestarán y te arruinarán el día, y su actitud negativa puede ser contagiosa. Si sigues encontrándote con este tipo de personas, el daño que te infligen puede hacer que te vuelvas desconfiado y convertirse en persona negativa tú mismo.
La forma de tratar a una persona negativa depende de la relación que tengas con ella.
1. Alejarse
Sometimes you have a bad experience with someone you’ll only see once in your life, so your priority should be to get away from them as soon as possible. If it’s someone you have no commitment to and you don’t have to lidiar con ellos, sólo aléjate.
If you’ve ever run into someone who’s trying to bait you into an argument with them, you’ve probably felt obligated to defend yourself and make them calm down, but you don’t have to do it. Puedes negarte a enfrentarte a ellos en lugar de caer en su trampa.
Ignoring someone or leaving the room instead of arguing with them might be difficult because it feels rude or disrespectful. But it becomes easier when you remember that this person isn’t trying to communicate with you and sólo quieren enemistarte.
Di algo como, “I’m not interested in discussing this,” and ignore them or leave. They will try to continue the argument, rant or gossip they started, but it’s best if you stay persistent and shut them down.
2. Céntrate en tu propósito
En los casos en que tienen que interactuar con una persona negativa, la forma de evitar su negatividad es mantener tu atención en la razón por la que tienes que hablar con ella. Cualquier negatividad que emitan, ignórala y discute sólo lo que tengas que discutir.
For example, you need a coworker to give you some information related to work, and this person is a gossip who likes to talk behind people’s backs.
When you come to them asking for the info, instead of telling you what you need to know, they’re trying to tell you something unsavory about another coworker. You can tell that they won’t give you what you need before they’ve had their fill of involving you in their malicious small talk.
Don’t think that the only way to get out of this is to give in and listen to them. Instead, ignore their attempts to engage you and only focus on the work-related reason you’re talking to them. Reiterate why you’re there and ignore whatever else they talk about.
Por mucho que intenten que cotillees con ellos, niégate a cooperar y sigue pidiéndoles la información que necesitas hasta que la consigas. Es la única forma de salir de esta situación sin darles lo que quieren.
3. Ayudarles
Cuando alguien cercano es negativo, las cosas se complican.
The fact that someone you care for is plagued by negative thinking, which makes them toxic and unhappy with their own lives, hurts and it’s understandable if you want to help them. It’s also very difficult.
La única manera de que alguien deje de ser negativo es que esté dispuesto a cambiar. (Más abajo encontrarás consejos para dejar de ser negativo).
Incluso cuando alguien decide que quiere mejorar, cuesta mucho trabajo mejorar su salud mental. Si tu ser querido es negativo y decide trabajar para mejorar, puedes estar a su lado y darle apoyo.
But if they’re still at the stage where they refuse to see that their negativity is a problem, you won’t be able to help them.
The only thing you can do is make sure they don’t get you entangled in the negativity. The worst thing a negative person can do to you is turn you into one and it doesn’t take a lot for that to happen.
Consejos para hacer frente a personas negativas
Utiliza estas pautas para ayudarte, independientemente de cuál sea tu relación con una persona negativa.
- Manténgase positivo
Don’t react to their negativity with negativity of your own. If they yell and you yell back, you’re falling into their trap. Don’t react to their behavior the way they expect you to but stay true to your intentions and don’t engage.
• Set boundaries
Be firm about the behavior you will tolerate and how far you’ll go to help them. Your boundaries can be different for different people, but you must have them to protect yourself.
• Don’t judge
Contraataca con amabilidad. Muestra comprensión en lugar de decirles lo horribles que son. Realize that their behavior is caused by negative thoughts and insecurities they’re struggling with.
• Don’t take things personally
Don’t forget that it’s their own issues that are making them behave this way. Even though this isn’t an excuse for their behavior, knowing it can be helpful if you feel hurt by their actions.
• Don’t be their therapist
You can’t solve their problems, so don’t even try. Don’t give them advice. You can show them support and understanding, but you don’t have responsibility for their feelings.
• Change the subject
Try to avoid getting emotional because of their negative behavior. Instead, it’s a good idea to change the subject and try talking about something positive.
¿Es usted un Persona negativa?
Si te reconoces en algunos de estos rasgos negativos, ya sabes cuánto daño causa ser una persona negativa en todas las áreas de tu vida.
Negativity doesn’t only bring others down, it makes you miserable too. Perjudica tus relaciones, te hace la vida más difícil y te mantiene constantemente ansioso y en tensión.
A negative mindset can affect everything in your life – from job interviews you’re sure you’ll fumble to sabotaging romantic relationships before they even begin.
Have you ever had an angry outburst that made you feel superior as it was happening, but afterward, you felt drained and hopeless? Do you enjoy raining on someone’s parade when they’re happy about something to put them in their place?
Being mean to someone might make you feel pleased for a short while, but when it’s over, you won’t feel any better about yourself.
¿Qué hace que una persona sea negativa?
La mayor parte de la negatividad que te incomoda a ti y a la gente que te rodea proviene de la misma fuente: sentimientos negativos sobre ti mismo.
When low self-esteem, a lack of confidence, depression, insecurity, a fear of failure, anger or anxiety aren’t addressed in a healthy way, they come out as toxicity. You bring people down to feel better about yourself, even if you don’t mean to do it.
This kind of behavior tends to happen in the heat of the moment, and even though you know that you’re being toxic, you can’t stop. Before you can learn how to control your behavior, you need to learn how to stop letting your negative thinking affect your life.
Cómo dejar de ser un persona negativa?
El primer paso para convertirse en una persona positiva empieza por ser positivo con uno mismo. Tienes que enfrentarte a tus problemas y aprender mecanismos de afrontamiento saludables. This won’t only help you stop being toxic to others but also help you grow as a person.
As you become happier with yourself, you’ll become a kinder, more positive person.
1. Autoconciencia
The first steps to becoming a more positive and happier person are self-awareness and willingness to change. It sounds simple, but if you don’t see anything wrong with your feelings and behavior, you won’t commit to changing.
If you’re always suspicious of other people’s intentions, it’s largely because you approach your interactions with people ready to defend yourself. Ask yourself why this is so. If you’re envious when someone you know achieves something, determine why you feel that way.
Trabaja para reconocer qué hay detrás de tus pensamientos y reacciones negativas. Journaling and meditation might be helpful if you’re having trouble getting in touch with your feelings.
2. Compasión
Changing a negative mindset into a positive one starts with being compassionate with yourself. When you know that you’re being negative towards other people because you don’t like yourself, then you can decide to be a little kinder to yourself.
La autoaceptación requiere práctica. If you’re used to being hard on yourself and talking down to yourself, it will take a while to change. The important thing is to recognize it and start focusing on the good instead of the bad.
Deténgase cuando detecte un comportamiento autodespreciativo y empieza a cuestionar tus procesos de pensamiento para generar energía positiva.
3. 3. Amor duro
On the road to loving yourself, you’ll have to face yourself. Confronting your negative thoughts is unpleasant, but it’s un acto de amor propio that’s necessary on the path to recovery. It’s the first step towards becoming happy.
If you were ever in therapy – and if you’re a negative person, you could benefit from it – you’ll know that it makes you do things you don’t want to do that are for your own good. Self-reflection is the most important of them.
Enfrentarse a uno mismo es difícil porque deja al descubierto todas las mentiras que uno se cuenta y le hace enfrentarse a todos los sentimientos crudos y desprotegidos de los que intenta huir. La atención plena y las afirmaciones pueden ser útiles.
4. Cambia tu punto de vista
La principal diferencia entre las personas negativas y positivas es que las positivas miran las cosas que les ocurren y las aceptan tal como son. Las personas negativas se centran sólo en lo malo.
Learning how to be more positive and let go of negative interpretations of events and people’s behavior will change how you feel about it. Acérquese a las personas con empatía y a los acontecimientos sin expectativas.
If you usually become angry at a friend for ignoring your text for a certain period of time because you think they don’t care about you, you could instead decide to put yourself in their shoes. Think about how busy they might be and that a single text message could have escaped their notice.
5. Romper el hábito de la negatividad
You don’t trust people, so you feel lonely. You always expect bad things, so bad things happen. You feel envious if someone close to you achieves something instead of being happy.
Cuando la negatividad se convierte en un hábito, se convierte en tu reacción por defecto. Desafíe sus pensamientos negativos sustituyéndolos por otros positivos para abandonar la negatividad. Aunque al principio tengas que convencerte a ti mismo, cuanto más te centres en lo positivo, más fácil te resultará.
Por ejemplo, si siempre culpas a los demás de las cosas malas que te ocurren, empieza a responsabilizarte de tus actos. Crea hábitos positivos decidiendo ver las cosas de una forma más positiva.
6. Gratitud
La gratitud puede ayudarte mucho a ver las cosas buenas de tu vida. Thinking about the things you’re grateful for can help you change your perspective on your life. Aprecia todo, incluso las cosas pequeñas.
If you often feel envious of others because they have something you don’t, focusing on the good things you do have is very helpful. But if you’re already thinking about how you don’t really have anything to be grateful for, you’re deluding yourself.
Desarrolla la gratitud cambiando conscientemente tus pensamientos. If you can usually find something negative in everything good in your life and think things like, “I like my job, but–” make an effort to stop qualifying the positives with faults.
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En conclusión
La mayoría de los 7 signos de una persona negativa son comportamientos causados por un pensamiento negativo y una imagen negativa de sí misma. Algunas personas negativas quieren cambiar y llevar una vida mejor, mientras que otras prefieren quedarse en su pequeña burbuja de miseria.
When you have to deal with a negative person who’s unwilling to work on their feelings and behavior, it can be difficult to remember that their negativity hurts them too. Don’t forget that you can only help someone willing to be helped.
Make sure to protect your own mental health by using boundaries and not letting them pull you into their negativity.If you’re a negative person, Trabajar para mejorar la autoestima y hacer un esfuerzo consciente para ser más positivo. puede ayudarte a conseguir una perspectiva más feliz y a escapar de la lucha contra la negatividad.
