Maybe it seems like your relationship functions perfectly. But, there are some things that you could be missing.
Sure, he’s usually very nice, good to you and he loves you, but what about other aspects of your relationship? Does he support you?
Does he respect you? Is he being selfish sometimes? Have you ever thought about these questions?
If he doesn’t respect you, it could be that he’s mentally abusing you. It doesn’t have to be on purpose. Some people are simply so selfish that they don’t even notice how they make others feel.
But if it’s on purpose, you should run away from him as far as you can.
Here are some signs that could help you realize if you are being mentally abused. If you notice any of them in your relationship, then it’s definitely time to end it.
He’s neglecting your needs
No matter whether you don’t have time to go out with him, you have to make it. You have to make time to go out with him because he wants to go out right now. And you always accept that.
You think that he’s very busy and that this is the only time you’ll get to see him this week. It might be that he’s busy, but that is not an excuse for him to make your time less valuable.
You might be busy as well, and he acts like he doesn’t care.
He acts like your time is not valuable at all and like the only thing that you need to do in your life is whatever he says. That’s a clear sign he’s mentally abusing you.
He doesn’t value anything you do
Anything you do for him is not good enough. It doesn’t matter if you cleared your schedule to help him with something.
He’s not satisfied with the way you did that and he’s going to resent you for it.
He’s going to act like you’re trying to sabotage the thing he needs to do and he will never even thank you.
When things end up well, he’ll act like he’s the one who did all the work. Sound familiar? Not only that he’s using you, but he’s also abusing you.
He makes you feel like it’s all your fault
It doesn’t matter if your relationship is not working out or that he’s cheated on you. He’ll somehow find a way to make it all your fault.
And he will even convince you that you’re the one who is responsible for everything, that you’re driving him away.
If he acts like this, he is in need of some real professional help. And you are in need of some alone-time so you could find a way to heal after what you’ve been through.
He often starts fights
If he uses any excuse, no matter how small, to start a fight with you, that means he’s mentally abusing you.
Don’t let him use the “I have a bad temper” excuse because he’s not the Hulk.
The Hulk is not a real person and a bad temper like that can’t be justified in real life. He obviously has some issues he doesn’t know how to solve.
If he’s mad at someone else, you’ll end up hurting. Stop it, immediately.
Don’t think that jealousy is cute and good for a relationship. It’s not. It’s very harmful because it could grow into something bigger.
His jealousy could become poisonous. And who knows, he might become violent because of his jealousy.
He makes decisions for you
The same way he’s neglecting your needs and time, he’s neglecting your opinions. He doesn’t even let you speak up for yourself.
He acts like “a real man” and makes decisions for you, so you don’t have to worry about anything. You have to do as he says.
That is the biggest sign you are being mentally abused and that you’re not being treated as a person.
You have your opinions, and if he’s not letting you express them, then he treats you as a slave.
He ignores your requests
You’ve asked him to change a million times, and he always said he will. But, he never kept his promise. Not even once.
He forgets your words in a day. No matter what you say to him, you words never get through to him.
He completely forgets what you were talking about. Nope, he’s not forgetful. His issue is much bigger than that.
He makes jokes at your expense
This is a real sign he’s not treating you like a person. He thinks it’s funny to make fun of the woman he loves.
That’s not a way to treat her. Either he doesn’t love you at all, or he has no idea what love is.
If you ever felt humiliated by him, then why are you still with him?
He swears at you
Not only does he constantly wants to fight with you, but he also swears at you.
He yells and screams and treats you like you mean nothing to him. That is another sign he’s not treating you like a real person.
It’s like his life is much more valuable than yours. And how does that make you feel? Loved and respected? Don’t think so.
Why is he like that?
You might end up asking yourself this question, but you won’t find an answer to it. The answer to this question is somewhere in his past. Something made him act this way.
In his mind, there’s nothing wrong with him. This is the kind of behavior that he was practicing his whole life, and no one said that it was bad.
Nobody has ever told him that his behavior is not normal. People have accepted him the way he is all his life.
Don’t be like those people. For the sake of your and his mental health, don’t accept it.
You don’t need someone to treat you like that, and he needs someone to show him how wrong his behavior is.
If you want to be happy and if you care about him even a little bit, you need to leave him.
By leaving him, you’ll show him that not everyone is going to accept him and that he really needs to change in order to be loved by others.
Don’t try to heal him because you will fail. He will only be able to become a better person if he sees what’s wrong with him.
If he realizes it on his own and seeks for help, then he will be saved.