11 sinais de que estás a ser demasiado forte + conselhos sobre como evitá-lo
Let’s be honest, no one likes pushy people that just don’t know when to quit. Dealing with people like that is difficult and we soon become overwhelmed with their behavior.
It’s okay to make the primeiro passo to show someone you’re interested in them. However, there is a thin line between doing that and coming on too strong when you’re trying to win someone over.
Deveria haver ter limites para tudo, even flirting. If you’re coming on too strong to someone you have just met, you will only scare them away.
When you have a crush on someone, even if you’re sure that person is your alma gémea, you need to calm down and keep it cool. Don’t show your feelings to them immediately and don’t rush anything.
You don’t want to seem too desperate, right? Then stop obsessing about the person you like, be patient, and let time do its thing.
If you want to know whether you’re coming on too strong and too fast, the ‘acompanhamento text’ is full of sinais de aviso que nunca se deve ignorar.
1. Gabarolice constante
Nobody likes a show-off, but we all do it sometimes. It’s not a bad thing to brag about things every now and then, but we have to have limits and boundaries that we shouldn’t cross.
Se estiver constantemente a gabar-se de si próprio, ninguém acreditará em si. Tem de deixar que sejam os outros a gabarem-se por si.
Como é que vai fazer isso?
Bem, sê simpático e trata as pessoas com justiça, tenta ser o melhor naquilo que fazes e faz boas acções para os outros, sem esperar nada em troca.
Bragging too much and constantly talking about yourself, is not a way to impress your crush. It will only make them think that you’re desperate.
You don’t have to draw attention to your qualities or to something you’ve done. The right person will know how to appreciate you. Seja você mesmo e permita que o conheçam.
A maioria de nós concordaria que as pessoas que gostam de se gabar geralmente não são tão bem sucedidas como querem que pensemos.
Se se gabar de ser bom ou de ser muito melhor do que os outros, a sua cara-metade vai vê-lo como uma pessoa cheia de inseguranças.
Toda a gente tem algumas inseguranças, mas o que conta é a forma como as gerimos. Encobrir as suas inseguranças gabando-se de algumas das suas qualidades nunca será bom para a sua relação.
You have to show your true self to the other person because you won’t be able to pretend forever and of course, the other person deserves to see the real you.
Coming on too strong by bragging (especially when you’ve just met someone) will make the other person form a negative opinion about you. They will see you as a deeply insecure and arrogant person.
2. Excesso de mensagens de texto
It’s great that you made the primeiro passo e pediu-lhes para número de telefone because it shows them that you’re confident. Now you have to be careful when mensagens de texto eles.
Não deve ser sempre o primeiro a telefonar ou a enviar mensagens de texto. It’s normal that you want to be in touch with your crush 24/7 and that you want to know where they are all the time.
No entanto, há que manter a calma. Se se mostrar demasiado forte ao mensagens de texto them or calling them a lot, you’ll bore them or they’ll think that you’re a creep.
Even if you’ve met someone you like on a site de encontros e mensagens de texto is your only form of communication for now, you shouldn’t text them all the time.
Eles podem pensar que o seu a vida é aborrecida e que está sentado em frente ao seu computador durante todo o dia.
If you haven’t got a reply, don’t keep mensagens de texto until they respond. Maybe they don’t have time to reply instantly or maybe they don’t like you and they don’t want to continue mensagens de texto convosco.
Also, don’t write them novels. I get that you want to get to know your crush, but you should leave something to talk about on a date.
You should keep in mind that some people don’t like mensagens de texto quite as much as you do, and some people are shy and don’t want to talk much when you first meet them.
If you come on too strong with lots of texts and calls, you’ll only drive them away.
3. Having “the talk” too soon
Se acabou de iniciar uma nova relaçãoPara isso, é preciso passar algum tempo com essa pessoa e conhecê-la antes de começar a falar do futuro.
If you’re on a primeiro encontro e disser que gostaria de definir a relação, o seu par vai pensar que é esquisito.
É preciso esperar pelo momento certo para falar com o seu parceiro sobre a definição da vossa relação. O início de uma relação nunca é a altura certa.
The other person will always show you somehow when they’re ready for “the talk”. You only have to wait and listen carefully.
Se começou agora a namorar, tem de mostrar ao seu parceiro como está descontraído. Mesmo que ele fale do futuro, tem de se manter calmo.
Reveal your future plans and goals to them, but don’t talk about the future of your relationship.
Além disso, antes de ter uma conversa séria com o seu novo parceiro, deve ter a certeza absoluta de que quer realmente passar o resto da sua vida juntos.
Por muito que goste da outra pessoa ou mesmo que se apaixone por ela à primeira vista, tem de a conhecer bem antes de começar a fazer planos para o futuro com ela.
If you rush into it, it’s not going to turn out as you expected. Trust me, it never does.
4. Namoro agressivo
Flirting is how you actually show someone that you’re interested in them romantically. It’s the best way to seduce a person you have a crush on, but it has to be done in the right way.
Algumas pessoas são namoradeiras natas e conseguem seduzir a pessoa de quem gostam em qualquer determinado dia. Por outro lado, há pessoas que são desesperadas a namoriscar.
If you’re trying too hard and you don’t get any reactions from the other side, your flirt may become aggressive. That is a fator de desempate para iniciar um nova relação.
You may think that you should try even harder to get the attention of the person you like. That’s wrong. You’ll only scare that person away.
You don’t have to shower them with compliments or leave creepy comments on their Instagram photos. You shouldn’t exaggerate anything.
Seduzir alguém com um toque é a forma mais eficaz de namoriscar com alguém.
It’s gentle and subtle. Unfortunately, some men take it the wrong way and they get too touchy on the primeiro encontroO que é algo que a maioria das mulheres detesta.
Talvez o tenha visto num filme ou tenha tentado copiar a técnica de sedução da sua estrela favorita, mas isso NÃO funciona na vida real.
5. Elogios excessivos
Compliments are a good way to flirt, too. However, you should pay attention to a few things while complimenting your crush. If you don’t do it the right way, they won’t believe that you actually mean it.
If you come on too strong with compliments, it’ll also mean that you aren’t being honest. You have to give only sincere compliments to your crush.
Parece demasiado bom para ser verdade. Se estivermos a elogiar uma pessoa de quem gostamos durante todo o tempo que passamos com ela, vai aborrecê-los ou fazê-los pensar que tem segundas intenções.
Deve evitar uma atitude demasiado forte com os elogios, especialmente quando se conhece alguém pela primeira vez.
You don’t know anything about that person, so you’ll only be able to compliment their physical appearance.
Besides, you never know how that other person is going to react to receiving so many compliments. You might scare them away because they’ll most probably think that you’ re some kind of weirdo.
Sei que quando nos apaixonamos por alguém à primeira vista, podemos ficar fascinados pela sua beleza. Pensamos que a pessoa deve saber como é bonita e começamos a elogiá-la.
If you shower your crush with compliments early on in the relationship, they’ll believe that you aren’t being sincere and that you don’t mean what you are saying.
Even though you’ve developed some strong and deep feelings for them and you know that your intentions are honest, they might get the feeling that you’re just trying to manipulate them.
6. Exigir sair todos os dias
You’ve just met someone and you have instantly clicked with them. It’s normal that you enjoy spending time with them, but you shouldn’t ask them to spend every moment of their free time with you.
Remember, we all have different lives and different obligations. You have to respect everyone’s schedule.
If your crush is busy and they can’t hang out with you when you invite them, you have to understand. Don’t get angry right away.
Even if they don’t have a busy work schedule, if they don’t want to hang out with you, you have to accept it without getting angry.
Maybe they need some alone time or they are afraid that it’s all moving too fast and they need some space.
Para ser sincero, todos nós precisamos de algum espaço num relação. Por vezes, é preciso estar sozinho para pensar nos seus sentimentos e na sua relação.
É preciso ter um pouco de calma. Exigir que a sua paixão esteja sempre consigo só a faz parecer pegajosa.
Estar agarrado a alguém leva-nos sempre a ficar com o coração partido.
7. Estar sempre disponível para eles
It’s good to always be there for your crush when they need you. They should know that they can rely on you in every situation. However, that doesn’t mean that you should be available for them all the time.
É preciso dizer-lhes que têm a vossa vida própria and your own obligations. You shouldn’t make them the center of your life, or even worse, you shouldn’t show them immediately how much they mean to you.
Tem o seu amigos e família e também deve passar algum tempo com eles.
If you cancel your plans with them every time your crush calls you to hang out, not only will you lose them but you’ll also show your crush that it’s easy for you to let down the people who love you the most.
Estar sempre disponível para eles não é uma forma de lhes mostrar que gosta de passar tempo com eles, só vai fazer com que pareça e se sinta desesperado.
You always reply to their messages instantly and answer their calls as soon as your phone rings. It’s like you’ve been waiting all day for their call or text.
If you were busy and you didn’t hear your phone ringing, you immediately apologize for not answering right away.
Esquece-se completamente do seu horário. Já nem sequer o teu trabalho é importante. Deixamos que a outra pessoa controle tudo. Deixa-a planear todos os encontros e concorda com tudo o que ela sugere.
Don’t always be available for your crush. You have to show them that you’re successful and that you have to stick to your schedule.
8. Aparecer em casa deles sem avisar
The worst thing you can do if your crush doesn’t reply to your messages is to show up at his house. It’s just totally off limits regardless of the case.
First, it’s rude. They might be having a party or some family gathering and you might ruin it. Their family will see you as someone who has no manners and you might never be welcome in their house again.
Showing up unnanounced at your crush’s house never goes well, trust me. It’s even worse if they didn’t give you the address but you found it out somehow.
Your crush is going to think that you’re spying on them and that can scare them away. They might even think that you’re some kind of maniac and ask you never to call them or talk with them in your life.
9. Contactar os seus familiares ou o seu melhor amigo sem a sua aprovação
You shouldn’t talk with their family members or their friends until they introduce you to them. It means that you’re just trying to rush things in your relationship.
You have to be patient and wait. When your crush feels ready, they will introduce you to their parents. Still, even then you shouldn’t talk with them without your partner’s approval.
One thing they’ll never forgive you for at the beginning of your relationship is if you call their parents or friends every time you fight.
It’s normal to have some disagreements, afterall you’re still getting to know each other. The important thing is to learn to deal with them in a healthy way.
Tem de aprender a resolver os seus problemas em privado e a não arrastar outras pessoas para os seus conflitos.
The only time it’s OK for you to call their family member or melhor amigo without approval is if you need their help about choosing the right gift for your crush’s birthday or some other occasion.
10. Verificar constantemente os seus perfis nas redes sociais
It’s good for you to check their Facebook or Instagram profiles and find out some new things about them. However, you shouldn’t check them all day long.
You can check some basic information about them, but you don’t have to check what their favorite movies, food, drinks, or songs are. You can wait until your next date and ask them about their interests in person.
You don’t have to spy on them and check up on everyone who has liked their photos or whose photos they’ve liked. Also, you should never like all their photos immediately, especially those from before you even met.
Even if you see something that you don’t like, if someone has left an inappropriate comment or something, you mustn’t react immediately.
In fact, you mustn’t react at all. Remember, you are still getting to know each other – you aren’t even dating yet. Even if you were, they don’t owe you any explanations about things that happened before you even met.
So be smart, and don’t ask directly. When the time comes, include it in a conversation topic and don’t let them know it bothers you that much.
Possessiveness and jealousy can drive your crush away. Believe me, if your crush ever finds out for you’ve been spying on them, they’ll run away in no time.
11. Continuar a tentar manter a relação, mesmo que a pessoa o tenha rejeitado muitas vezes
Rejection is never going to feel good, no matter the reason. It’s especially hard if you think that you’ve finally found your alma gémea e they’ve rejected you.
However, you have to learn when to stop trying and pursuing the relationship. If a person has turned you down several times, then you have to come to terms with the fact they don’t like you and you can do nothing about it.
The more you pursue it, the more they’ll get bored by your persistence. You have to know that some people aren’t meant to be in your life. You have to know when it’s the right time to quit trying.
Sometimes you’re afraid that you’ll lose the person you like so much. You’ve tried hard to seduce them and you think that it’s the only way to win them over.
A verdade é que, se for demasiado forte e demasiado rápido, é sempre uma fator de desempate.
Como se pode ver, há muitas coisas óbvias bandeiras vermelhas que nunca se deve ignorar quando se está a tentar seduzir alguém.
Se for demasiado forte ao namoriscar com alguém, o tiro sairá certamente pela culatra e afastará a sua paixão.
