11 segnali che indicano che vi state facendo prendere troppo la mano + consigli su come evitarlo

Let’s be honest, no one likes pushy people that just don’t know when to quit. Dealing with people like that is difficult and we soon become overwhelmed with their behavior. 

It’s okay to make the prima mossa to show someone you’re interested in them. However, there is a thin line between doing that and coming on too strong when you’re trying to win someone over.

Dovrebbe essere confini per tutto, even flirting. If you’re coming on too strong to someone you have just met, you will only scare them away. 

When you have a crush on someone, even if you’re sure that person is your anima gemella, you need to calm down and keep it cool. Don’t show your feelings to them immediately and don’t rush anything. 

You don’t want to seem too desperate, right? Then stop obsessing about the person you like, be patient, and let time do its thing. 

If you want to know whether you’re coming on too strong and too fast, the ‘follow-up text’ is full of segnali di pericolo che non dovreste mai ignorare. 

1. Vanto costante

Nobody likes a show-off, but we all do it sometimes. It’s not a bad thing to brag about things every now and then, but we have to have limits and boundaries that we shouldn’t cross. 

Se vi vantate continuamente di voi stessi, nessuno vi crederà. Dovete lasciare che siano gli altri a vantarsi per voi. 

Come pensi di farlo? 

Beh, siate gentili e trattate le persone in modo equo, cercate di essere i migliori in quello che fate e fate buone azioni agli altri, senza aspettarvi nulla in cambio. 

Bragging too much and constantly talking about yourself, is not a way to impress your crush. It will only make them think that you’re desperate. 

You don’t have to draw attention to your qualities or to something you’ve done. The right person will know how to appreciate you. Siate voi stessi e permettete loro di conoscervi.

La maggior parte di noi concorda sul fatto che le persone che amano vantarsi in genere non sono così realizzate come vogliono farci credere. 

Se vi vantate di quanto siete bravi o di quanto siete migliori degli altri, la vostra cotta vi vedrà come una persona piena di insicurezze. 

Tutti hanno delle insicurezze, ma ciò che conta è come le gestiamo. Coprire le proprie insicurezze vantandosi di alcune qualità non farà mai bene alla vostra relazione. 

You have to show your true self to the other person because you won’t be able to pretend forever and of course, the other person deserves to see the real you. 

Coming on too strong by bragging (especially when you’ve just met someone) will make the other person form a negative opinion about you. They will see you as a deeply insecure and arrogant person.

2. Eccessivo invio di messaggi

It’s great that you made the prima mossa e ha chiesto loro di numero di telefono because it shows them that you’re confident. Now you have to be careful when sms loro. 

Non dovete mai essere quelli che chiamano o mandano messaggi per primi. It’s normal that you want to be in touch with your crush 24/7 and that you want to know where they are all the time. 

Tuttavia, è necessario mantenere la calma. Se vi mostrate troppo forti sms them or calling them a lot, you’ll bore them or they’ll think that you’re a creep. 

Even if you’ve met someone you like on a sito di incontri e sms is your only form of communication for now, you shouldn’t text them all the time. 

Potrebbero pensare che il vostro la vita è noiosa e che siete seduti davanti al computer tutto il giorno. 

If you haven’t got a reply, don’t keep sms until they respond. Maybe they don’t have time to reply instantly or maybe they don’t like you and they don’t want to continue sms con voi. 

Also, don’t write them novels. I get that you want to get to know your crush, but you should leave something to talk about on a date. 

You should keep in mind that some people don’t like sms quite as much as you do, and some people are shy and don’t want to talk much when you first meet them.

 If you come on too strong with lots of texts and calls, you’ll only drive them away. 

3. Having “the talk” too soon

Se avete appena iniziato un nuova relazionePrima di iniziare a parlare del futuro, bisogna passare un po' di tempo con quella persona e conoscerla. 

If you’re on a primo appuntamento e dite che vorreste definire la relazione, il vostro accompagnatore penserà che siete strani. 

Dovete aspettare il momento giusto per parlare con il vostro partner della definizione della vostra relazione. L'inizio di una relazione non è mai il momento giusto. 

The other person will always show you somehow when they’re ready for “the talk”. You only have to wait and listen carefully.

Se avete appena iniziato a frequentarvi, dovete mostrare al vostro partner quanto siete rilassati. Anche se si parla di futuro, bisogna essere tranquilli.

Reveal your future plans and goals to them, but don’t talk about the future of your relationship. 

Inoltre, prima di parlare seriamente con il vostro nuovo partner, dovete essere completamente sicuri di voler trascorrere insieme il resto della vostra vita. 

Non importa quanto vi piaccia l'altra persona o anche se ve ne innamorate a prima vista, dovete conoscerla bene prima di iniziare a fare progetti per il futuro con lei.

If you rush into it, it’s not going to turn out as you expected. Trust me, it never does. 

4. Flirt aggressivo

Flirting is how you actually show someone that you’re interested in them romantically. It’s the best way to seduce a person you have a crush on, but it has to be done in the right way. 

Alcune persone sono dei flirtatori nati e sono in grado di sedurre la persona che gli piace in qualsiasi momento. giorno dato. D'altra parte, ci sono persone che sono disperate nel flirtare. 

If you’re trying too hard and you don’t get any reactions from the other side, your flirt may become aggressive. That is a rompiscatole per l'avvio di un nuova relazione. 

You may think that you should try even harder to get the attention of the person you like. That’s wrong. You’ll only scare that person away. 

You don’t have to shower them with compliments or leave creepy comments on their Instagram photos. You shouldn’t exaggerate anything. 

Sedurre qualcuno con un tocco è il modo più efficace per flirtare con qualcuno. 

It’s gentle and subtle. Unfortunately, some men take it the wrong way and they get too touchy on the primo appuntamento, cosa che la maggior parte delle donne odia. 

Forse l'avete visto in un film o avete cercato di copiare la tecnica di flirt della vostra star preferita, ma queste cose NON funzionano nella vita reale.

5. Complimenti eccessivi

Compliments are a good way to flirt, too. However, you should pay attention to a few things while complimenting your crush. If you don’t do it the right way, they won’t believe that you actually mean it. 

If you come on too strong with compliments, it’ll also mean that you aren’t being honest. You have to give only sincere compliments to your crush. 

Sembra troppo bello per essere vero. Se vi complimentate con una persona che vi piace per tutto il tempo che trascorrete con lei, li annoierebbe o farebbe loro pensare che avete dei secondi fini.

Dovreste Evitare di essere troppo aggressivi con i complimenti, soprattutto quando si incontra qualcuno per la prima volta. prima volta.

You don’t know anything about that person, so you’ll only be able to compliment their physical appearance. 

Besides, you never know how that other person is going to react to receiving so many compliments. You might scare them away because they’ll most probably think that you’ re some kind of weirdo. 

So che se ci si innamora di una persona a prima vista, si può rimanere affascinati dalla sua bellezza. Pensate che dovrebbe sapere quanto è bella e iniziate a farle i complimenti. 

If you shower your crush with compliments early on in the relationship, they’ll believe that you aren’t being sincere and that you don’t mean what you are saying. 

Even though you’ve developed some strong and deep feelings for them and you know that your intentions are honest, they might get the feeling that you’re just trying to manipulate them. 

6. Esigere di uscire tutti i giorni

You’ve just met someone and you have instantly clicked with them. It’s normal that you enjoy spending time with them, but you shouldn’t ask them to spend every moment of their free time with you.

Remember, we all have different lives and different obligations. You have to respect everyone’s schedule. 

If your crush is busy and they can’t hang out with you when you invite them, you have to understand. Don’t get angry right away. 

Even if they don’t have a busy work schedule, if they don’t want to hang out with you, you have to accept it without getting angry.

Maybe they need some alone time or they are afraid that it’s all moving too fast and they need some space. 

Ad essere onesti, tutti abbiamo bisogno di spazio in un relazione. Ogni tanto bisogna stare da soli per pensare ai propri sentimenti e alla propria relazione. 

Dovete fare un passo indietro. Pretendere che la vostra cotta esca sempre con voi vi fa apparire appiccicosi.

Essere attaccati a qualcuno vi porterà sempre ad avere il cuore spezzato. 

7. Essere sempre disponibili per loro

It’s good to always be there for your crush when they need you. They should know that they can rely on you in every situation. However, that doesn’t mean that you should be available for them all the time. 

Dovete far sapere loro che avete il vostro la propria vita and your own obligations. You shouldn’t make them the center of your life, or even worse, you shouldn’t show them immediately how much they mean to you. 

Avete il vostro amici e famiglia e anche voi dovete passare un po' di tempo con loro.

If you cancel your plans with them every time your crush calls you to hang out, not only will you lose them but you’ll also show your crush that it’s easy for you to let down the people who love you the most. 

Essere sempre disponibili per loro non è un modo per dimostrare che vi piace passare del tempo con loro, ma vi farà solo sembrare e sentire disperati. 

You always reply to their messages instantly and answer their calls as soon as your phone rings. It’s like you’ve been waiting all day for their call or text.

If you were busy and you didn’t hear your phone ringing, you immediately apologize for not answering right away. 

Ci si dimentica completamente dei propri impegni. Nemmeno il vostro lavoro è più importante. Lasciate che l'altra persona controlli tutto. Gli lasci pianificare ogni singolo appuntamento e sei d'accordo con tutto ciò che ti propone. 

Don’t always be available for your crush. You have to show them that you’re successful and that you have to stick to your schedule. 

8. Presentarsi a casa loro senza preavviso

The worst thing you can do if your crush doesn’t reply to your messages is to show up at his house. It’s just totally off limits regardless of the case. 

First, it’s rude. They might be having a party or some family gathering and you might ruin it. Their family will see you as someone who has no manners and you might never be welcome in their house again. 

Showing up unnanounced at your crush’s house never goes well, trust me. It’s even worse if they didn’t give you the address but you found it out somehow. 

Your crush is going to think that you’re spying on them and that can scare them away. They might even think that you’re some kind of maniac and ask you never to call them or talk with them in your life. 

9. Contattare i propri familiari o il migliore amico senza la loro approvazione

You shouldn’t talk with their family members or their friends until they introduce you to them. It means that you’re just trying to rush things in your relationship. 

You have to be patient and wait. When your crush feels ready, they will introduce you to their parents. Still, even then you shouldn’t talk with them without your partner’s approval. 

One thing they’ll never forgive you for at the beginning of your relationship is if you call their parents or friends every time you fight. 

It’s normal to have some disagreements, afterall you’re still getting to know each other. The important thing is to learn to deal with them in a healthy way.

Dovete imparare a risolvere i vostri problemi privatamente e a non trascinare altre persone nei vostri conflitti. 

The only time it’s OK for you to call their family member or migliore amico without approval is if you need their help about choosing the right gift for your crush’s birthday or some other occasion. 

10. Controllare costantemente i propri profili sui social media

It’s good for you to check their Facebook or Instagram profiles and find out some new things about them. However, you shouldn’t check them all day long. 

You can check some basic information about them, but you don’t have to check what their favorite movies, food, drinks, or songs are. You can wait until your next date and ask them about their interests in person.

You don’t have to spy on them and check up on everyone who has liked their photos or whose photos they’ve liked. Also, you should never like all their photos immediately, especially those from before you even met. 

Even if you see something that you don’t like, if someone has left an inappropriate comment or something, you mustn’t react immediately. 

In fact, you mustn’t react at all. Remember, you are still getting to know each other – you aren’t even dating yet. Even if you were, they don’t owe you any explanations about things that happened before you even met. 

So be smart, and don’t ask directly. When the time comes, include it in a conversation topic and don’t let them know it bothers you that much.

Possessiveness and jealousy can drive your crush away. Believe me, if your crush ever finds out for you’ve been spying on them, they’ll run away in no time. 

11. Continuate a perseguire la relazione, anche se vi hanno rifiutato molte volte.

Rejection is never going to feel good, no matter the reason. It’s especially hard if you think that you’ve finally found your anima gemella e they’ve rejected you. 

However, you have to learn when to stop trying and pursuing the relationship. If a person has turned you down several times, then you have to come to terms with the fact they don’t like you and you can do nothing about it. 

The more you pursue it, the more they’ll get bored by your persistence. You have to know that some people aren’t meant to be in your life. You have to know when it’s the right time to quit trying. 

Sometimes you’re afraid that you’ll lose the person you like so much. You’ve tried hard to seduce them and you think that it’s the only way to win them over.

La verità è che un'entrata in scena troppo forte e troppo veloce è sempre una rompiscatole.

Come si può notare, ci sono molte ovvietà bandiere rosse che non dovreste mai ignorare quando cercate di sedurre qualcuno. 

Se vi mostrate troppo forti mentre flirtate con qualcuno, questo vi si ritorcerà contro e allontanerà la vostra cotta.