Não podes forçar-te a deixar de te preocupares, mas podes dizer a ti próprio que mereces melhor

Diz-se que as pessoas sábias conhecem o segredo de uma vida feliz: são capazes de controlar as suas emoções.

They don’t always blindly follow their heart’s desires, nor do they listen to it when they know it’s wrong.

According to this, you’re anything but wise.

In fact, you’re the world’s biggest fool because you’ve never managed to master the art of going against your feelings.

In fact, for as long as you can remember, you’ve thought that love is the most important thing in the whole wide world.

Considera-a como uma força omnipotente que está sempre em primeiro lugar, antes de tudo, incluindo a tua razão.

Para si, o orgulho e o ego não existem quando se trata de amor verdadeiro.

Once you start caring for someone, you go all in, without considering the possible consequences of your actions and without wondering if you’re doing the right thing.

Quando se coloca numa balança o cérebro e o coração, este último ganha sempre, sem qualquer concorrência.

That is something you simply can’t change about yourself, as much as you try.

And God knows you’ve given your best.

As tuas emoções já te conduziram ao inferno mais do que uma vez e, basicamente, não te trouxeram nada de bom.

Por isso, em primeiro lugar, esforçou-se por reprimi-los.

Tentou levantar a guarda, manter toda a gente a uma distância segura e desligar todos os seus sentimentos.

Na verdade, estava convencido de que a única maneira de proteger o seu coração from being broken again was to pretend that you don’t have one.

When that didn’t work, you proceeded to accept your feelings, rationalize them and try to have the strength to overcome them.

Nevertheless, you’ve never succeeded.

Yes, you play the role of this tough girl who can’t be moved but the truth is quite different.

You’ve never succeeded in emotionally walking away from someone you love, even if it was something you should have done.

You’ve never managed to give your brain the chance to take over the steering wheel of your life.

However, I’m not here to tell you that this is something you must do, in order to be happy.

I’m not here to force you into making any moves you’re clearly not ready for.

In fact, I’m here to tell you I get you.

I completely understand that you can’t work against yourself, as much as you want to.

Yes, you’re a mulher forte que consegue vencer qualquer obstáculo que apareça no seu caminho.

No entanto, quando tentamos lutar com o nosso próprio coração, acabamos sempre por perder.

So no, don’t force yourself to stop caring because that is impossible and your efforts will be in vain.

Work on kicking this man who doesn’t deserve you out of your heart, but don’t expect him to be wiped out of it overnight.

You see, there is no way that you’ll stop loving him the moment you order yourself to do so.

You won’t forget all about him the moment you decide to close this chapter of your life.

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you should accept your fate.

It doesn’t mean that you should start thinking that you deserve this kind of treatment and that you should spend the rest of your life settling for less just because you’re afraid to make some changes.

Instead, tell yourself that you’re entitled to much better.

Be realistic about the situation you’re in and face the truth: that you’re currently too weak to deixar de se preocupar sobre este homem, mas que não é assim que quer que a sua vida seja no futuro.

Be honest enough to admit that he doesn’t treat you right, that he doesn’t give you what you need and ultimately, that he doesn’t love you the way he should and the way you love him.

Stop deceiving yourself by thinking that this is the furthest you can go and that he is the best man who’ll ever lay his eyes on you.