Non si può costringere se stessi a smettere di preoccuparsi, ma si può dire a se stessi che si merita di meglio

Si dice che le persone sagge conoscano il segreto di una vita felice: sono in grado di controllare le proprie emozioni.

They don’t always blindly follow their heart’s desires, nor do they listen to it when they know it’s wrong.

According to this, you’re anything but wise.

In fact, you’re the world’s biggest fool because you’ve never managed to master the art of going against your feelings.

In fact, for as long as you can remember, you’ve thought that love is the most important thing in the whole wide world.

La considerate una forza onnipotente che viene sempre prima di tutto, anche della vostra ragione.

Per voi non esistono orgoglio o ego quando si tratta di vero amore.

Once you start caring for someone, you go all in, without considering the possible consequences of your actions and without wondering if you’re doing the right thing.

Quando si mettono sulla bilancia il cervello e il cuore, quest'ultimo vince sempre, senza alcuna competizione.

That is something you simply can’t change about yourself, as much as you try.

And God knows you’ve given your best.

Le vostre emozioni vi hanno portato più di una volta dritti all'inferno e, fondamentalmente, non vi hanno portato nulla di buono.

Quindi, in primo luogo, avete cercato di reprimerli con forza.

Avete cercato di alzare la guardia, di tenere tutti a distanza di sicurezza e di spegnere tutti i vostri sentimenti.

In realtà, eravate convinti che l'unico modo di proteggere il cuore from being broken again was to pretend that you don’t have one.

When that didn’t work, you proceeded to accept your feelings, rationalize them and try to have the strength to overcome them.

Nevertheless, you’ve never succeeded.

Yes, you play the role of this tough girl who can’t be moved but the truth is quite different.

You’ve never succeeded in emotionally walking away from someone you love, even if it was something you should have done.

You’ve never managed to give your brain the chance to take over the steering wheel of your life.

However, I’m not here to tell you that this is something you must do, in order to be happy.

I’m not here to force you into making any moves you’re clearly not ready for.

In fact, I’m here to tell you I get you.

I completely understand that you can’t work against yourself, as much as you want to.

Yes, you’re a donna forte che può sconfiggere qualsiasi ostacolo si presenti sulla sua strada.

Tuttavia, quando si cerca di combattere con il proprio cuore, in qualche modo si finisce sempre per perdere.

So no, don’t force yourself to stop caring because that is impossible and your efforts will be in vain.

Work on kicking this man who doesn’t deserve you out of your heart, but don’t expect him to be wiped out of it overnight.

You see, there is no way that you’ll stop loving him the moment you order yourself to do so.

You won’t forget all about him the moment you decide to close this chapter of your life.

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you should accept your fate.

It doesn’t mean that you should start thinking that you deserve this kind of treatment and that you should spend the rest of your life settling for less just because you’re afraid to make some changes.

Instead, tell yourself that you’re entitled to much better.

Be realistic about the situation you’re in and face the truth: that you’re currently too weak to smettere di preoccuparsi di quest'uomo, ma che non è così che volete che sia la vostra vita in futuro.

Be honest enough to admit that he doesn’t treat you right, that he doesn’t give you what you need and ultimately, that he doesn’t love you the way he should and the way you love him.

Stop deceiving yourself by thinking that this is the furthest you can go and that he is the best man who’ll ever lay his eyes on you.

Smettete di accettare questa relazione tossica come una soluzione permanente e vedetela come qualcosa di temporaneo, che durerà finché non diventerete un po' più forti.

Most importantly – stop devaluing yourself by thinking that you can’t do any better.

Because you can – and that better will come along when you least expect it.