Depois de demasiadas relações más, aprendi que nenhum homem vale a minha sanidade

Eu costumava pensar que relações tóxicas são apenas relações apaixonadas.

Back then I didn’t know what a toxic relationship was, but I assumed that obsession, worry, fights, and over-the-top expressions of love are what make a passionate relationship.

Enganei-me redondamente. Não só estava enganado como me custou o meu tempo, a minha saúde e tudo o mais que investi nessas relações.

In some of them, I even questioned my sanity. After being blamed for things I didn’t do, criticized for my choices, and lied to regularly, it’s safe to say I started feeling like I was going crazy.

Felizmente, decidi fazer uma paragem completa.

Quando me apercebi de como me estava a tratar mal, decidi mudar as coisas.

Nenhum homem vale a minha sanidade.

Isto fez-me decidir escrever a minha própria lista de coisas que vou praticar na minha vida a partir de agora:

Desfrutarei plenamente da vida.

Life’s too short for unnecessary drama. I want to enjoy the beautiful things in life.

A bad relationship consumes your life. You don’t see anything else besides your partner and your relationship. The rest of the world ceases to exist and that’s just sad because life is beautiful.

That’s exactly why I remind myself to focus on all the good things in my life.

Vou manter-me livre de dramas.

Sometimes I just can’t believe that some random guy clouded my vision so much. The whole drama I was involved in seems so stupid right now.

I lost so much of my energy trying to fix what couldn’t be fixed, I’ve had enough.

I won’t try to help people who don’t want to be helped.

The truth is you can’t change anyone who doesn’t want the same. The only thing that will do is drive tu louco.

Don’t stress over things you can’t control. That includes other people.

If someone genuinely wants to be with you, they won’t play games. They’ll be straight to the point.

I won’t tolerate someone else’s immaturity.

Conhece aquela situação em que ele faz coisas de propósito para a fazer perder a calma ou simplesmente a desrespeita descaradamente?

I can’t even recall how many times I was left hanging while he went around having fun and acting like nothing happened.

O que me leva à minha próxima decisão:

I won’t let anyone make me feel crazy again.

If you’re still not aware of this, hear me out. It’s not normal to constantly fight with someone. It’s not passion – it’s just stupid and hurtful. That’s not a healthy relationship.

It’s not normal to tolerate things you wouldn’t tolerate from your friends.

Oh, and friends! They’ve heard so much of my BS instead of just enjoying my company and having a good time, that’s why I’ve decided:

Vou estimar os meus amigos e desfrutar plenamente da nossa relação.

Men come and go, but true friends are for life. Until you’re sure that you’ve met the one, make sure to care for your friends who’ve been there for you through the tough times.

I won’t lose my energy on unimportant things.

Preocupar-me e stressar com a relação custou-me muito. Causou estragos na minha saúde mental e tive de percorrer um longo caminho para me curar.

I lost so much energy on unnecessary drama and feelings of anger and hurt when I could’ve just removed myself from the whole situation.

Foram as más relações que me causaram tanto sofrimento, mas acabaram por me fazer apreciar mais as coisas boas da vida.

What’s important is to always keep moving forward and not lose hope that better things are coming.

Aprendemos cometendo erros. E com a aprendizagem, crescemos.