5 homens revelam as pequenas coisas que as raparigas fazem para os afastar

Quando penso nisso, não aprendi muito sobre os homens com os meus namorados. Um homem com quem andamos nunca será completamente honesto connosco.

I’m not saying that he’ll go behind your back or deceive you, but he certainly won’t tell you things that could start a fight.

That’s exactly why todas as raparigas deviam ter um melhor amigo homem. He’s the one who will show you the world from a whole different perspective.

But what if you don’t have guy friends? Well, luckily, you have me.

No outro dia, estava a tomar uma chávena de café com alguns dos meus amigos. E perguntei-lhes quais são as pequenas coisas que as raparigas fazem para os afastar, sem sequer terem consciência disso.

Eis o que me disseram:

Ser uma rainha do drama

The number one thing that will make most guys run for their lives is you making a fuss over everything. Of course, you’re allowed to complain about the things bothering you in a relationship.

Nevertheless, you’re both grownups. So, I’m sure you can find a way to sort things out differently.

You won’t achieve anything if you blow things out of proportion and turn every little dispute into a disaster.

Trust me: guys don’t find this behavior charming. Instead, they see you as a spoiled attention-whore.

Remember: not everything will go your way. Whether you like it or not, if you want to keep a man around, you’ll have to deal with it and act accordingly.

Sufocante

Just because you’re this man’s GF doesn’t mean that you’ve suddenly become the only person in his life.

I know that you’re head over heels for your boyfriend, and you probably want to spend every second of your day with him, but smothering him is not the way to keep him around.

Pelo contrário, todos os homens lhe dirão que sufocar só o vai afastar de uma mulher, por muito que goste dela.

É que os homens são muito diferentes das mulheres. A o gajo pode estar louco por timas ele precisa de espaço e tempo para si próprio.

The last thing he wants is to feel tied down. The moment he notices that you’re trying to ensnare him, he’ll see your behavior as a threat, and he’ll run for his life.

So, if you want to make any man yours, just let him be. Don’t be too possessive, and he’ll come to you of his own accord.

Esperar que ele seja um leitor de mentes

As much as we would all like them to be, the truth is that men are not mind-readers. No guy can guess what’s going on in your head, nor can he be familiar with your feelings without you saying a word.

Todos eles detestam quando se espera que sejam uma espécie de mágicos.

Afasta-os quando uma rapariga apresenta padrões de comportamento passivo-agressivo e quando lhes dá o tratamento do silêncio sem mais nem menos.

É preciso compreender que a maioria dos homens é menos perceptiva do que as mulheres. Raramente têm a capacidade de ler nas entrelinhas.

Por isso, se quer que o seu namorado a compreenda, verbalize os seus pensamentos, sentimentos e atitudes. Seja muito clara sobre os seus padrões e precisa sobre as suas expectativas, se quiser que elas sejam cumpridas.

Partilhar os segredos da sua relação com a sua melhor amiga

The next thing on the list of things most guys consider a huge turn off is not respecting his privacy. I’m not talking about snooping around your boyfriend’s phone here (even though this is also a big no).

Em vez disso, I’m referring to when you share your relationship secrets with your BFF. I know this is your friend, but she is not his person of trust, so this is something every man will hold against you.

Look, there is nothing wrong with talking about your relationship. After all, it’s perfectly normal that you value your best friend’s opinion and that sometimes, you’ll be in need of her advice.

Nevertheless, no guy likes knowing that his girlfriend’s BFF is familiar with all the personal details of his romantic relationship. He won’t be comfortable knowing that this girl is familiar with his bedroom activities, financial records, and deepest emotions.

Procura de validação constante

I hate to break it to you, but most guys don’t consider overly insecure girls attractive.

You can look like a top model and be the smartest woman in the world, but if you don’t have high self-esteem, nobody will even notice you.

Quando se apercebem de que a sua auto-confiança está prestes a ser destruída, as raparigas começam normalmente a pedir a validação constante do namorado.

“Am I pretty enough? Am I interesting to be around? Am I girlfriend material? What would you do if I died – would you get married again, or would you remain single forever?”

Even though this list sounds immature and unnecessary when you read it all together, this is just the tip of the iceberg. It’s a sign that you don’t see your worth, and before you know it, your BF will follow your lead