5 hombres revelan las pequeñas cosas que hacen las chicas para alejarlos de ellos

Cuando me pongo a pensarlo, no aprendí mucho sobre los hombres de mis novios. Un chico con el que sales nunca será completamente honesto contigo.

I’m not saying that he’ll go behind your back or deceive you, but he certainly won’t tell you things that could start a fight.

That’s exactly why toda chica debería tener un mejor amigo varón. He’s the one who will show you the world from a whole different perspective.

But what if you don’t have guy friends? Well, luckily, you have me.

El otro día estaba tomando un café con unos colegas. Y les pregunté cuáles son las pequeñas cosas que hacen las chicas para alejarlos, sin ni siquiera ser conscientes de ello.

Esto es lo que me dijeron:

Ser una reina del drama

The number one thing that will make most guys run for their lives is you making a fuss over everything. Of course, you’re allowed to complain about the things bothering you in a relationship.

Nevertheless, you’re both grownups. So, I’m sure you can find a way to sort things out differently.

You won’t achieve anything if you blow things out of proportion and turn every little dispute into a disaster.

Trust me: guys don’t find this behavior charming. Instead, they see you as a spoiled attention-whore.

Remember: not everything will go your way. Whether you like it or not, if you want to keep a man around, you’ll have to deal with it and act accordingly.

Asfixiante

Just because you’re this man’s GF doesn’t mean that you’ve suddenly become the only person in his life.

I know that you’re head over heels for your boyfriend, and you probably want to spend every second of your day with him, but smothering him is not the way to keep him around.

Por el contrario, todos los hombres le dirán que la asfixia sólo le alejará de una mujer, por mucho que le guste.

Verás, los hombres son muy diferentes a las mujeres. A el chico podría estar loco por ti...pero sigue necesitando algo de espacio personal y tiempo a solas.

The last thing he wants is to feel tied down. The moment he notices that you’re trying to ensnare him, he’ll see your behavior as a threat, and he’ll run for his life.

So, if you want to make any man yours, just let him be. Don’t be too possessive, and he’ll come to you of his own accord.

Esperando que sea un lector de mentes

As much as we would all like them to be, the truth is that men are not mind-readers. No guy can guess what’s going on in your head, nor can he be familiar with your feelings without you saying a word.

Todos odian que se espere de ellos que sean una especie de magos.

Los aleja cuando una chica muestra patrones de comportamiento pasivo-agresivos y cuando les da la callada por respuesta.

Tienes que entender que la mayoría de los hombres son menos perceptivos que las mujeres. Rara vez tienen la capacidad de leer entre líneas.

Así que, si quieres que tu BF te entienda, verbaliza tus pensamientos, sentimientos y actitudes. Sé muy clara con tus normas y precisa con tus expectativas si quieres que se cumplan.

Compartir tus secretos de pareja con tu mejor amiga

The next thing on the list of things most guys consider a huge turn off is not respecting his privacy. I’m not talking about snooping around your boyfriend’s phone here (even though this is also a big no).

En su lugar, I’m referring to when you share your relationship secrets with your BFF. I know this is your friend, but she is not his person of trust, so this is something every man will hold against you.

Look, there is nothing wrong with talking about your relationship. After all, it’s perfectly normal that you value your best friend’s opinion and that sometimes, you’ll be in need of her advice.

Nevertheless, no guy likes knowing that his girlfriend’s BFF is familiar with all the personal details of his romantic relationship. He won’t be comfortable knowing that this girl is familiar with his bedroom activities, financial records, and deepest emotions.

Búsqueda constante de validación

I hate to break it to you, but most guys don’t consider overly insecure girls attractive.

You can look like a top model and be the smartest woman in the world, but if you don’t have high self-esteem, nobody will even notice you.

Cuando notan que su autoestima está a punto de ser destruida, las chicas suelen empezar a pedir la validación constante de su novio.

“Am I pretty enough? Am I interesting to be around? Am I girlfriend material? What would you do if I died – would you get married again, or would you remain single forever?”

Even though this list sounds immature and unnecessary when you read it all together, this is just the tip of the iceberg. It’s a sign that you don’t see your worth, and before you know it, your BF will follow your lead