Como falar com um rapaz de quem gostas e fazer com que ele te persiga

Wondering how to talk to a guy you like and capture his attention? Worry no more because today you’ll learn how to talk to him in a way that will faça-o perseguir-te.

“Appearance is what attracts people, but personality is what makes them stay.” – Unknown

Sim, a aparência é importante, mas saber como falar com um rapaz é a sua ferramenta mais poderosa para o atrair.

You could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if you don’t know how to get a guy’s attention and keep a conversation going, your romance will be doomed before it even starts.

I used to have a hard time implementing this one into my love life, but once I did, everything changed. I’m no longer that girl sitting in the corner who seldom gets any attention from guys. They now stick to me like glue.

If you want to be that girl too, it’s time to step up your game and learn how to talk to men and make them do what you want them to do.

It’s time to show them what a beautiful and inspiring girl you are inside and out, and here’s how you’ll do it.

Ser positivo e sorrir

Se quiser aprender como ser irresistível para os homens e como conseguir que um homem fale contigo, tenho uma palavra para ti: sorrir.

Every guy is a sucker for a girl’s smile and positive attitude. Instead of worrying about conversation starters, the most important thing is to ooze positive vibes.

A great conversation is all about that. It’s about sharing your inspiring energy with the guy you like and inspiring him to reciprocate and make an effort to make you smile more.

Eu sei que todas aquelas borboletas no estômago podem distraí-la, por isso respire fundo algumas vezes antes de iniciar uma conversa com ele. Relaxe e vá com a corrente.

Elogiá-lo

If there’s one thing that works in all social situations, it is compliments. Society teaches us that only girls love to be complimented, but this is not true.

Os rapazes também gostam de ouvir algo de bom sobre eles próprios. Gostam de ser elogiados pela sua aparência, personalidade e capacidades (ESPECIALMENTE capacidades).

If your guy does something for you (helps you lift something heavy), don’t forget to commend his strength. Trust me, he will feel like the most powerful guy in the world just because of that simple gesture.

Aqui estão algumas ideias sobre como elogiar um rapaz pela sua personalidade:

You’re such a great listener.

Tem uma personalidade tão carinhosa.

I’m impressed by your taste in music.

Para além de elogiar um rapaz, fazer perguntas é também um aspeto importante da conversa. Certifique-se de que faz perguntas significativas e abertas que o ajudarão a manter a conversa.

Tocar-lhe (subtilmente)

Surely, your smile will knock him off his feet, but do you know what also will? Your subtle touch. Yes, men love to be unexpectedly touched by a woman during a conversation – it sparks their imagination.

Começam a imaginar como se sentiriam se os seus toques evasivos se transformassem em algo mais direto. Além disso, ajudam-na a estabelecer uma ligação com um homem.

You see, having a conversation is not so much about saying the right words. It’s all about your body language and gestures.

São estas coisas que o influenciam a um nível subconsciente e que lhe dizem o que as suas palavras não conseguem dizer.

Procurar proteção

Oh, yes! In case you didn’t know, guys love girls who seek protection. By this, I don’t mean seeking protection in a desperate way, but elegantly playing damsel in distress.

This will rekindle his primal instinct to protect you. If there is a guy you’re into, ask him to defend or shelter you from some danger.

Há muitas formas de pedir a sua ajuda e proteção e ele terá todo o prazer em fazê-lo por si.

Se conseguir evocar a sua masculinidade e fazer com que ele se sinta especial ao ajudá-la, irá certamente conquistar também o seu coração.

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Ser misterioso

Mystery. One of the greatest things since sliced bread. If you know how to be mysterious, girl, you’ll make him not only like you, but he will fall in love with you.

Guys don’t like girls who tell them everything about themselves on the first date. Don’t be one of those girls. Instead, be one who gives it to him bit by bit and never the whole piece.

Don’t quench his thirst and he’ll want to drink more!

When texting, don’t reply the same second. Let him think that you’re busy doing something important or texting with another guy. Make him compete for your attention and wonder what’s happening in your life.

Think of yourself as a box of chocolate. If you let him eat the whole box at once, he’ll be over it real quick, but if you surprise him from time to time with something new, he will keep coming back for more.

É um dos mesmos atractivos truques que as mulheres usam para que os homens sintam a sua falta.

Impressione-o com o seu sentido de humor

Muitas vezes esquecemo-nos que os homens também gostam de rir. De certa forma, espera-se que sejam sempre os homens a fazer rir as raparigas, de tal forma que as mulheres desistiram de usar o seu próprio sentido de humor.

And now it’s time to change that. You don’t need to be a comedian to fazer um gajo rir.

Pode contar-lhe algo engraçado que lhe tenha acontecido recentemente ou uma recordação de infância, enviar-lhe um meme engraçado, contar uma piada, etc.

But, make sure to avoid becoming a girl who tries too hard to make him laugh all the time. Remember that it’s his job too (and he better be doing it well!)

Ser sedutor

Uma linguagem corporal sedutora e a escolha correcta das palavras são verdadeiras jóias. Para aprender a ser sedutora, tem de pensar na sua conversa com um rapaz como um jogo.

Combine um tom de voz rouco, um toque subtil quando ele menos espera, provocando-o com as suas palavras e fazendo-o lutar muito para ganhar a sua atenção.

Be flirty with every fiber of your being and he will ENJOY it. This is what adds excitement and fun to the whole conversation. So, the more you act coy, the more he’ll fall for you.

Iniciar a conversa com interesses comuns

If there’s one thing I’ve learned when it comes to mastering the art of como falar com um rapaz, it’s to find a common ground.

You can’t expect a guy to talk to you about latest fashion shows, makeup, or similar. The best bet is to pick some gender-neutral topics like music, TV shows, or video games.

Topics to talk about with a guy should be interesting, entertaining, and engaging. Also, the more shared interests you have, the easier you’ll connect with each other.

Don’t be afraid to contradict him

Wondering how to keep a guy interested? Here’s a solution: If you really want to win his attention, you need to show him that you have an opinion and aren’t afraid to contradict him.

That’s the essence of every interesting conversation. Because good conversation isn’t only about nodding and exchanging words. It’s about having your own opinions and passionately expressing yourself.

Inevitably there’ll be something you won’t agree with him on. This doesn’t mean you should pretend that you do even when you don’t.

Instead, use this situation to playfully contradict him and give him a new perspective on things. Trust me, unless he has mental health issues, he’ll be more than amazed by it!

Ser educado e confiante

Make sure to be polite toward everyone around you and not only a guy you’re talking to. He’ll notice all that. Also, be confident!

Um dos meus melhores amigos disse um dia: Se uma rapariga for confiante, pode conquistar qualquer homem num segundo.

You show your confidence with the way you walk, talk, and smile – in other words, not only your words, but also your body language.

And if you’re not feeling extra confident because you’re usually anxious when it comes to talking to guys, then fake it till you make it! I myself faked it many times and every single time it worked.

Show him that you’re a woman who is confident in herself, who knows what she wants and how to get it. That’s the true recipe to winning any man’s heart.

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Don’t gossip or use foul language

I think there’s no need to explain this one. Gossiping and foul language are a huge turn-off for guys because such behavior is neither feminine or sophisticated.

Seja você mesmo

And remember to be yourself! Mass media often forces us to behave in certain ways and we start detaching from our true self. Don’t let that happen.

Be yourself in real life and on social media as well. Don’t pretend you’re something you’re not because you’ll turn him into a confused man.

Don’t live a fake life. Be unique and every guy will love that part of you more than anything else.

And here’s a simple trick I’ve used with great success when I’m overly anxious about talking to a guy for the first time: Pretend that he’s a family member or o teu amigo.

It makes it that much easier when it comes to talking to a guy you don’t know (yet), both in person and over text.

Faça-o trabalhar arduamente para a conquistar

Como falar com um rapaz de quem gostamos de uma forma que o impressione? Bem, basicamente tudo o que precisa de fazer é obrigá-lo a esforçar-se para a conquistar.

Don’t be too available. Maintain mystery, but don’t overdo a game of playing hard to get either. The secret lies in finding a balance between the two.

Make him work hard to win you and he will make an effort to show you that he’s the right man for you.

If a man sees you as a challenge, he will do everything in his power to pursue you and show you that he’s the one who deserves to be with you.

E no caso de as coisas se tornarem marotas, aqui ficam algumas dicas extra.

Como falar mal de um homem sem se envergonhar

Diz-lhe todas as coisas que queres que ele te faça

A conversa porca é uma verdadeira forma de arte em si mesma. Se quer impressionar o seu homem com a sua perícia, tem de lhe dizer tudo o que quer que ele lhe faça.

I know you have that imaginary list of kinky questions to ask your partner, so now’s the time to use it.

As you’re telling him all your fantasies, make sure to establish deep eye contact – that screams confidence. You want him to see that you’re serious about it, that you really mean it.

Pode dizer-se algo como: “I want you to start kissing me slowly all over my body…”

Dizer-lhe o que lhe queres fazer

Another great way to spice things up is by telling your guy what you want to do to him. This will drive him insane and he won’t be able to control himself (especially if you whisper it to his ear when you’re in public).

Also, you can choose to be naughty over text messages as well. If you’re wondering how to do it over the phone, here are some examples to get you started:

“When you get here, I’m going to slowly undress… but there’ll be one rule you need to obey: You can’t touch me until I tell you.”

“Tonight you’ll be my slave and I plan on doing terribly naughty things to you.”

“I want you to take your clothes off, lie down, and shut up.”

“You’re so hot. I want to taste all of you right now.”

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Conta-lhe o sonho maroto que tiveste

I’m sure you had a couple of naughty dreams so far and now is the right time to share them with your guy. And even if you haven’t had one, you have every right to pretend you did.

Pode iniciar a conversa com algo do género: “I had the dirtiest dream last night… You were there with me and we were…”

Quando começar a falar sobre isso, ele vai olhar para si como uma deusa. Os homens adoram histórias porcas, especialmente se tiverem o papel principal nelas. Quanto mais pormenores lhe der, melhor.

Lembre-se de mencionar a roupa sexy que estava a usar no seu sonho, porque os homens são criaturas visuais.

Quando o seu homem tiver uma imagem vívida do seu sonho, ficará mais do que entusiasmado com o que vai acontecer a seguir, mas desta vez na realidade.

Partilhe as suas fantasias secretas com ele

Muitas vezes, as pessoas têm dificuldade em partilhar as suas fantasias com os outros porque têm medo de ser julgadas por isso.

But, trust me, there’s nothing you should be ashamed of, no matter how crazy you think your fantasies are.

Get out of your comfort zone and get naughty with your man (verbally naughty) by sharing all your secret fantasies with him. Okay, you don’t need to share all of them, but perhaps only your favorite.

Aqui estão algumas fantasias comuns para ajudar a ativar a sua memória:

Poder e controlo

Fazer algo perverso

Fazer algo novo (posições e locais selvagens)

Não-monogamia

Sharing your fantasies is a great way to spice up things in the bedroom and your relationship. Since it’s not something easily shared with others, when it is, it has the power to strengthen your trust bond.

Mostre-lhe que quer ter o controlo

If you ask any guy out there, he will tell you that there’s nothing hotter than a girl who is in control. In order to be dominant, you need to be self-confident and know what you’re doing.

If you let him know that you’re capable of all that, he will be smitten by you. All you have to do is establish rules so that he knows what he can and cannot do to you.

Pode dizer-se algo como: “Tonight I’m in charge. If you try to do something you’re not supposed to, I’ll have to punish you.”

E lembrem-se de aproveitar!

Em vez de se preocupar demasiado com a forma de falar com um rapaz de quem gosta, deve concentrar-se em aproveitar o momento. Descontraia-se e seja você mesma e, acredite, tudo correrá bem.

Regarding dirty talk, you don’t need to force things if you don’t feel ready for it. You can start with some, let’s say, lighter dirty phrases and then switch to the heavy stuff.

O que importa é que ambos gostem do tempo que passam juntos e tudo o resto se encaixará! Boa sorte e força, rapariga!