Come parlare con un ragazzo che ti piace e far sì che ti insegua

Wondering how to talk to a guy you like and capture his attention? Worry no more because today you’ll learn how to talk to him in a way that will far sì che vi insegua.

“Appearance is what attracts people, but personality is what makes them stay.” – Unknown

Sì, l'aspetto conta, ma sapere come parlare a un ragazzo è il vostro strumento più potente quando si tratta di attrarlo.

You could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if you don’t know how to get a guy’s attention and keep a conversation going, your romance will be doomed before it even starts.

I used to have a hard time implementing this one into my love life, but once I did, everything changed. I’m no longer that girl sitting in the corner who seldom gets any attention from guys. They now stick to me like glue.

If you want to be that girl too, it’s time to step up your game and learn how to talk to men and make them do what you want them to do.

It’s time to show them what a beautiful and inspiring girl you are inside and out, and here’s how you’ll do it.

Siate positivi e sorridete

Se volete imparare come essere irresistibili per gli uomini e come convincere un ragazzo a parlare con te, ho una parola per te: sorriso.

Every guy is a sucker for a girl’s smile and positive attitude. Instead of worrying about conversation starters, the most important thing is to ooze positive vibes.

A great conversation is all about that. It’s about sharing your inspiring energy with the guy you like and inspiring him to reciprocate and make an effort to make you smile more.

So che tutte quelle farfalle nello stomaco possono distrarre, quindi fate qualche respiro profondo prima di iniziare una conversazione con lui. Rilassatevi e seguite il flusso.

Complimentarsi con lui

If there’s one thing that works in all social situations, it is compliments. Society teaches us that only girls love to be complimented, but this is not true.

Anche i ragazzi amano sentirsi dire qualcosa di bello su di sé. Amano ricevere complimenti per il loro aspetto, la loro personalità e le loro capacità (SPECIALMENTE le capacità).

If your guy does something for you (helps you lift something heavy), don’t forget to commend his strength. Trust me, he will feel like the most powerful guy in the world just because of that simple gesture.

Ecco alcune idee su come fare i complimenti a un ragazzo per la sua personalità:

You’re such a great listener.

Lei ha una personalità così premurosa.

I’m impressed by your taste in music.

Oltre ai complimenti, anche fare domande è un aspetto importante della conversazione. Assicuratevi di attenersi a domande significative e aperte, che vi aiuteranno a mantenere viva la conversazione.

Toccarlo (sottilmente)

Surely, your smile will knock him off his feet, but do you know what also will? Your subtle touch. Yes, men love to be unexpectedly touched by a woman during a conversation – it sparks their imagination.

Cominciano a immaginare come ci si sentirebbe se i vostri tocchi sfuggenti si trasformassero in qualcosa di più diretto. Inoltre, vi aiutano a entrare in sintonia con un ragazzo.

You see, having a conversation is not so much about saying the right words. It’s all about your body language and gestures.

Sono queste le cose che lo influenzano a livello subconscio e che gli dicono ciò che le vostre parole non possono dire.

Cercare protezione

Oh, yes! In case you didn’t know, guys love girls who seek protection. By this, I don’t mean seeking protection in a desperate way, but elegantly playing damsel in distress.

This will rekindle his primal instinct to protect you. If there is a guy you’re into, ask him to defend or shelter you from some danger.

Ci sono tanti modi in cui potete chiedere il suo aiuto e la sua protezione ed egli sarà più che felice di farlo per voi.

Se riuscite a evocare la sua mascolinità e a farlo sentire speciale aiutandolo, sicuramente conquisterete anche il suo cuore.

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Essere misteriosi

Mystery. One of the greatest things since sliced bread. If you know how to be mysterious, girl, you’ll make him not only like you, but he will fall in love with you.

Guys don’t like girls who tell them everything about themselves on the first date. Don’t be one of those girls. Instead, be one who gives it to him bit by bit and never the whole piece.

Don’t quench his thirst and he’ll want to drink more!

When texting, don’t reply the same second. Let him think that you’re busy doing something important or texting with another guy. Make him compete for your attention and wonder what’s happening in your life.

Think of yourself as a box of chocolate. If you let him eat the whole box at once, he’ll be over it real quick, but if you surprise him from time to time with something new, he will keep coming back for more.

È una delle stesse attraenti I trucchi che le donne usano per far sentire la loro mancanza agli uomini.

Impressionatelo con il vostro senso dell'umorismo

Spesso dimentichiamo che anche gli uomini amano ridere. In qualche modo ci si aspetta che siano sempre gli uomini a far ridere le ragazze, tanto che le donne hanno rinunciato a usare il proprio senso dell'umorismo.

And now it’s time to change that. You don’t need to be a comedian to far ridere un ragazzo.

Potete raccontargli qualcosa di divertente che vi è successo di recente o un ricordo d'infanzia, inviargli un meme divertente, fare una battuta, ecc.

But, make sure to avoid becoming a girl who tries too hard to make him laugh all the time. Remember that it’s his job too (and he better be doing it well!)

Siate civettuoli

Un linguaggio del corpo civettuolo e la scelta corretta delle parole sono vere e proprie gemme. Per imparare a essere flirtante, devi pensare alla conversazione con un ragazzo come a un gioco.

Combinate un tono di voce roco, un tocco sottile quando meno se lo aspetta, stuzzicatelo con le parole e fatelo lottare duramente per ottenere la vostra attenzione.

Be flirty with every fiber of your being and he will ENJOY it. This is what adds excitement and fun to the whole conversation. So, the more you act coy, the more he’ll fall for you.

Avviare la conversazione con interessi comuni

If there’s one thing I’ve learned when it comes to mastering the art of come parlare a un ragazzo, it’s to find a common ground.

You can’t expect a guy to talk to you about latest fashion shows, makeup, or similar. The best bet is to pick some gender-neutral topics like music, TV shows, or video games.

Topics to talk about with a guy should be interesting, entertaining, and engaging. Also, the more shared interests you have, the easier you’ll connect with each other.

Don’t be afraid to contradict him

Wondering how to keep a guy interested? Here’s a solution: If you really want to win his attention, you need to show him that you have an opinion and aren’t afraid to contradict him.

That’s the essence of every interesting conversation. Because good conversation isn’t only about nodding and exchanging words. It’s about having your own opinions and passionately expressing yourself.

Inevitably there’ll be something you won’t agree with him on. This doesn’t mean you should pretend that you do even when you don’t.

Instead, use this situation to playfully contradict him and give him a new perspective on things. Trust me, unless he has mental health issues, he’ll be more than amazed by it!

Siate gentili e sicuri di voi stessi

Make sure to be polite toward everyone around you and not only a guy you’re talking to. He’ll notice all that. Also, be confident!

Uno dei miei migliori amici una volta ha detto: Se una ragazza è sicura di sé, può conquistare qualsiasi uomo in un secondo.

You show your confidence with the way you walk, talk, and smile – in other words, not only your words, but also your body language.

And if you’re not feeling extra confident because you’re usually anxious when it comes to talking to guys, then fake it till you make it! I myself faked it many times and every single time it worked.

Show him that you’re a woman who is confident in herself, who knows what she wants and how to get it. That’s the true recipe to winning any man’s heart.

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Don’t gossip or use foul language

I think there’s no need to explain this one. Gossiping and foul language are a huge turn-off for guys because such behavior is neither feminine or sophisticated.

Essere se stessi

And remember to be yourself! Mass media often forces us to behave in certain ways and we start detaching from our true self. Don’t let that happen.

Be yourself in real life and on social media as well. Don’t pretend you’re something you’re not because you’ll turn him into a confused man.

Don’t live a fake life. Be unique and every guy will love that part of you more than anything else.

And here’s a simple trick I’ve used with great success when I’m overly anxious about talking to a guy for the first time: Pretend that he’s a family member or il tuo amico maschio.

It makes it that much easier when it comes to talking to a guy you don’t know (yet), both in person and over text.

Fatelo lavorare duramente per conquistarvi

Come parlare a un ragazzo che vi piace in modo da impressionarlo? In pratica, tutto ciò che dovete fare è far sì che lui si impegni a fondo per conquistarvi.

Don’t be too available. Maintain mystery, but don’t overdo a game of playing hard to get either. The secret lies in finding a balance between the two.

Make him work hard to win you and he will make an effort to show you that he’s the right man for you.

If a man sees you as a challenge, he will do everything in his power to pursue you and show you that he’s the one who deserves to be with you.

E nel caso in cui le cose si facciano cattive, ecco qualche consiglio in più.

Come parlare sporco a un ragazzo senza mettersi in imbarazzo

Ditegli tutte le cose che volete che vi faccia.

Il turpiloquio è una vera e propria forma d'arte. Se volete impressionare il vostro uomo con la vostra abilità, dovete dirgli tutte le cose che volete che vi faccia.

I know you have that imaginary list of kinky questions to ask your partner, so now’s the time to use it.

As you’re telling him all your fantasies, make sure to establish deep eye contact – that screams confidence. You want him to see that you’re serious about it, that you really mean it.

Si potrebbe dire qualcosa come: “I want you to start kissing me slowly all over my body…”

Digli cosa vuoi fargli

Another great way to spice things up is by telling your guy what you want to do to him. This will drive him insane and he won’t be able to control himself (especially if you whisper it to his ear when you’re in public).

Also, you can choose to be naughty over text messages as well. If you’re wondering how to do it over the phone, here are some examples to get you started:

“When you get here, I’m going to slowly undress… but there’ll be one rule you need to obey: You can’t touch me until I tell you.”

“Tonight you’ll be my slave and I plan on doing terribly naughty things to you.”

“I want you to take your clothes off, lie down, and shut up.”

“You’re so hot. I want to taste all of you right now.”

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Raccontagli di quel sogno sconcio che hai fatto

I’m sure you had a couple of naughty dreams so far and now is the right time to share them with your guy. And even if you haven’t had one, you have every right to pretend you did.

Potete iniziare la conversazione con qualcosa di simile: “I had the dirtiest dream last night… You were there with me and we were…”

Quando inizierete a parlarne, vi guarderà come una dea. I ragazzi amano le storie sporche e soprattutto se hanno avuto il ruolo principale. Più dettagli gli fornite, meglio è.

Ricordate di menzionare il vestito sexy che indossavate nel sogno, perché gli uomini sono creature visive.

Una volta che il vostro uomo avrà un'immagine vivida del vostro sogno, sarà più che eccitato per quello che accadrà dopo, ma questa volta nella realtà.

Condividete con lui le vostre fantasie segrete

Molto spesso le persone hanno difficoltà a condividere le loro fantasie con gli altri perché hanno paura di essere giudicate per questo.

But, trust me, there’s nothing you should be ashamed of, no matter how crazy you think your fantasies are.

Get out of your comfort zone and get naughty with your man (verbally naughty) by sharing all your secret fantasies with him. Okay, you don’t need to share all of them, but perhaps only your favorite.

Ecco alcune fantasie comuni che vi aiuteranno a stimolare la memoria:

Potenza e controllo

Fare qualcosa di perverso

Fare qualcosa di nuovo (posizioni e luoghi selvaggi)

Non monogamia

Sharing your fantasies is a great way to spice up things in the bedroom and your relationship. Since it’s not something easily shared with others, when it is, it has the power to strengthen your trust bond.

Fategli capire che volete avere il controllo

If you ask any guy out there, he will tell you that there’s nothing hotter than a girl who is in control. In order to be dominant, you need to be self-confident and know what you’re doing.

If you let him know that you’re capable of all that, he will be smitten by you. All you have to do is establish rules so that he knows what he can and cannot do to you.

Si può dire qualcosa come: “Tonight I’m in charge. If you try to do something you’re not supposed to, I’ll have to punish you.”

E ricordate di divertirvi!

Invece di preoccuparvi eccessivamente di come parlare con un ragazzo che vi piace, quello su cui dovete concentrarvi è godervi il momento. Rilassatevi e siate voi stesse e, credetemi, tutto andrà per il meglio.

Regarding dirty talk, you don’t need to force things if you don’t feel ready for it. You can start with some, let’s say, lighter dirty phrases and then switch to the heavy stuff.

L'importante è che entrambi vi godiate il tempo trascorso insieme e tutto il resto andrà al suo posto! Buona fortuna e coraggio!